20 Questions

Fucked Up Questions to Ask Someone

Provocative and boundary-pushing questions designed to spark deep conversations, challenge assumptions, and reveal unexpected truths about people's thoughts and experiences.

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What's the most morally questionable thing you've ever done that you don't regret?

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Why this works

Challenges them to examine their moral compass and share experiences that reveal their values and decision-making process.

2

If you could commit one crime and get away with it, what would it be and why?

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Why this works

Reveals their hidden desires and what they might do if consequences weren't a factor, showing their true motivations.

3

What's the worst thing you've ever thought about doing to someone you love?

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Why this works

Explores the dark side of relationships and the complex emotions that exist even in close connections.

4

If you had to choose between saving your pet or a stranger's child, what would you do?

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Why this works

Forces them to examine their values and priorities in extreme situations, revealing their true loyalties.

5

What's the most fucked up thing you've ever witnessed that you couldn't stop?

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Why this works

Challenges them to share experiences that reveal their sense of powerlessness and moral boundaries.

6

If you could read minds for one day, whose mind would you invade and what would you look for?

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Why this works

Reveals their curiosity about others' secrets and what they find most intriguing or concerning about human nature.

7

What's the most disturbing thing you've ever found attractive?

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Why this works

Explores the complex relationship between attraction and morality, revealing their hidden desires and boundaries.

8

If you could erase one person from everyone's memory, who would it be and why?

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Why this works

Challenges them to consider the impact of their relationships and what they might want to change about their past.

9

What's the most fucked up thing you've ever done for money?

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Why this works

Reveals their relationship with money and what they're willing to do for financial gain or security.

10

If you could experience someone else's worst trauma, whose would you choose and why?

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Why this works

Explores their empathy and curiosity about others' suffering, revealing their understanding of pain and resilience.

11

What's the most morally reprehensible opinion you hold that you can't shake?

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Why this works

Challenges them to examine their beliefs and share thoughts they might be ashamed of or conflicted about.

12

If you could make one person suffer the way you've suffered, who would it be?

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Why this works

Reveals their capacity for revenge and how they process their own pain and trauma.

13

What's the most fucked up thing you've ever done to get someone's attention?

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Why this works

Explores their desperation for connection and what they're willing to do to be noticed or loved.

14

If you could experience one person's death, whose would you choose and why?

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Why this works

Challenges them to consider mortality and their relationships with death, revealing their fears and curiosities.

15

What's the most disturbing thing you've ever fantasized about?

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Why this works

Explores their hidden desires and fantasies, revealing aspects of their psyche they might not share openly.

16

If you could make one person's life a living hell, who would it be and how?

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Why this works

Reveals their capacity for cruelty and what they might do if they had unlimited power over someone.

17

What's the most fucked up thing you've ever done while drunk or high?

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Why this works

Explores their behavior under the influence and what they might do when their inhibitions are lowered.

18

If you could experience one person's worst fear, whose would you choose and why?

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Why this works

Challenges them to consider others' vulnerabilities and what they find most intriguing about human fear.

19

What's the most morally bankrupt thing you've ever done that you're proud of?

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Why this works

Explores their relationship with morality and what they consider acceptable behavior, even if others might disagree.

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If you could make one person disappear forever, who would it be and why?

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Why this works

Reveals their deepest resentments and what they might want to change about their relationships or circumstances.

Navigating Provocative Conversations

Expert tips and techniques for getting the most out of these questions.

Handling Fucked Up Questions

Know Your Audience

These questions are for people who are comfortable with provocative conversations and have established trust. Use with caution and respect boundaries.

Create Safe Space

Ensure the environment is non-judgmental and that everyone understands these are hypothetical or exploratory questions.

Respect Boundaries

If someone is uncomfortable, don't push. These questions are meant to challenge, not traumatize or offend.

Types of Provocative Questions

Moral dilemmas and ethical choices
Hidden desires and fantasies
Trauma and suffering
Revenge and power dynamics
Death and mortality
Relationships and loyalty
Money and desperation
Fear and vulnerability
Morality and judgment
Identity and self-discovery

Common Mistakes to Avoid

Don't Use These with Strangers

These questions require established trust and comfort. Don't spring them on people you don't know well.

Don't Judge Their Answers

The point is exploration, not judgment. If you ask these questions, be prepared to accept whatever answers you get.

Don't Push Too Hard

If someone is clearly uncomfortable, back off. These questions are meant to challenge, not to cause distress.

Question Frameworks

The Moral Explorer

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Step 1: Start with: 'What's the most morally questionable thing you've ever done?'
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Step 2: Follow with: 'Do you regret it?'
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Step 3: Deepen with: 'What does that say about your values?'

The Hypothetical Challenger

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Step 1: Begin with: 'If you could [extreme scenario]...'
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Step 2: Continue with: 'What would you do?'
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Step 3: Explore with: 'Why would you choose that?'

Further Reading

"The Book of Questions" by Gregory Stock
"Would You Rather" by Justin Heimberg
"The Moral Landscape" by Sam Harris

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