20 Questions

Fun Questions to Ask Dementia Patients

Engaging and meaningful questions designed to connect with dementia patients, spark memories, and create joyful moments together.

1

What's your favorite song and can you sing a little bit of it?

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Why this works

Music often remains accessible to people with dementia and can trigger positive memories and emotions.

2

What was your favorite thing to do when you were a child?

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Why this works

Childhood memories are often preserved longer and can bring joy and connection through shared experiences.

3

What's the best meal you ever had?

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Why this works

Food memories are strong and can spark pleasant recollections and conversation about favorite dishes.

4

What was your favorite holiday and why?

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Why this works

Holiday memories often contain strong emotional connections and can bring happiness and nostalgia.

5

What's something that always makes you smile?

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Why this works

Focusing on positive emotions can help maintain mood and create moments of joy and connection.

6

What was your favorite place to visit?

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Why this works

Travel memories can be vivid and sharing favorite places can create pleasant conversation and reminiscence.

7

What's your favorite color and why do you like it?

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Why this works

Simple preferences can be easy to answer and help maintain a sense of identity and personal choice.

8

What was your favorite job or what did you enjoy most about working?

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Why this works

Work memories can provide a sense of purpose and accomplishment, even if details are fuzzy.

9

What's something you're really good at?

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Why this works

Focusing on strengths and abilities can boost self-esteem and create positive interactions.

10

What was your favorite thing about being a parent (if applicable)?

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Why this works

Parenting memories often contain strong emotional connections and can bring joy and pride.

11

What's your favorite season and what do you like about it?

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Why this works

Seasonal preferences are simple to discuss and can trigger pleasant memories of weather and activities.

12

What was your favorite book or movie?

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Why this works

Entertainment preferences can spark conversation and may trigger memories of enjoyable experiences.

13

What's something you're grateful for today?

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Why this works

Gratitude can improve mood and create positive moments, even in challenging circumstances.

14

What was your favorite thing to do with your family?

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Why this works

Family memories often contain strong emotional connections and can bring comfort and joy.

15

What's something that always makes you laugh?

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Why this works

Humor can be therapeutic and focusing on laughter can create positive, joyful moments.

16

What was your favorite thing about your hometown?

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Why this works

Hometown memories can be vivid and sharing them can create connection and nostalgia.

17

What's your favorite animal and why?

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Why this works

Animal preferences are simple to discuss and can spark pleasant memories or create new conversation topics.

18

What was your favorite thing about school?

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Why this works

School memories often contain positive experiences and can trigger happy recollections.

19

What's something you're proud of?

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Why this works

Focusing on accomplishments can boost self-esteem and create positive interactions.

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What's your favorite thing about today?

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Why this works

Focusing on the present moment can help ground the person and create positive interactions.

Connecting with Dementia Patients

Expert tips and techniques for getting the most out of these questions.

Creating Meaningful Connections

Be Patient and Gentle

Allow plenty of time for responses and don't rush. Be gentle and understanding if they can't answer or seem confused.

Focus on Emotions, Not Facts

Don't correct factual errors. Focus on the emotions and feelings behind their responses rather than accuracy.

Use Non-Verbal Communication

Maintain eye contact, use facial expressions, and gentle touch to show you're listening and care.

Effective Communication Strategies

Memory Triggers

Use music, photos, or familiar objects
Ask about childhood and early life
Focus on positive, emotional memories
Share your own related experiences

Present Moment Focus

Ask about current feelings and preferences
Focus on simple, concrete topics
Use sensory experiences (sight, sound, touch)
Celebrate small moments and achievements

Emotional Connection

Focus on feelings rather than facts
Validate their emotions and experiences
Share laughter and joy together
Create positive, meaningful moments

Common Pitfalls to Avoid

Don't Correct or Argue

Avoid correcting factual errors or arguing about details. Focus on the emotional content and connection instead.

Avoid Complex Questions

Keep questions simple and straightforward. Avoid multi-part questions or complex topics that might be confusing.

Don't Rush or Pressure

Allow plenty of time for responses and don't pressure them to answer. Be patient and understanding.

Further Reading

"The 36-Hour Day" by Nancy Mace
"Creating Moments of Joy" by Jolene Brackey
"The Best Friends Approach to Alzheimer's Care" by Virginia Bell

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