20 Questions

Questions to Ask a Potential Doula

Essential questions to ask when interviewing a doula to ensure they're the right fit for your birth experience, values, and support needs.

1

What is your training and certification background?

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Why this works

Verifies their qualifications and ensures they have proper education in birth support.

2

How many births have you attended, and what types of births?

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Experience matters, especially with your specific birth plan (natural, medicated, C-section, etc.).

3

What is your philosophy about birth and pain management?

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Ensures their approach aligns with your values and birth preferences.

4

How do you work with medical staff and hospital policies?

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Shows they can advocate for you while maintaining professional relationships with healthcare providers.

5

What services do you provide during pregnancy, labor, and postpartum?

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Why this works

Clarifies the full scope of support and whether it matches your needs.

6

What is your backup plan if you can't attend my birth?

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Why this works

Ensures continuity of care even if your primary doula is unavailable.

7

How do you handle situations where medical intervention becomes necessary?

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Why this works

Reveals their approach to medical decisions and whether they support all birth choices.

8

What is your fee structure, and what does it include?

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Why this works

Provides complete cost transparency and ensures no surprise charges.

9

How do you support partners and family members during labor?

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Why this works

Shows they can work with your support team rather than replacing them.

10

What happens if I need to transfer to a different hospital or have a C-section?

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Why this works

Clarifies their role and availability during unexpected changes in birth plan.

11

Can you provide references from recent clients?

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Why this works

Allows you to hear firsthand experiences from families they've supported.

12

How do you handle disagreements with medical staff about my care?

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Why this works

Shows their advocacy style and whether they'll support your choices even when challenged.

13

What is your availability around my due date?

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Why this works

Ensures they can be present for your birth and aren't overbooked.

14

How do you help with pain management techniques?

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Why this works

Reveals their toolkit for supporting you through labor without medication if desired.

15

What postpartum support do you offer, and for how long?

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Why this works

Clarifies ongoing care after birth and whether it's included in your package.

16

How do you stay current with evidence-based birth practices?

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Why this works

Shows commitment to continuing education and staying updated on best practices.

17

What is your approach to supporting families with different cultural or religious practices?

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Why this works

Ensures they can accommodate your specific needs and respect your traditions.

18

How do you handle emergency situations during labor?

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Why this works

Reveals their training in crisis situations and ability to stay calm under pressure.

19

What makes you different from other doulas?

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Why this works

Helps you understand their unique approach and whether it aligns with your needs.

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Is there anything you won't do or situations you won't support?

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Why this works

Clarifies their boundaries and ensures they can support your specific birth choices.

Best Practices for Choosing a Doula

Expert tips and techniques for getting the most out of these questions.

Best Practices

Interview Multiple Doulas

Meet with at least 2-3 doulas to compare personalities, approaches, and fit with your family.

Trust Your Instincts

You'll be vulnerable with this person during birth. If something feels off, keep looking.

Check References Thoroughly

Call recent clients and ask specific questions about their experience, not just general feedback.

Discuss Your Birth Plan

Make sure they're comfortable supporting your specific choices, whether natural, medicated, or C-section.

Question Sequences

The Experience Assessment Sequence

1
What is your training and certification background?
2
How many births have you attended, and what types of births?
3
Can you provide references from recent clients?
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What makes you different from other doulas?

The Philosophy Alignment Sequence

1
What is your philosophy about birth and pain management?
2
How do you help with pain management techniques?
3
What is your approach to supporting families with different cultural practices?
4
Is there anything you won't do or situations you won't support?

The Practical Logistics Sequence

1
What is your fee structure, and what does it include?
2
What is your availability around my due date?
3
What is your backup plan if you can't attend my birth?
4
What postpartum support do you offer, and for how long?

Common Pitfalls

Don't Choose Based on Price Alone

A cheaper doula might lack experience or availability. This is an investment in your birth experience.

Don't Ignore Red Flags

If they're evasive about experience, don't have references, or seem unprofessional, keep looking.

Don't Assume All Doulas Are the Same

Philosophies, experience levels, and approaches vary widely. Find someone who matches your values.

Don't Wait Too Long to Book

Good doulas book up quickly, especially around popular due dates. Start looking early in your pregnancy.

Interview Templates

The Initial Meeting Framework

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Step 1: Start with: 'Can you tell me about your background and experience?'
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Step 2: Follow with: 'What is your philosophy about birth and how you support families?'
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Step 3: Ask: 'What services do you provide, and what does your fee include?'
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Step 4: Close with: 'Can you provide references from recent clients?'

The Compatibility Check Framework

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Step 1: Start with: 'I'm planning a [natural/medicated/C-section] birth. How do you support that?'
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Step 2: Follow with: 'How do you work with medical staff and handle disagreements?'
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Step 3: Ask: 'What is your backup plan if you can't attend my birth?'
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Step 4: Close with: 'What makes you the right doula for our family?'

Further Reading

DONA International (doula certification organization)
"The Birth Partner" by Penny Simkin
"Ina May's Guide to Childbirth" by Ina May Gaskin
Your local doula association or birth network

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