20 Questions

Questions to Ask a Teacher About Your Child

Partner effectively with your child's teacher using these essential questions that help you understand their academic progress, social development, and classroom experience.

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How is my child doing academically compared to grade-level expectations?

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Why this works

Provides a clear baseline of where your child stands academically and what areas may need support or enrichment.

2

What are my child's strongest subjects or skills?

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Why this works

Reveals their natural talents and interests, helping you nurture their strengths and build confidence.

3

What areas could use more support or practice at home?

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Why this works

Identifies specific areas where you can help reinforce learning and shows the teacher you're committed to supporting their education.

4

How does my child interact with classmates?

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Why this works

Provides insight into their social development and peer relationships, revealing how they navigate social situations.

5

Does my child participate actively in class discussions?

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Why this works

Shows their engagement level and comfort speaking up, revealing their confidence and classroom involvement.

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What is my child's attitude toward learning and school?

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Why this works

Reveals their overall approach to education and whether they're enthusiastic, anxious, or resistant to learning.

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Are there any behavioral concerns I should be aware of?

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Why this works

Identifies any issues that need to be addressed early and shows you're open to honest feedback about behavior.

8

How does my child handle frustration or challenges?

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Why this works

Shows their problem-solving skills and emotional regulation, revealing how they cope with difficulties.

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What can I do at home to support what you're teaching in class?

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Why this works

Shows your commitment to reinforcing learning and creates a partnership between home and school.

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Does my child turn in homework and assignments on time?

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Why this works

Reveals their organizational skills and responsibility, showing whether they need more support with time management.

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How is my child's reading/math/writing progressing?

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Why this works

Provides specific information about core academic skills and where they may need additional support or challenge.

12

What are your goals for my child this year?

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Why this works

Reveals the teacher's expectations and helps you understand what they're working toward with your child.

13

Are there any concerns about my child's learning that I should know about?

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Why this works

Opens the door for honest discussion about any challenges and shows you're ready to address issues proactively.

14

How does my child respond to feedback or correction?

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Why this works

Shows their receptivity to guidance and whether they're developing a growth mindset toward learning.

15

What does my child seem most interested in or excited about?

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Why this works

Reveals their passions and what motivates them, helping you nurture their interests at home.

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Are there any upcoming projects or events I should know about?

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Why this works

Keeps you informed and involved, showing you're engaged in their school life and activities.

17

How can I best communicate with you throughout the year?

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Why this works

Establishes clear communication channels and shows you value ongoing partnership with the teacher.

18

Does my child work well independently or do they need more support?

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Why this works

Reveals their self-sufficiency and whether they need help developing independent work skills.

19

What is the best time to reach you if I have questions or concerns?

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Why this works

Shows respect for the teacher's time and establishes clear communication boundaries.

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Is there anything else I should know about my child's experience in your class?

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Why this works

Opens the door for any additional insights and shows you're fully invested in understanding their school experience.

Best Practices for Parent-Teacher Conversations

Expert tips and techniques for getting the most out of these questions.

Best Practices

Come Prepared with Specific Questions

Write down your questions before the meeting and prioritize what's most important to discuss. This shows you value the teacher's time and are engaged.

Listen Actively and Take Notes

Pay attention to the teacher's insights and write down key points. This helps you remember important information and shows you're taking their feedback seriously.

Be Open to Constructive Feedback

Receive feedback about your child with an open mind, even if it's difficult to hear. The teacher is your partner in your child's education.

Question Sequences

The Academic Understanding Sequence

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How is my child doing academically compared to grade-level expectations?
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What are my child's strongest subjects or skills?
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What areas could use more support or practice at home?

The Social and Emotional Sequence

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How does my child interact with classmates?
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Does my child participate actively in class discussions?
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How does my child handle frustration or challenges?

Common Pitfalls

Don't Be Defensive

If the teacher shares concerns, listen first before responding. Getting defensive can shut down important communication.

Don't Compare Your Child to Others

Focus on your child's individual progress and growth rather than comparing them to classmates or siblings.

Don't Dominate the Conversation

Give the teacher time to share their observations and insights. Balance sharing information with listening.

Conversation Templates

The Comprehensive Academic Approach

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Step 1: Start with: "How is my child doing academically compared to grade-level expectations?"
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Step 2: Explore with: "What are my child's strongest subjects or skills?"
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Step 3: Follow with: "What areas could use more support or practice at home?"
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Step 4: Conclude with: "What can I do at home to support what you're teaching in class?"

The Holistic Development Focus

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Step 1: Begin with: "How does my child interact with classmates?"
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Step 2: Explore with: "What is my child's attitude toward learning and school?"
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Step 3: Deepen with: "How does my child handle frustration or challenges?"

Further Reading

"The Gardener and the Carpenter" by Alison Gopnik
"How to Talk So Kids Can Learn" by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish
"Mindset: The New Psychology of Success" by Carol Dweck

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