Questions to Ask a Therapist About Their Job
Questions for anyone considering therapy as a career, or writing about it, covering the training route, what a working week actually contains, supervision, money, and the parts of the job people do not anticipate.
The questions
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What made you decide to train as a therapist?
Why ask it
A straightforward opener, and the answers cluster: a second career, an experience of therapy as a client, a route out of adjacent work. Note whether they talk about the work itself or about wanting to help people, because the first tends to predict staying in the profession.
What did the training and licensing route actually involve for you?
Why ask it
Ask about their own path rather than the requirements in general, since rules differ by country and by state and change over time. You want the sequence: degree, placement, supervised hours, exams, registration, and which part was the bottleneck.
How long was it from starting your training to working independently?
Why ask it
This is the number most people underestimate, and it is the one that determines whether the career is financially feasible for you. Ask what they lived on during the supervised period, because unpaid or low-paid placement time is a common reason people drop out.
What does a normal week look like, hour by hour?
Why ask it
Push past the client hours. You are looking for the shape of the week, including gaps, cancellations, evening slots and the days that are heavier than others, which is what actually determines whether the job is livable.
How much of the week is not spent with clients?
Why ask it
Notes, billing, insurance paperwork, referrals, chasing no-shows, marketing if they are self-employed. Practitioners are often surprised themselves when they add it up, and the ratio is one of the biggest differences between settings.
How many sessions can you do in a day before the quality drops?
Why ask it
Almost every experienced therapist has a number, and hearing it is more informative than any general discussion of burnout. If their employer expects more than that number, you have learned something about the setting rather than about them.
What kind of work do you do most of?
Why ask it
There is a large difference between generalist practice, couples work, trauma, addiction, children and assessment-heavy roles, in daily rhythm and in emotional load. Ask what they see most rather than what they are trained in.
Which approach do you mainly work in, and why that one?
Why ask it
The interesting part is the why: whether it followed from their training, their client group, what their employer funds, or genuine conviction. Someone who can explain the limits of their own model is usually further along than someone who advocates for it.
What is the money like, and how long did it take to become stable?
Why ask it
Ask about their own experience rather than for figures for the profession, which vary enormously by setting and location. What you want is the trajectory: what the early years were like, and what made income steady, whether that was salaried work, insurance panels, or a full private caseload.
How did you build a caseload?
Why ask it
For anyone thinking about private practice this is the practical question. Referral relationships, directories, a specialism, a previous employer's overflow. Vagueness here often means they moved into an existing practice, which is a different starting position from beginning alone.
Do you have supervision, and what happens in it?
Why ask it
In most places supervision is a professional requirement rather than optional, so the useful part is what they bring to it: stuck cases, their own reactions, ethical decisions. A therapist who describes it as a formality is telling you how they work.
Have you been in therapy yourself?
Why ask it
Some training routes require it and others do not. Whichever it is, the answer usually leads into how they separate their own material from a client's, which is the part of the job nobody can see from outside.
What do you do with what you have heard by the end of a day?
Why ask it
Listen for something concrete: a walk, notes finished before leaving, a rule about the commute. Practical routines suggest someone who has lasted. An answer about being able to switch off easily is worth gently probing.
What is the most draining part that people do not anticipate?
Why ask it
Answers are frequently administrative rather than emotional: insurance disputes, notes, funding decisions, waiting lists. That surprises people who imagine the difficulty is only in the sessions, and it is the most common reason therapists change setting.
How do you handle a client in crisis?
Why ask it
You are asking about process, not detail: who they can call, what the escalation route is, what they are required to report. It also reveals how much institutional support sits behind them, which differs sharply between agency work and solo practice.
What do you do when the work is not helping someone?
Why ask it
The answer worth hearing involves noticing it, saying so in the room, and sometimes referring on. Anyone who says this has not happened either has a very short career or is not tracking outcomes closely.
How do you know whether you are helping?
Why ask it
Some practitioners use measures and review them, others rely on clinical judgement and what the client reports. Either can be defensible, but a therapist who has thought about how they could be wrong is a better guide to the profession than one who has not.
What did you get wrong early on?
Why ask it
Ask this once the conversation has warmed up. Common answers involve taking on too many clients, working outside their competence, or being overly available, and these are precisely the mistakes you would otherwise repeat.
How do the settings you have worked in compare?
Why ask it
Agency, hospital, school, employee assistance, online platform and private practice differ in caseload, autonomy, pay and paperwork. Someone who has worked in more than one can tell you which trade-off they chose and what it cost.
Who should not do this job, and would you choose it again?
Why ask it
Two halves that work better together. The first invites a genuine warning rather than a discouraging generalisation. The second is where you find out whether the warmth in the rest of the conversation was about the work or about the version of it they hoped for.
How to have this conversation
Practical guidance for the conversation itself
Setting it up
Be clear that you are asking about the career
Say at the outset that you are considering training, or researching the profession, and that you are not looking for therapy. Therapists field both requests and the conversation goes differently depending on which one they think this is.
Ask for a short, bounded conversation
Twenty or thirty minutes, at a time that is not between clients, and offer to work around their schedule. Their unbilled time is limited, and a specific modest request is far more likely to be accepted than an open one.
Speak to more than one
Working conditions differ so much between settings and countries that a single account is not representative. Someone in a public service, someone in private practice and someone early in their career will describe three different jobs.
Understand the credentials before you ask
Titles are not interchangeable, and they vary by country. In the United States, psychiatrists are medical doctors and can prescribe; psychologists hold doctorates and often do assessment as well as therapy; and clinical social workers, professional counsellors and marriage and family therapists are master's-level licences with different training emphases. Elsewhere the names, the regulator and the protected titles differ. Check what applies where you intend to practise, then ask the person in front of you what their particular licence allows and requires.
Things to avoid
- Asking about specific clients or cases. Confidentiality means the answer will be no, and asking suggests you have not understood the job.
- Turning the conversation into a session about your own difficulties.
- Asking what therapists earn as a profession rather than what their own path has looked like.
- Treating one person's setting as the whole field.
- Asking them to assess whether you would be suited to it after twenty minutes.
If you are considering training
- Find out the licensing requirements in your own jurisdiction first, from the regulator rather than from a course provider.
- Ask specifically about the supervised hours period: how it is paid, how long it takes, and how people support themselves through it.
- Look for related experience you can get now, such as helpline volunteering or support work, which also tests whether the daily reality suits you.
- Cost the training against a realistic early-career income for your area rather than a national average.
- Ask more than one practitioner what they would do differently if they were starting again.