20 Questions

Questions to Ask a Three Year Old

Age-appropriate questions that help you connect with three-year-olds, encourage their language development, and create meaningful interactions during this crucial developmental stage.

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What's your favorite color?

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Why this works

Simple, concrete question that three-year-olds can easily understand and answer, helping them practice expressing preferences and building confidence in communication.

2

What's your favorite animal?

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Engaging question that taps into their natural interest in animals while encouraging them to share their thoughts and preferences.

3

What do you like to do for fun?

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Open-ended question that encourages them to share their interests and activities, helping you understand what brings them joy.

4

What's your favorite food?

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Relatable question that most three-year-olds can answer confidently, helping them practice expressing their preferences and likes.

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What's your favorite toy?

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Concrete question about something they interact with daily, encouraging them to share about their play and interests.

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What do you like to do with your family?

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Helps them share about their family relationships and activities while encouraging them to think about positive family experiences.

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What's your favorite book or story?

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Encourages them to share about their reading experiences and helps you understand their interests and imagination.

8

What do you like to do outside?

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Encourages them to share about outdoor activities and helps you understand their interests in physical play and nature.

9

What's your favorite song or music?

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Engaging question that often leads to singing or dancing, helping them express themselves through music and movement.

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What do you like to do with your friends?

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Encourages them to share about their social interactions and helps you understand their friendships and social development.

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What's your favorite thing to do at school or daycare?

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Helps them share about their educational experiences and activities while encouraging them to think about positive school experiences.

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What do you like to do when you're happy?

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Encourages them to think about positive emotions and activities, helping them develop emotional awareness and expression.

13

What's your favorite thing to do with mommy/daddy?

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Helps them share about their relationships with parents while encouraging them to think about positive family interactions.

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What do you like to do when you're playing?

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Encourages them to share about their play activities and helps you understand their interests and imagination.

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What's your favorite thing to do when you're outside?

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Encourages them to share about outdoor activities and helps you understand their interests in physical play and nature.

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What do you like to do when you're with your family?

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Helps them share about their family relationships and activities while encouraging them to think about positive family experiences.

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What's your favorite thing to do when you're playing with toys?

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Encourages them to share about their play activities and helps you understand their interests and imagination.

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What do you like to do when you're with your friends?

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Encourages them to share about their social interactions and helps you understand their friendships and social development.

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What's your favorite thing to do when you're happy?

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Why this works

Encourages them to think about positive emotions and activities, helping them develop emotional awareness and expression.

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What do you like to do when you're playing?

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Why this works

Encourages them to share about their play activities and helps you understand their interests and imagination.

Connecting with Three-Year-Olds Through Meaningful Questions

Expert tips and techniques for getting the most out of these questions.

Best Practices

Keep Questions Simple and Concrete

Use simple language and ask about things they can see, touch, or experience directly. Avoid abstract concepts that are beyond their developmental level.

Be Patient and Encouraging

Give them time to process and respond. Use positive reinforcement and show genuine interest in their answers to build their confidence.

Follow Their Lead

Pay attention to their interests and energy level. If they're excited about something, ask follow-up questions about that topic.

Question Sequences

The Interest Explorer

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What's your favorite color?
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What's your favorite animal?
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What's your favorite toy?
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What do you like to do for fun?

The Family Connection Builder

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What do you like to do with your family?
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What's your favorite thing to do with mommy/daddy?
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What do you like to do when you're with your family?
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What's your favorite thing to do when you're happy?

Common Pitfalls

Don't Ask Too Many Questions at Once

Avoid overwhelming them with multiple questions. Ask one question at a time and wait for their response before moving on.

Avoid Complex or Abstract Questions

Don't ask about concepts they can't understand yet, like time, money, or complex emotions. Keep questions simple and concrete.

Don't Rush Their Responses

Give them time to think and respond. Don't interrupt or finish their sentences for them, even if they're taking time to answer.

Conversation Templates

The Interest Explorer

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Step 1: Start with: "What's your favorite color?"
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Step 2: Follow with: "What's your favorite animal?"
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Step 3: Deepen with: "What do you like to do for fun?"
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Step 4: Connect with: "That sounds like fun! Tell me more about..."

The Family Connection Builder

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Step 1: Begin with: "What do you like to do with your family?"
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Step 2: Explore with: "What's your favorite thing to do with mommy/daddy?"
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Step 3: Investigate with: "What do you like to do when you're with your family?"
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Step 4: Appreciate with: "That sounds like a wonderful time!"

Further Reading

"The Whole-Brain Child" by Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson
"How to Talk So Kids Will Listen" by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish
"The Toddler's Handbook" by Dayna Martin

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