20 Questions

Questions to Ask Addicts

Compassionate questions that show support and understanding while helping you better understand addiction and recovery from someone with lived experience.

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What has been the most helpful support you've received during your recovery?

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Reveals effective support strategies and helps you understand what types of help are most valuable for someone in recovery.

2

How do you handle triggers and difficult moments in your recovery?

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Why this works

Shows understanding of recovery challenges and reveals coping strategies that help maintain sobriety during difficult times.

3

What do you wish people understood about addiction and recovery?

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Gives insight into common misconceptions and reveals what they want others to know about their experience with addiction.

4

How has your perspective on life changed since beginning your recovery journey?

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Reveals personal growth and transformation while showing the positive changes that can come from recovery.

5

What advice would you give to someone who is just starting their recovery journey?

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Why this works

Provides valuable insights from someone with experience and reveals practical advice for those beginning recovery.

6

How do you maintain your recovery and what keeps you motivated?

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Reveals ongoing strategies for maintaining sobriety and shows what motivates them to continue their recovery journey.

7

What role has therapy or counseling played in your recovery?

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Shows understanding of professional support and reveals how therapy has contributed to their recovery process.

8

How do you handle relationships with people who don't understand addiction?

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Reveals challenges in relationships and shows how they navigate interactions with people who may not understand their experience.

9

What has been the biggest challenge in your recovery journey?

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Demonstrates empathy for their struggles while revealing the most difficult aspects of recovery they've faced.

10

How do you celebrate milestones and achievements in your recovery?

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Shows recognition of their progress and reveals how they acknowledge and celebrate their recovery achievements.

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What support systems have been most important in your recovery?

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Reveals the importance of community and support while showing what types of relationships and resources are most valuable.

12

How do you handle setbacks or relapses in your recovery?

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Shows understanding of the reality of recovery and reveals how they approach challenges and setbacks with resilience.

13

What has surprised you most about the recovery process?

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Reveals unexpected aspects of recovery and shows what they've learned about themselves and the recovery process.

14

How do you maintain your mental health and well-being in recovery?

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Shows concern for their overall well-being and reveals strategies for maintaining mental health during recovery.

15

What role has spirituality or faith played in your recovery?

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Reveals the spiritual aspects of recovery and shows how faith or spirituality has contributed to their healing process.

16

How do you handle stress and anxiety without turning to substances?

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Shows understanding of recovery challenges and reveals healthy coping strategies for managing stress and anxiety.

17

What has been the most rewarding aspect of your recovery journey?

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Reveals the positive outcomes of recovery and shows what they value most about their recovery experience.

18

How do you help others who are struggling with addiction?

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Shows their desire to give back and reveals how they use their experience to help others in similar situations.

19

What do you do to prevent relapse and maintain your sobriety?

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Reveals proactive strategies for maintaining recovery and shows how they protect their sobriety from potential threats.

20

How has your relationship with yourself changed during recovery?

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Shows understanding of personal growth and reveals how recovery has improved their self-image and self-relationship.

Best Practices for Conversations with Addicts

Expert tips and techniques for getting the most out of these questions.

Best Practices

Show Compassion and Understanding

Approach conversations with empathy and non-judgment. Remember that addiction is a complex condition that requires understanding and support.

Focus on Their Strengths and Progress

Acknowledge their recovery journey and celebrate their achievements. Focus on their resilience and strength rather than their past struggles.

Listen Without Judgment

Create a safe space for honest communication. Avoid judgmental language or assumptions about their experience.

Question Sequences

The Support and Recovery Sequence

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What has been the most helpful support you've received?
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What support systems have been most important?
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How do you maintain your recovery?
4
What keeps you motivated in recovery?

The Growth and Transformation Sequence

1
How has your perspective on life changed?
2
What has been the most rewarding aspect of recovery?
3
How has your relationship with yourself changed?
4
What has surprised you most about recovery?

Common Pitfalls

Don't Ask About Specific Substances or Details

Avoid questions about specific drugs, amounts, or detailed experiences. Focus on their recovery journey and current well-being.

Don't Make Assumptions About Their Experience

Avoid assumptions about their addiction, recovery, or personal circumstances. Let them share what they're comfortable with.

Don't Focus Only on the Past

While understanding their journey is important, focus on their current recovery, growth, and future goals rather than dwelling on past struggles.

Conversation Templates

The Support-Focused Approach

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Step 1: Start with: "I want to understand how to best support you..."
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Step 2: Ask: "What has been the most helpful support you've received?"
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Step 3: Explore: "What support systems have been most important?"
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Step 4: Follow up: "How can I best support your recovery?"

The Growth and Recovery Approach

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Step 1: Begin with: "I'm interested in learning about your recovery journey..."
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Step 2: Ask: "How has your perspective on life changed?"
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Step 3: Explore: "What has been the most rewarding aspect of recovery?"
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Step 4: Connect: "How has your relationship with yourself changed?"

Further Reading

"In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts" by Gabor Maté
"The Recovery Book" by Al J. Mooney
"Addiction and Grace" by Gerald G. May
"The Big Book" by Alcoholics Anonymous

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