20 Questions

Questions to Ask an Employee with a Bad Attitude

Strategic questions to address employee attitude issues constructively, understand underlying concerns, and work toward positive resolution while maintaining professionalism and team harmony.

1

I've noticed some changes in your demeanor lately. Is there something specific that's been bothering you or affecting your work?

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Why this works

Opens the door for honest communication while showing you care about their well-being and are willing to listen to their concerns.

2

How are you feeling about your current role and responsibilities? Is there anything that's been particularly challenging or frustrating?

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Why this works

Helps identify if the attitude stems from job dissatisfaction, unclear expectations, or feeling overwhelmed by their workload.

3

What would make your work experience more positive and fulfilling?

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Why this works

Shows you want to help improve their situation while giving them a chance to express what they need to be successful and satisfied.

4

Are there any workplace dynamics or relationships that are causing you stress or concern?

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Why this works

Reveals if interpersonal conflicts or team dynamics are contributing to their negative attitude and helps identify specific issues to address.

5

How can I better support you in your role, and what resources or assistance do you need?

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Why this works

Demonstrates your commitment to their success while helping you understand what support they need to perform well and feel valued.

6

What are your career goals, and how do you see your current role fitting into your professional development?

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Why this works

Helps identify if they feel stuck or unfulfilled in their current position and reveals opportunities for growth or role adjustments.

7

Is there anything happening in your personal life that might be affecting your work performance or attitude?

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Why this works

Shows empathy and understanding while helping you determine if external factors are contributing to their workplace behavior.

8

What feedback do you have about our team dynamics and how we work together?

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Why this works

Gives them a chance to express concerns about team culture while helping you understand their perspective on workplace relationships.

9

How do you prefer to receive feedback and communication from me and other team members?

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Why this works

Helps establish better communication patterns while showing you want to work with them in ways that are comfortable for them.

10

What changes would you like to see in our work environment or processes that might help you feel more engaged?

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Why this works

Shows you're open to making improvements while giving them a voice in shaping their work environment.

11

Are there any specific incidents or situations that have contributed to your current feelings about work?

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Why this works

Helps identify specific triggers or events that may have led to their negative attitude and provides context for addressing the issues.

12

How do you think your attitude has been affecting your colleagues and our team dynamics?

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Why this works

Helps them understand the impact of their behavior while encouraging self-reflection and awareness of how their actions affect others.

13

What would success look like for you in this role, and what steps can we take to get there?

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Why this works

Focuses on positive outcomes while helping you understand their definition of success and how to support their achievement.

14

Are there any skills or areas where you'd like additional training or development?

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Why this works

Shows you're invested in their growth while helping identify if lack of skills or confidence is contributing to their negative attitude.

15

How can we work together to improve your job satisfaction and overall experience here?

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Why this works

Demonstrates partnership and collaboration while showing you're committed to finding solutions that work for both of you.

16

What would you need to see from me and the team to feel more supported and valued?

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Why this works

Helps you understand their specific needs while showing you're willing to make changes to support their success.

17

Are there any concerns about job security, workload, or future opportunities that might be affecting your attitude?

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Why this works

Addresses potential fears or anxieties that may be contributing to their negative behavior while providing reassurance and clarity.

18

How do you think we can rebuild trust and improve our working relationship?

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Why this works

Focuses on moving forward positively while acknowledging that there may be trust issues that need to be addressed.

19

What would you like to see happen differently in our next interaction to make it more productive and positive?

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Why this works

Gives them input on how to improve future conversations while showing you're committed to making the relationship work.

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How can we ensure that both of us are committed to making positive changes going forward?

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Why this works

Establishes mutual commitment to improvement while ensuring both parties are invested in creating a better working relationship.

Addressing Employee Attitude Issues Constructively

Expert tips and techniques for getting the most out of these questions.

Best Practices for Difficult Conversations

Approach with Empathy and Understanding

Start from a place of care and concern rather than criticism. Show that you want to understand their perspective and help them succeed.

Focus on Behavior and Impact

Address specific behaviors and their impact on the team rather than making personal attacks. This keeps the conversation professional and constructive.

Listen Actively and Validate Concerns

Give them space to express their concerns and validate their feelings, even if you don't agree with their perspective. This builds trust and opens communication.

Question Sequences

The Understanding Sequence

1
I've noticed some changes in your demeanor. Is there something bothering you?
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What would make your work experience more positive?
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How can I better support you?
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What changes would you like to see?

The Impact Awareness Sequence

1
How do you think your attitude has been affecting the team?
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What would success look like for you?
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How can we work together to improve things?
4
What would you need to see to feel more supported?

Common Pitfalls

Don't Make It Personal

Focus on specific behaviors and their impact rather than attacking their character or personality. This keeps the conversation professional and constructive.

Don't Ignore the Root Cause

Address the underlying issues that may be causing the attitude problem rather than just focusing on the symptoms. This leads to more lasting solutions.

Don't Avoid the Conversation

Ignoring attitude issues rarely makes them go away. Address problems early and directly to prevent them from escalating and affecting the entire team.

Conversation Templates

The Empathetic Approach

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Step 1: Start with: 'I've noticed some changes in your demeanor. Is there something bothering you?'
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Step 2: Ask: 'What would make your work experience more positive?'
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Step 3: Offer: 'How can I better support you in your role?'

The Collaborative Problem Solver

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Step 1: Begin with: 'I want to understand your perspective. What's been challenging?'
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Step 2: Ask: 'What would success look like for you?'
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Step 3: Request: 'How can we work together to improve things?'

Further Reading

"Crucial Conversations" by Kerry Patterson
"Difficult Conversations" by Douglas Stone
HR resources on performance management and employee relations

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