20 Questions

Questions to Ask an Executive Assistant

Build a productive working relationship with your executive assistant using these strategic questions that help you understand their capabilities, establish workflows, and maximize their support.

1

What's your preferred method and frequency of communication?

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Why this works

Establishes communication expectations and ensures you're aligned on how and when to stay in touch.

2

How do you typically prioritize competing demands and urgent requests?

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Why this works

Reveals their organizational approach and helps you understand how they manage multiple priorities.

3

What information do you need from me to manage my calendar effectively?

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Why this works

Clarifies what context they need to schedule appropriately and protect your time.

4

What tasks can you handle independently versus what requires my approval?

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Why this works

Establishes clear boundaries for decision-making authority and empowers them to work efficiently.

5

How do you prefer to handle scheduling conflicts or last-minute changes?

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Why this works

Sets expectations for how to manage the inevitable scheduling challenges that arise.

6

What's your experience with [specific tools/systems we use]?

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Why this works

Assesses their technical proficiency and identifies any training needs upfront.

7

What do you see as your primary responsibilities in supporting me?

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Why this works

Aligns expectations on their role and ensures you're both clear on priorities.

8

How do you handle confidential or sensitive information?

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Why this works

Ensures they understand the importance of discretion and have appropriate protocols.

9

What time management strategies have worked well for you in past roles?

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Why this works

Reveals their organizational skills and approaches that might benefit your partnership.

10

How can I best support you in your role?

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Why this works

Shows you value their success and opens dialogue about what they need to be effective.

11

What information should I share with you about my priorities and projects?

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Why this works

Helps them understand context so they can better anticipate your needs and make decisions.

12

How do you prefer to receive feedback?

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Why this works

Establishes how to provide constructive input in a way that works for them.

13

What are your professional development goals?

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Why this works

Shows investment in their growth and helps you identify opportunities to support their career.

14

How do you handle situations where you need to push back or advocate for my time?

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Why this works

Reveals their comfort with gatekeeping and protecting your schedule when needed.

15

What works best for you when I need something quickly?

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Why this works

Establishes protocols for urgent requests and ensures they're equipped to respond effectively.

16

How do you stay organized and keep track of multiple ongoing projects?

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Why this works

Shows their project management approach and how they maintain oversight of complex tasks.

17

What challenges have you encountered in previous EA roles?

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Why this works

Reveals potential issues to avoid and shows what working conditions help them thrive.

18

How do you prefer to handle travel arrangements and expense reporting?

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Why this works

Clarifies processes for routine tasks and ensures you're aligned on procedures.

19

What do you need to know about my work style and preferences?

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Why this works

Invites them to ask questions and ensures they understand how to work effectively with you.

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How should we structure our regular check-ins?

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Why this works

Establishes a rhythm for staying aligned and ensures ongoing communication about priorities.

Best Practices for Working with an Executive Assistant

Expert tips and techniques for getting the most out of these questions.

Best Practices

Invest Time Upfront

Spend quality time early in the relationship to understand each other's working styles. This investment pays off in long-term efficiency.

Provide Context, Not Just Tasks

Share the 'why' behind requests so your EA can make better decisions and anticipate needs. Context enables them to be more proactive.

Trust and Empower

Give your EA authority to make decisions within agreed boundaries. Micromanaging defeats the purpose of having executive support.

Question Sequences

The Communication and Workflow Sequence

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What's your preferred method and frequency of communication?
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How do you typically prioritize competing demands and urgent requests?
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What tasks can you handle independently versus what requires my approval?

The Partnership Building Sequence

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How can I best support you in your role?
2
How do you prefer to receive feedback?
3
What are your professional development goals?

Common Pitfalls

Don't Skip the Relationship Building

Treating your EA as just a task-executor rather than a strategic partner limits their effectiveness. Invest in the relationship.

Don't Assume They Know What You Need

Be explicit about your preferences and priorities. What seems obvious to you may not be clear to them.

Don't Bypass Your EA

If people can go around your EA to reach you, it undermines their authority and makes their job much harder.

Conversation Templates

The Initial Partnership Setup

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Step 1: Start with: "What's your preferred method and frequency of communication?"
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Step 2: Clarify with: "What do you see as your primary responsibilities in supporting me?"
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Step 3: Empower with: "What tasks can you handle independently versus what requires my approval?"
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Step 4: Support with: "How can I best support you in your role?"

The Ongoing Optimization Focus

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Step 1: Begin with: "How should we structure our regular check-ins?"
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Step 2: Refine with: "What works best for you when I need something quickly?"
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Step 3: Develop with: "What are your professional development goals?"

Further Reading

"The Effective Executive" by Peter Drucker
"Behind Every Great Leader" by Adam Bryant
"The Assistant" by Joanna Wiebe

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