20 Questions

Questions to Ask Daughter's New Boyfriend

Thoughtful questions to ask your daughter's new boyfriend to get to know him better and assess his character and intentions.

1

What do you enjoy doing in your free time, and what are your hobbies?

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Why this works

Learning about his interests helps you understand his personality and whether he has healthy, constructive activities.

2

What are your career goals and aspirations for the future?

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Why this works

Understanding his ambitions helps you assess his motivation, work ethic, and whether he's planning for the future.

3

How do you handle stress and difficult situations?

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Why this works

Learning about his coping mechanisms helps you assess his emotional maturity and ability to handle challenges.

4

What values are most important to you in life?

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Why this works

Understanding his values helps you assess whether they align with your family's values and your daughter's well-being.

5

How do you approach relationships and what do you look for in a partner?

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Why this works

Learning about his relationship philosophy helps you understand his intentions and whether he's looking for something serious.

6

What is your relationship like with your family?

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Why this works

Understanding his family relationships helps you assess his character and how he might treat your daughter and your family.

7

How do you handle disagreements or conflicts in relationships?

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Why this works

Learning about his conflict resolution skills helps you assess his ability to communicate and work through problems.

8

What are your thoughts on marriage and long-term commitment?

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Why this works

Understanding his views on commitment helps you assess whether he's looking for something serious and lasting.

9

How do you handle money and financial responsibility?

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Why this works

Learning about his financial habits helps you assess his responsibility and whether he can provide for a family.

10

What are your thoughts on children and family planning?

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Why this works

Understanding his views on family helps you assess whether his goals align with your daughter's and your family's values.

11

How do you handle peer pressure and making difficult decisions?

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Why this works

Learning about his decision-making process helps you assess his character and ability to make good choices.

12

What are your thoughts on education and personal growth?

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Why this works

Understanding his views on learning helps you assess whether he values self-improvement and intellectual growth.

13

How do you handle criticism and feedback?

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Why this works

Learning about his response to feedback helps you assess his maturity and ability to grow and improve.

14

What are your thoughts on religion and spirituality?

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Why this works

Understanding his spiritual beliefs helps you assess whether they align with your family's values and your daughter's beliefs.

15

How do you handle time management and balancing different priorities?

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Why this works

Learning about his organizational skills helps you assess his ability to manage responsibilities and maintain relationships.

16

What are your thoughts on social media and technology use?

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Why this works

Understanding his views on technology helps you assess his approach to communication and privacy in relationships.

17

How do you handle peer pressure and making difficult decisions?

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Why this works

Learning about his decision-making process helps you assess his character and ability to make good choices.

18

What are your thoughts on community service and giving back?

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Why this works

Understanding his views on service helps you assess his character and whether he values helping others.

19

How do you handle peer pressure and making difficult decisions?

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Why this works

Learning about his decision-making process helps you assess his character and ability to make good choices.

20

What are your thoughts on community service and giving back?

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Why this works

Understanding his views on service helps you assess his character and whether he values helping others.

Getting to Know Your Daughter's Boyfriend

Expert tips and techniques for getting the most out of these questions.

Building a Positive Relationship

Be Warm and Welcoming

Create a comfortable environment that encourages open conversation and makes him feel welcome in your home.

Ask Open-Ended Questions

Use questions that encourage detailed responses rather than yes/no answers to get a better understanding of his character.

Listen Without Judgment

Show genuine interest in his responses and avoid being overly critical or protective in your approach.

Key Discussion Areas

Personal interests and hobbies
Career goals and aspirations
Values and beliefs
Relationship philosophy
Family background and relationships
Conflict resolution and communication
Future plans and commitment

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