20 Questions

Questions to Ask Doulas

Essential questions to help you find the right doula for your birth experience, understand their approach, and ensure you feel supported throughout your pregnancy and delivery.

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What's your philosophy on birth and how do you support different birth preferences?

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Why this works

Reveals their approach to birth and helps you understand if their philosophy aligns with your birth goals and preferences.

2

What training and certifications do you have?

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Why this works

Ensures you understand their qualifications and helps you evaluate their professional background and expertise.

3

How many births have you attended and what's your experience with different types of births?

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Why this works

Shows their experience level and helps you understand their familiarity with various birth scenarios and complications.

4

What's included in your doula services and what are your fees?

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Why this works

Clarifies the scope of services and helps you understand the financial commitment and what support you'll receive.

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How do you work with medical staff and what's your relationship with hospitals?

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Shows their ability to collaborate with healthcare providers and helps you understand how they navigate the medical system.

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What's your approach to pain management and comfort measures?

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Reveals their techniques for supporting you during labor and helps you understand their approach to natural pain relief.

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How do you support partners and family members during birth?

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Shows their approach to involving your support team and helps you understand how they work with your loved ones.

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What's your availability and backup plan if you can't attend my birth?

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Ensures you have continuous support and helps you understand their reliability and contingency planning.

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How do you handle unexpected complications or changes in birth plans?

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Shows their flexibility and helps you understand how they adapt to changing circumstances during labor and delivery.

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What postpartum support do you provide?

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Reveals the extent of their services and helps you understand what support you'll receive after the birth.

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How do you communicate with clients and what's your response time?

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Shows their availability and helps you understand how accessible they'll be for questions and concerns.

12

What's your experience with different birth settings (hospital, birth center, home)?

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Helps you understand their familiarity with your chosen birth location and their comfort level in different settings.

13

How do you support clients who want to avoid medical interventions?

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Shows their approach to natural birth and helps you understand their techniques for supporting unmedicated births.

14

What's your philosophy on breastfeeding and newborn care?

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Reveals their approach to postpartum care and helps you understand their support for feeding and newborn care.

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How do you handle situations where medical staff and your client have different preferences?

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Shows their advocacy skills and helps you understand how they navigate conflicts between your wishes and medical recommendations.

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What resources and referrals do you provide for pregnancy and parenting?

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Reveals their network and helps you understand what additional support and resources they can connect you with.

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How do you support clients with anxiety or fear about birth?

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Shows their approach to emotional support and helps you understand how they address birth-related fears and concerns.

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What's your experience with high-risk pregnancies or special circumstances?

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Helps you understand their experience with complex situations and their ability to provide appropriate support.

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How do you help clients prepare for birth and what education do you provide?

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Shows their approach to birth preparation and helps you understand what education and preparation they offer.

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What makes you different from other doulas and why should I choose you?

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Why this works

Reveals their unique qualities and helps you understand what sets them apart from other doula options.

Best Practices for Choosing a Doula

Expert tips and techniques for getting the most out of these questions.

Best Practices

Trust Your Instincts

Choose a doula you feel comfortable with and who aligns with your values and birth preferences. Trust is crucial for a positive birth experience.

Ask About Their Philosophy

Make sure their approach to birth aligns with your goals and preferences, whether you want a natural birth or are open to medical interventions.

Understand Their Role

Clarify what services they provide and what they don't, ensuring you have realistic expectations about their support.

Question Sequences

The Philosophy Sequence

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What's your philosophy on birth and how do you support different birth preferences?
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What's your approach to pain management and comfort measures?
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How do you support clients who want to avoid medical interventions?
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What's your philosophy on breastfeeding and newborn care?

The Experience Sequence

1
How many births have you attended and what's your experience with different types of births?
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What's your experience with different birth settings?
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What's your experience with high-risk pregnancies or special circumstances?
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How do you handle unexpected complications or changes in birth plans?

Common Pitfalls

Don't Choose Based Only on Price

While cost is important, prioritize finding a doula whose philosophy and approach align with your needs and preferences.

Don't Assume All Doulas Are the Same

Each doula has different training, experience, and approaches. Ask specific questions to understand their unique style and qualifications.

Don't Wait Too Long to Hire

Good doulas book up quickly, especially during peak seasons. Start your search early to ensure you have options.

Conversation Templates

The Compatibility Template

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Step 1: Start with: "What's your philosophy on birth and how do you support different birth preferences?"
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Step 2: Follow with: "What's your approach to pain management and comfort measures?"
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Step 3: Deepen with: "How do you support clients who want to avoid medical interventions?"
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Step 4: Connect with: "What makes you different from other doulas and why should I choose you?"

The Support Template

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Step 1: Begin with: "What's included in your doula services and what are your fees?"
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Step 2: Explore with: "How do you support partners and family members during birth?"
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Step 3: Understand with: "What postpartum support do you provide?"
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Step 4: Learn with: "What resources and referrals do you provide for pregnancy and parenting?"

Further Reading

"The Doula Book" by Marshall Klaus
"The Birth Partner" by Penny Simkin
"Ina May's Guide to Childbirth" by Ina May Gaskin
"The Doula's Guide to Empowering Your Birth" by Lindsey Bliss

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