Questions to Ask Fraternity Brothers
Build stronger bonds with your fraternity brothers using these thoughtful questions that deepen connections, create lasting memories, and strengthen the brotherhood.
1What's the best memory you have from our time together?
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What's the best memory you have from our time together?
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Why this works
Opens up positive shared experiences and helps you both reflect on meaningful moments that strengthen your bond.
2What's something you've learned from being in this fraternity?
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What's something you've learned from being in this fraternity?
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Why this works
Reveals personal growth and values, showing how the fraternity has impacted their life and character development.
3If you could change one thing about our chapter, what would it be?
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If you could change one thing about our chapter, what would it be?
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Why this works
Shows they care about improvement and gives you insight into their vision for the fraternity's future.
4What's the funniest thing that's ever happened at one of our events?
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What's the funniest thing that's ever happened at one of our events?
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Why this works
Brings up shared laughter and memorable moments that strengthen the bond through humor and common experiences.
5Who in our fraternity do you admire most and why?
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Who in our fraternity do you admire most and why?
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Why this works
Reveals their values and what they respect in others, while also highlighting positive qualities in your brothers.
6What's your favorite fraternity tradition and why?
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What's your favorite fraternity tradition and why?
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Why this works
Shows what aspects of brotherhood they value most and helps you understand what traditions mean to them.
7What's something you wish more people knew about our fraternity?
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What's something you wish more people knew about our fraternity?
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Why this works
Reveals their pride in the organization and what they think makes it special or unique.
8If you could plan the perfect fraternity event, what would it be?
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If you could plan the perfect fraternity event, what would it be?
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Why this works
Shows their creativity and interests while giving you insight into what kind of activities they enjoy.
9What's the most challenging thing about being in a fraternity?
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What's the most challenging thing about being in a fraternity?
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Why this works
Opens up about difficulties and shows vulnerability, which can deepen trust and understanding.
10What's something you've accomplished that you're proud of?
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What's something you've accomplished that you're proud of?
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Why this works
Celebrates their achievements and gives you insight into what they value and work toward.
11If you could give advice to a new member, what would it be?
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If you could give advice to a new member, what would it be?
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Why this works
Shows their wisdom and experience while revealing what they think is most important for new brothers to know.
12What's your favorite thing about our house or meeting space?
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What's your favorite thing about our house or meeting space?
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Why this works
Reveals what they appreciate about the physical space and what makes it feel like home to them.
13What's something you've learned from a brother that changed your perspective?
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What's something you've learned from a brother that changed your perspective?
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Why this works
Shows the impact of brotherhood on personal growth and reveals what kind of influence they value.
14If you could have dinner with any three brothers, who would they be and why?
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If you could have dinner with any three brothers, who would they be and why?
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Why this works
Reveals who they connect with most and what qualities they value in their relationships.
15What's the most meaningful conversation you've had with a brother?
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What's the most meaningful conversation you've had with a brother?
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Why this works
Opens up about deep connections and shows what kind of meaningful interactions they value.
16What's something you hope to accomplish before you graduate?
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What's something you hope to accomplish before you graduate?
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Why this works
Shows their goals and aspirations while giving you insight into what they're working toward.
17What's your favorite way to give back to the community?
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What's your favorite way to give back to the community?
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Why this works
Reveals their values around service and community involvement, showing what causes they care about.
18If you could create a new fraternity tradition, what would it be?
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If you could create a new fraternity tradition, what would it be?
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Why this works
Shows their creativity and vision while giving you insight into what kind of activities they think would benefit the brotherhood.
19What's something you've learned about yourself through fraternity life?
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What's something you've learned about yourself through fraternity life?
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Why this works
Reveals personal growth and self-awareness, showing how the fraternity has helped them develop as a person.
20What's the best advice you've ever received from a brother?
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What's the best advice you've ever received from a brother?
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Why this works
Shows the value of brotherhood mentorship and reveals what kind of guidance they find most helpful.
Best Practices for Fraternity Brother Conversations
Expert tips and techniques for getting the most out of these questions.
Best Practices
Be Genuine and Authentic
Show real interest in their experiences and perspectives. Authentic curiosity builds stronger bonds than surface-level conversations.
Listen Actively
Pay attention to their responses and ask follow-up questions. Active listening shows you value their thoughts and experiences.
Share Your Own Experiences
Reciprocate by sharing your own stories and perspectives. This creates mutual understanding and deeper connections.
Question Sequences
The Memory and Growth Sequence
The Values and Vision Sequence
Common Pitfalls
Don't Make It All About You
Focus on learning about them rather than talking about yourself. The goal is to understand their experiences and perspectives.
Don't Judge Their Responses
Accept their answers without judgment. Everyone has different experiences and perspectives that are valid.
Don't Rush the Conversation
Give them time to think and respond thoughtfully. Rushing can make them feel pressured and less likely to open up.