Questions to Ask in Talking Stage
Meaningful questions to ask during the talking stage of dating to get to know someone better, build connection, and determine compatibility.
1What's something you're really passionate about?
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What's something you're really passionate about?
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Why this works
Reveals their interests and what drives them, helping you understand what they find meaningful and exciting.
2What's the best part of your day?
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What's the best part of your day?
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Why this works
Shows what brings them joy and helps you understand their daily life and what they value.
3What's something you're really proud of?
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What's something you're really proud of?
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Why this works
Builds connection by celebrating their achievements and helps you understand what they value about themselves.
4What's something you're looking forward to?
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What's something you're looking forward to?
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Why this works
Shows their hopes and dreams while helping you understand what excites them about the future.
5What's something you're curious about?
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What's something you're curious about?
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Why this works
Encourages their curiosity and helps you understand their interests and what they want to learn.
6What's something you're grateful for?
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What's something you're grateful for?
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Why this works
Encourages gratitude and helps you understand what they value and appreciate in their life.
7What's something you're really good at that you enjoy?
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What's something you're really good at that you enjoy?
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Why this works
Helps you understand their strengths and interests while building their confidence.
8What's something that made you laugh recently?
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What's something that made you laugh recently?
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Why this works
Encourages sharing of positive moments and helps you understand their sense of humor.
9What's something you're really excited about?
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What's something you're really excited about?
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Why this works
Shows their enthusiasm and helps you understand what brings them joy and anticipation.
10What's something you're really looking forward to in the future?
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What's something you're really looking forward to in the future?
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Why this works
Shows their hopes and dreams while helping you understand what excites them about life.
11What's something you're curious about that you haven't explored yet?
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What's something you're curious about that you haven't explored yet?
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Why this works
Encourages their curiosity and can help you support them in trying new things.
12What's something you wish you could do better?
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What's something you wish you could do better?
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Why this works
Shows their self-awareness and helps you understand their goals and areas for growth.
13What's something you're really good at that you enjoy?
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What's something you're really good at that you enjoy?
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Why this works
Helps you understand their strengths and interests while building their confidence.
14What's something that made you feel proud of yourself?
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What's something that made you feel proud of yourself?
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Why this works
Builds self-esteem and helps you understand their accomplishments and what they value about themselves.
15What's something you're really looking forward to in the future?
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What's something you're really looking forward to in the future?
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Why this works
Shows their hopes and dreams while helping you understand what excites them about life.
16What's something you're curious about that you haven't explored yet?
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What's something you're curious about that you haven't explored yet?
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Why this works
Encourages their curiosity and can help you support them in trying new things.
17What's something you wish you could do better?
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What's something you wish you could do better?
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Why this works
Shows their self-awareness and helps you understand their goals and areas for growth.
18What's something you're really good at that you enjoy?
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What's something you're really good at that you enjoy?
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Why this works
Helps you understand their strengths and interests while building their confidence.
19What's something that made you feel proud of yourself?
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What's something that made you feel proud of yourself?
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Why this works
Builds self-esteem and helps you understand their accomplishments and what they value about themselves.
20What's something you're really looking forward to in the future?
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What's something you're really looking forward to in the future?
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Why this works
Shows their hopes and dreams while helping you understand what excites them about life.
Building Connection in the Talking Stage
Expert tips and techniques for getting the most out of these questions.
Creating Meaningful Conversations
Be Genuinely Interested
Show authentic interest in their responses and ask follow-up questions that demonstrate you're listening.
Share Your Own Experiences
When appropriate, share your own related experiences to create connection and show vulnerability.
Keep It Light and Fun
Focus on positive, engaging topics that help you both enjoy the conversation and get to know each other.
Natural Conversation Flow
The Interest Explorer
The Daily Life
The Future Vision
Common Pitfalls to Avoid
Don't Interrogate
Avoid rapid-fire questions that feel like an interrogation. Space out questions and let the conversation flow naturally.
Avoid Heavy Topics Too Early
Keep the conversation light and positive. Save serious topics for when you've built more connection.
Don't Make It All About You
Balance sharing about yourself with asking about them. Show genuine interest in their responses.