20 Questions

Questions to Ask My Daughter's Boyfriend

Thoughtful questions to ask your daughter's boyfriend to get to know him better, understand his character, and ensure he's a good influence in her life.

1

What do you enjoy doing in your free time, and what are your hobbies?

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Why this works

Helps you understand his interests and how he spends his time, giving you insight into his character and values.

2

What are your goals and aspirations for the future?

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Why this works

Shows you his ambition and direction in life, helping you understand whether he's a positive influence for your daughter.

3

What do you value most in a relationship, and what are your relationship goals?

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Why this works

Helps you understand his approach to relationships and whether his values align with what you want for your daughter.

4

What do you like most about my daughter, and what drew you to her?

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Why this works

Shows you what he appreciates about your daughter and helps you understand the foundation of their relationship.

5

How do you handle disagreements or conflicts in relationships?

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Why this works

Important for understanding his conflict resolution skills and whether he handles disagreements in a healthy way.

6

What are your family relationships like, and how do you get along with your parents?

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Why this works

Helps you understand his family background and how he relates to authority figures and family members.

7

What are your educational and career plans, and how do you plan to achieve them?

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Why this works

Shows you his ambition and planning skills, helping you understand whether he's a good role model for your daughter.

8

What are your views on important issues like family, faith, and values?

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Why this works

Helps you understand his core values and whether they align with your family's values and beliefs.

9

How do you handle peer pressure and make decisions about right and wrong?

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Important for understanding his moral compass and whether he makes good decisions under pressure.

10

What are your friends like, and how do you choose your friendships?

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Helps you understand his social circle and whether he surrounds himself with positive influences.

11

What are your views on communication and how do you prefer to communicate?

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Important for understanding how he communicates and whether he values open, honest communication.

12

What are your views on respect and how do you show respect to others?

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Crucial for understanding whether he treats others with respect and whether he'll treat your daughter well.

13

What are your views on responsibility and how do you handle your responsibilities?

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Helps you understand his sense of responsibility and whether he takes his obligations seriously.

14

What are your views on independence and how do you balance independence with relationships?

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Why this works

Important for understanding whether he values independence and whether he'll support your daughter's independence.

15

What are your views on trust and how do you build and maintain trust?

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Crucial for understanding whether he values trust and whether he's trustworthy in relationships.

16

What are your views on commitment and how do you approach commitment in relationships?

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Why this works

Helps you understand his approach to commitment and whether he's serious about relationships.

17

What are your views on growth and how do you support personal growth in relationships?

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Why this works

Important for understanding whether he values personal growth and whether he'll support your daughter's development.

18

What are your views on boundaries and how do you respect boundaries in relationships?

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Why this works

Crucial for understanding whether he respects boundaries and whether he'll respect your daughter's boundaries.

19

What are your views on support and how do you provide support in relationships?

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Why this works

Helps you understand whether he's supportive and whether he'll be a positive influence in your daughter's life.

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What are your views on the future and how do you see your relationship developing?

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Why this works

Important for understanding his long-term thinking and whether he's serious about the relationship.

Getting to Know Your Daughter's Boyfriend

Expert tips and techniques for getting the most out of these questions.

Approach with Care

Show Respect

Approach the conversation with respect for his relationship with your daughter and his autonomy.

Listen Actively

Pay attention to his responses and show genuine interest in getting to know him.

Ask Thoughtful Questions

Ask questions that show genuine interest in understanding his character and values.

Build Connection

Find Common Ground

Look for shared interests or experiences that can help build a connection and rapport.

Show Interest

Show genuine interest in his life, goals, and experiences.

Be Supportive

Be supportive and encouraging, and avoid being critical or dismissive of his choices.

Maintain Boundaries

Respect Their Relationship

Respect their relationship and avoid interfering in their personal decisions.

Provide Guidance

Provide guidance and support when appropriate, but avoid being controlling.

Stay Connected

Maintain a positive relationship with both your daughter and her boyfriend.

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