20 Questions

Questions to Ask Nanny References

Essential questions to ask nanny references to verify qualifications, understand their experience, and ensure you're making the right choice for your family.

1

How long did the nanny work for your family?

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Why this works

Understanding the duration of employment helps you assess their reliability and commitment to long-term positions.

2

What ages of children did the nanny care for?

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Why this works

Knowing their experience with different age groups helps you determine if they're suitable for your children's ages.

3

What were the nanny's main responsibilities?

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Why this works

Understanding their duties helps you assess if their experience aligns with your family's needs and expectations.

4

How did the nanny handle discipline and behavioral issues?

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Why this works

Learning about their discipline approach helps you ensure their methods align with your parenting philosophy.

5

What was the nanny's relationship like with your children?

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Why this works

Understanding their connection with children helps you assess their ability to bond and provide emotional support.

6

How did the nanny handle emergencies or difficult situations?

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Learning about their crisis management helps you assess their ability to handle stressful situations calmly and effectively.

7

What were the nanny's strengths?

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Why this works

Understanding their strengths helps you identify what they excel at and how they can benefit your family.

8

Were there any areas where the nanny could improve?

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Why this works

Learning about areas for improvement helps you understand their limitations and whether they're acceptable for your family.

9

How did the nanny communicate with you about your children?

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Understanding their communication style helps you assess if they'll keep you informed and involved in your children's care.

10

What was the nanny's reliability like?

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Learning about their punctuality and dependability helps you assess if they'll be reliable for your family's schedule.

11

How did the nanny handle your family's rules and routines?

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Why this works

Understanding their compliance helps you assess if they'll respect and follow your family's specific guidelines.

12

What was the nanny's approach to education and learning?

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Why this works

Learning about their educational philosophy helps you assess if they'll support your children's learning and development.

13

How did the nanny handle conflicts or disagreements?

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Understanding their conflict resolution helps you assess if they can handle difficult situations professionally and respectfully.

14

What was the nanny's relationship like with other family members?

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Learning about their family dynamics helps you assess if they'll fit well with your entire family.

15

How did the nanny handle your children's special needs or requirements?

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Why this works

Understanding their special needs experience helps you assess if they can meet your children's specific requirements.

16

What was the nanny's approach to safety and supervision?

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Why this works

Learning about their safety practices helps you assess if they'll prioritize your children's safety and well-being.

17

How did the nanny handle your children's emotional needs?

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Why this works

Understanding their emotional support helps you assess if they can provide the care and comfort your children need.

18

What was the nanny's approach to play and activities?

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Why this works

Learning about their activity planning helps you assess if they'll provide engaging and appropriate activities for your children.

19

How did the nanny handle your children's meals and nutrition?

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Why this works

Understanding their nutrition approach helps you assess if they'll support your children's dietary needs and preferences.

20

Would you hire this nanny again?

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Why this works

Getting their overall recommendation helps you understand their satisfaction and whether they'd recommend the nanny to others.

Evaluating Nanny References

Expert tips and techniques for getting the most out of these questions.

Conducting Reference Checks

Ask Specific Questions

Focus on concrete examples and specific situations rather than general opinions to get meaningful insights.

Listen for Red Flags

Pay attention to hesitation, vague responses, or negative comments that might indicate problems.

Verify Information

Cross-reference information from multiple references to ensure consistency and accuracy.

Essential Areas to Cover

Professional Performance

Reliability and punctuality
Communication and reporting
Following instructions and rules
Handling responsibilities and duties

Child Care Skills

Relationship with children
Discipline and behavior management
Safety and supervision
Educational and developmental support

Family Fit

Compatibility with family values
Relationship with parents and family
Handling special needs or requirements
Overall satisfaction and recommendation

Common Pitfalls to Avoid

Don't Rely on a Single Reference

Get multiple references to ensure you have a complete picture of the nanny's performance and character.

Avoid Leading Questions

Ask open-ended questions that allow for honest responses rather than questions that suggest the answer you want.

Don't Ignore Red Flags

If references seem hesitant or provide vague responses, trust your instincts and look for other candidates.

Further Reading

"The Complete Guide to Hiring a Nanny" by various authors
"Child Care That Works" by Rebecca Isbell
"The Nanny Book" by Susan Carlton

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