20 Questions

Questions to Ask Roommate Before Moving In

Essential questions that help you evaluate potential roommates, establish expectations, and ensure a compatible living situation while avoiding common roommate conflicts.

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What are your daily routines and schedules, and how do you prefer to manage your time at home?

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Why this works

Assesses lifestyle compatibility while helping you understand their daily habits and how they manage their time to ensure your schedules align.

2

What are your cleaning and household maintenance preferences, and how do you like to keep shared spaces?

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Why this works

Establishes cleanliness expectations while helping you understand their standards for shared spaces and household maintenance.

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What are your noise preferences and quiet hours, and how do you handle different noise levels?

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Why this works

Addresses noise compatibility while helping you understand their noise tolerance and preferences for quiet time.

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What are your guest and visitor policies, and how do you feel about having people over?

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Why this works

Clarifies guest expectations while helping you understand their comfort level with visitors and social activities at home.

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What are your financial habits and budgeting approach, and how do you handle shared expenses?

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Why this works

Assesses financial compatibility while helping you understand their approach to money management and shared financial responsibilities.

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What are your communication preferences and conflict resolution style, and how do you handle disagreements?

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Why this works

Establishes communication protocols while helping you understand how they prefer to communicate and resolve conflicts.

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What are your personal space and privacy needs, and how do you respect boundaries?

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Why this works

Addresses privacy expectations while helping you understand their need for personal space and how they respect boundaries.

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What are your lifestyle habits and preferences, and how do you spend your time at home?

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Why this works

Evaluates lifestyle compatibility while helping you understand their habits and how they like to spend their time at home.

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What are your pet preferences and policies, and how do you feel about animals in the home?

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Why this works

Clarifies pet compatibility while helping you understand their comfort level with pets and any pet-related preferences.

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What are your cooking and meal preferences, and how do you like to handle shared kitchen use?

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Why this works

Addresses kitchen sharing while helping you understand their cooking habits and preferences for shared kitchen use.

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What are your work and study habits, and how do you prefer to manage your professional time at home?

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Assesses work compatibility while helping you understand their work habits and how they manage professional responsibilities at home.

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What are your social preferences and activities, and how do you like to spend your free time?

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Evaluates social compatibility while helping you understand their social preferences and how they like to spend their free time.

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What are your health and wellness habits, and how do you maintain your well-being?

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Why this works

Addresses health compatibility while helping you understand their health habits and how they maintain their well-being.

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What are your technology and internet usage habits, and how do you manage shared resources?

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Why this works

Clarifies technology sharing while helping you understand their internet usage and how they manage shared technology resources.

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What are your emergency and safety preferences, and how do you handle urgent situations?

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Addresses safety concerns while helping you understand their approach to emergencies and how they handle urgent situations.

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What are your long-term living goals and plans, and how do you see your living situation evolving?

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Assesses future compatibility while helping you understand their long-term plans and how they see their living situation changing.

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What are your values and priorities, and what's most important to you in a living situation?

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Evaluates value alignment while helping you understand their core values and what they prioritize in a living situation.

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What are your deal-breakers and non-negotiables, and what would make you uncomfortable?

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Identifies potential conflicts while helping you understand their boundaries and what would make them uncomfortable.

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What are your expectations for the living arrangement, and how do you envision our cohabitation?

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Why this works

Establishes mutual expectations while helping you understand their vision for the living arrangement and how they see cohabitation working.

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What are the best ways to communicate with you, and how do you prefer to handle concerns and requests?

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Why this works

Establishes communication protocols while helping you understand the best ways to communicate and how to handle concerns effectively.

Best Practices for Roommate Evaluation

Expert tips and techniques for getting the most out of these questions.

Best Practices

Focus on Lifestyle Compatibility

Ask questions that help you determine if your lifestyles, habits, and preferences are compatible. This ensures a harmonious living situation.

Address Practical Living Needs

Include questions about cleaning, noise, guests, and shared spaces. This helps you understand how they'll handle daily living situations.

Establish Clear Communication

Ask about communication preferences and conflict resolution. This helps you maintain a positive relationship and handle issues effectively.

Question Sequences

The Lifestyle Compatibility Sequence

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What are your daily routines and schedules, and how do you prefer to manage your time at home?
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What are your lifestyle habits and preferences, and how do you spend your time at home?
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What are your social preferences and activities, and how do you like to spend your free time?

The Practical Living Sequence

1
What are your cleaning and household maintenance preferences, and how do you like to keep shared spaces?
2
What are your noise preferences and quiet hours, and how do you handle different noise levels?
3
What are your guest and visitor policies, and how do you feel about having people over?

Common Pitfalls

Don't Focus Only on Surface Compatibility

Avoid asking only about obvious preferences. Include questions about values, communication, and conflict resolution to assess deeper compatibility.

Don't Ignore Practical Considerations

Avoid focusing only on personality. Include questions about cleaning, noise, guests, and shared spaces to understand daily living compatibility.

Don't Skip the Communication Plan

Avoid assuming you'll always get along. Establish clear communication protocols and conflict resolution strategies.

Evaluation Templates

The Lifestyle Compatibility Template

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Step 1: Start with: "What are your daily routines and schedules, and how do you prefer to manage your time at home?"
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Step 2: Follow with: "What are your lifestyle habits and preferences, and how do you spend your time at home?"
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Step 3: Connect with: "What are your social preferences and activities, and how do you like to spend your free time?"

The Practical Living Template

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Step 1: Start with: "What are your cleaning and household maintenance preferences, and how do you like to keep shared spaces?"
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Step 2: Follow with: "What are your noise preferences and quiet hours, and how do you handle different noise levels?"
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Step 3: Deepen with: "What are your guest and visitor policies, and how do you feel about having people over?"

Further Reading

"The Roommate Guide" by Sarah Miller
"Living with Roommates for Dummies" by Dominique Douglas
"The Complete Guide to Roommate Success" by Mark D. Jackson

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