20 Questions

Questions to Ask Someone Before They Die

Meaningful questions to ask someone who is dying to help them reflect on their life, share their wisdom, and create lasting memories together.

1

What are you most proud of in your life?

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Why this works

Understanding their proudest moments helps them reflect on their achievements and what they value most.

2

What advice would you give to your younger self?

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Why this works

Learning about their advice helps them share wisdom and insights they've gained throughout their life.

3

What are your favorite memories from childhood?

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Why this works

Exploring childhood memories helps them reconnect with joyful moments and share stories from their early years.

4

What are the most important lessons you've learned in life?

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Why this works

Understanding their life lessons helps them share the wisdom they've gained and what they want others to know.

5

What are you most grateful for in your life?

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Why this works

Learning about their gratitude helps them focus on the positive aspects of their life and what they cherish most.

6

What are your hopes and dreams for your loved ones?

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Why this works

Understanding their hopes helps them share their wishes for their family and friends' futures.

7

What are your favorite stories from your life that you'd like to share?

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Why this works

Learning about their favorite stories helps them share meaningful experiences and create lasting memories.

8

What are the most important values you want to pass on to others?

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Why this works

Understanding their values helps them share what they believe is most important in life and what they want others to remember.

9

What are your favorite songs, books, or movies that have meant a lot to you?

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Why this works

Learning about their favorite media helps them share what has brought them joy and comfort throughout their life.

10

What are the most meaningful relationships in your life, and why?

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Why this works

Understanding their relationships helps them reflect on the people who have meant the most to them and why.

11

What are your favorite places you've visited or lived?

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Why this works

Learning about their favorite places helps them share memories of special locations and experiences.

12

What are the most important traditions or customs you want to preserve?

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Why this works

Understanding their traditions helps them share what cultural or family practices they value and want to continue.

13

What are your favorite quotes or sayings that have guided you?

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Why this works

Learning about their guiding quotes helps them share the wisdom that has influenced their life and decisions.

14

What are the most important accomplishments you want to be remembered for?

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Why this works

Understanding their accomplishments helps them reflect on what they want their legacy to be and how they want to be remembered.

15

What are your favorite foods or meals that have special meaning to you?

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Why this works

Learning about their favorite foods helps them share memories of special meals and family traditions.

16

What are the most important decisions you've made in your life?

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Why this works

Understanding their decisions helps them reflect on the choices that shaped their life and what they learned from them.

17

What are your favorite holidays or celebrations, and why?

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Why this works

Learning about their favorite celebrations helps them share what holidays and traditions have meant the most to them.

18

What are the most important things you want your loved ones to know about you?

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Why this works

Understanding what they want to share helps them communicate important aspects of their life and personality.

19

What are your favorite memories of your parents, grandparents, or other family members?

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Why this works

Learning about their family memories helps them share stories about their ancestors and family history.

20

What are the most important things you want to say to your loved ones?

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Why this works

Understanding what they want to communicate helps them share their final thoughts and feelings with those they care about most.

Having Meaningful End-of-Life Conversations

Expert tips and techniques for getting the most out of these questions.

Best Practices for End-of-Life Conversations

Be Present and Patient

Give them time to respond and be fully present during the conversation, showing that you value their words.

Listen Without Judgment

Accept their responses without judgment and show appreciation for what they're sharing.

Respect Their Boundaries

If they don't want to discuss certain topics, respect their wishes and focus on what they're comfortable sharing.

Key Areas to Explore

Life Reflection

Proudest moments and achievements
Life lessons and wisdom gained
Favorite memories and experiences
Values and beliefs that guided them

Relationships and Love

Most meaningful relationships
Love and connection experiences
Family stories and traditions
Friendships and community connections

Legacy and Wishes

What they want to be remembered for
Hopes for their loved ones
Important messages to share
Traditions they want preserved

Common Pitfalls to Avoid

Don't Rush the Conversation

Give them time to think and respond, and don't try to cover everything in one conversation.

Avoid Difficult or Painful Topics

Focus on positive memories and meaningful experiences rather than dwelling on regrets or painful moments.

Don't Make It About You

Keep the focus on them and their experiences, not on your own feelings or needs.

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