20 Questions

Questions to Ask Someone From a Different Country

Thoughtful questions to learn about culture, daily life, values, and perspectives from someone with a different national background.

1

What's something about your culture that you wish more people understood?

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Why this works

Invites them to share what's often misrepresented or overlooked about their background.

2

What do you miss most about home when you're away?

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Why this works

Reveals what they value most—food, family, landscape, or cultural rhythms.

3

How would you describe a typical day in your hometown or city?

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Why this works

Provides concrete, lived detail beyond tourist stereotypes.

4

What surprised you most about living in or visiting [current country]?

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Why this works

Surfaces cultural contrasts and what stands out when norms shift.

5

What's a tradition or holiday in your country that you think is especially meaningful?

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Why this works

Opens conversation about values, rituals, and what the culture celebrates.

6

How does your country approach family, and what role do elders or extended family play?

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Why this works

Explores family structure and intergenerational dynamics that vary widely.

7

What's a common misconception people have about your country?

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Why this works

Invites them to correct stereotypes and share a more nuanced picture.

8

What do you think your country does better than others?

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Why this works

Celebrates strengths and gives insight into national pride and identity.

9

What's a food from home that you can't find here, and what makes it special?

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Why this works

Food is deeply personal and cultural—this opens sensory and emotional memory.

10

How does your country approach work-life balance compared to here?

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Why this works

Reveals cultural attitudes toward labor, rest, and what constitutes a good life.

11

What's something that's considered polite or rude in your culture that's different here?

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Why this works

Surfaces etiquette differences and helps both people navigate cultural nuance.

12

How do people in your country typically socialize or spend time with friends?

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Why this works

Shows how community and connection are practiced in different contexts.

13

What's a book, film, or piece of art from your country that you think everyone should experience?

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Why this works

Invites cultural exchange and offers a window into national storytelling.

14

How has your perspective on your own country changed since spending time abroad?

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Why this works

Explores how distance shifts understanding and what becomes visible from outside.

15

What's something you've learned or adopted from [current country] that you'll take home with you?

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Why this works

Shows openness to change and what resonates across cultural lines.

16

How does your country approach education, and what's valued in the school system?

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Why this works

Reveals priorities—rote learning, creativity, discipline, or critical thinking.

17

What role does religion or spirituality play in daily life in your country?

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Why this works

Explores how faith shapes public and private life differently across cultures.

18

What's a phrase or saying in your language that doesn't translate well but you love?

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Why this works

Opens linguistic and conceptual doors to how language shapes thought.

19

How does your country approach healthcare, and what's your experience with it?

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Why this works

Reveals systemic differences and personal stories about access and quality.

20

What advice would you give someone visiting your country for the first time?

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Why this works

Invites generosity and practical wisdom while honoring their expertise.

Cross-Cultural Conversations

Expert tips and techniques for getting the most out of these questions.

Ask with Curiosity, Not Judgment

Approach as a learner, not an expert on their culture.
Avoid 'better/worse' comparisons—focus on difference, not superiority.
Listen for nuance—cultures are diverse, not monolithic.
Share your own experiences reciprocally to build connection.

What Not to Ask

'Where are you really from?'—assumes they don't belong.
Leading with politics, conflict, or tragedy—let them decide what to share.
Treating them as a spokesperson for an entire nation.
Exoticizing or fetishizing their culture—keep it respectful.

Going Deeper

1
Ask follow-up questions that show you're listening and curious.
2
Share stories from your own background to create reciprocity.
3
Be willing to sit with discomfort when differences challenge your assumptions.
4
Thank them for sharing and acknowledge the gift of cultural exchange.

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