Questions to Ask Someone Who Is Dying
Questions to Ask Someone Who Is Dying
Tender, consent-based prompts to honor stories, love, and legacy near the end of life.
1Is there a story you’d like recorded or shared?
Is there a story you’d like recorded or shared?
Preserves voice and memory as a gift.
2What brings you comfort right now?
What brings you comfort right now?
Centers immediate care and presence.
3Who would you like to hear from or see?
Who would you like to hear from or see?
Aligns visits and connections.
4What music, readings, or rituals feel right for you?
What music, readings, or rituals feel right for you?
Personalizes meaning and atmosphere.
5What do you want us to remember about you?
What do you want us to remember about you?
Invites identity and legacy in their words.
6Is there anything unsaid that would feel good to express?
Is there anything unsaid that would feel good to express?
Creates space for completion with safety.
7What decisions would you like help with?
What decisions would you like help with?
Offers agency and partnership.
8How would you like to be celebrated or honored?
How would you like to be celebrated or honored?
Guides memorials and traditions.
9What are your wishes for us after?
What are your wishes for us after?
Gives guidance and comfort to loved ones.
10What gave your life its deepest joy?
What gave your life its deepest joy?
Centers gratitude and meaning.
11How can I show up best for you today?
How can I show up best for you today?
Keeps care grounded and practical.
12Would you like company in silence?
Would you like company in silence?
Respects presence beyond words.
Want to learn more?
Care with Consent
Want to learn more?
Care with Consent
Consent First
Ask permission before sensitive topics
Accept ‘not now’ with grace
Involve hospice or chaplain when helpful