12 Questions

Questions to Ask Someone Who Is Dying

Tender, consent-based prompts to honor stories, love, and legacy near the end of life.

1

Is there a story you’d like recorded or shared?

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Why this works

Preserves voice and memory as a gift.

2

What brings you comfort right now?

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Why this works

Centers immediate care and presence.

3

Who would you like to hear from or see?

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Why this works

Aligns visits and connections.

4

What music, readings, or rituals feel right for you?

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Why this works

Personalizes meaning and atmosphere.

5

What do you want us to remember about you?

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Why this works

Invites identity and legacy in their words.

6

Is there anything unsaid that would feel good to express?

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Why this works

Creates space for completion with safety.

7

What decisions would you like help with?

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Why this works

Offers agency and partnership.

8

How would you like to be celebrated or honored?

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Why this works

Guides memorials and traditions.

9

What are your wishes for us after?

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Why this works

Gives guidance and comfort to loved ones.

10

What gave your life its deepest joy?

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Why this works

Centers gratitude and meaning.

11

How can I show up best for you today?

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Why this works

Keeps care grounded and practical.

12

Would you like company in silence?

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Why this works

Respects presence beyond words.

Care with Consent

Expert tips and techniques for getting the most out of these questions.

Consent First

Ask permission before sensitive topics
Accept ‘not now’ with grace
Involve hospice or chaplain when helpful

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