20 Questions

Questions to Ask When Conversation Dies

Strategic questions that revive dead conversations, create engaging dialogue, and help you connect with others when the conversation stalls or becomes awkward.

1

What's the most interesting thing that happened to you this week?

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Why this works

Opens up recent experiences and gives the person a chance to share something positive or engaging from their life.

2

If you could have dinner with anyone, living or dead, who would it be and why?

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Why this works

Reveals their interests, values, and aspirations while creating an engaging hypothetical scenario that's easy to discuss.

3

What's something you're really passionate about that most people don't know?

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Why this works

Gives them a chance to share something personal and meaningful, often leading to deeper, more interesting conversations.

4

What's the best piece of advice you've ever received?

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Why this works

Opens up personal wisdom and experiences while giving you insight into their values and life lessons.

5

If you could travel anywhere in the world right now, where would you go and what would you do there?

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Why this works

Creates an engaging travel fantasy that's easy to discuss and reveals their interests, dreams, and personality.

6

What's something you've learned recently that really excited you?

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Why this works

Shows you value learning and growth while giving them a chance to share something that genuinely interests them.

7

If you could master any skill instantly, what would it be and why?

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Why this works

Reveals their aspirations and interests while creating an engaging hypothetical that's easy to discuss.

8

What's the most random or unexpected thing that's happened to you recently?

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Why this works

Often leads to funny or interesting stories that can revive a conversation and create memorable moments.

9

If you could change one thing about your daily routine, what would it be?

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Why this works

Opens up discussion about their lifestyle and preferences while being relatable and easy to answer.

10

What's something you're really looking forward to in the next few months?

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Why this works

Focuses on positive future events and gives them a chance to share their hopes and plans.

11

If you could have any superpower, what would it be and how would you use it?

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Why this works

Creates a fun, imaginative scenario that's easy to discuss and reveals their personality and values.

12

What's the most interesting place you've ever been to?

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Why this works

Opens up travel experiences and stories while giving them a chance to share something memorable.

13

If you could have a conversation with your younger self, what would you tell them?

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Why this works

Reveals their life lessons and growth while creating a meaningful, reflective conversation.

14

What's something you're really good at that you don't get to talk about often?

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Why this works

Gives them a chance to share a hidden talent or skill while making them feel valued and interesting.

15

If you could solve one problem in the world, what would it be and why?

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Why this works

Reveals their values and concerns while creating a meaningful discussion about important topics.

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What's the most interesting thing you've read, watched, or listened to recently?

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Why this works

Opens up discussion about their interests and media consumption while being easy to relate to.

17

If you could live in any time period, when would it be and why?

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Why this works

Creates an engaging historical fantasy that reveals their interests and personality while being fun to discuss.

18

What's something you're really curious about that you'd like to learn more about?

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Why this works

Shows you value their interests while giving them a chance to share something they're genuinely curious about.

19

If you could have any job for a day, what would it be and why?

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Why this works

Reveals their interests and aspirations while creating an engaging hypothetical scenario that's easy to discuss.

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What's the most interesting thing about your hometown or where you grew up?

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Why this works

Opens up personal history and stories while giving them a chance to share something unique about their background.

How to Revive Dead Conversations

Expert tips and techniques for getting the most out of these questions.

Best Practices

Ask Open-Ended Questions

Use questions that require more than a yes/no answer and give the person room to elaborate and share details.

Show Genuine Interest

Listen actively and ask follow-up questions that show you're engaged with what they're sharing.

Keep It Light and Positive

Focus on positive topics and experiences that are easy to discuss and don't create tension or awkwardness.

Question Sequences

The Experience Explorer

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What's the most interesting thing that happened to you this week?
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What's the most random or unexpected thing that's happened to you recently?
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What's the most interesting place you've ever been to?

The Future Dreamer

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If you could travel anywhere in the world right now, where would you go?
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What's something you're really looking forward to in the next few months?
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If you could have any job for a day, what would it be?

Common Pitfalls

Don't Ask Too Personal Questions

Avoid questions about sensitive topics like finances, health, or personal problems that might make the person uncomfortable.

Don't Interrogate

Ask questions naturally and conversationally, not like you're conducting an interview or interrogation.

Don't Ignore Their Responses

Listen to their answers and ask follow-up questions that show you're engaged with what they're sharing.

Conversation Templates

The Interest Explorer

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Step 1: Start with: "What's something you're really passionate about?"
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Step 2: Follow with: "What's something you're really good at that you don't get to talk about often?"
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Step 3: Conclude with: "What's something you're really curious about?"

The Experience Builder

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Step 1: Begin with: "What's the most interesting thing that happened to you this week?"
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Step 2: Explore with: "What's the most random or unexpected thing that's happened to you recently?"
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Step 3: End with: "What's the most interesting place you've ever been to?"

Further Reading

"The Art of Conversation" by Catherine Blyth
"How to Talk to Anyone" by Leil Lowndes
"The Charisma Myth" by Olivia Fox Cabane

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