Questions to Ask Your Daughter's Boyfriend
Important questions to get to know your daughter's boyfriend, understand his character, and ensure he's a positive influence in her life.
1What do you like most about my daughter?
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What do you like most about my daughter?
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Why this works
Helps you understand what he values about her and whether he sees her for who she truly is.
2What are your goals and aspirations for the future?
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What are your goals and aspirations for the future?
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Why this works
Reveals his ambition, values, and whether he has a clear direction in life that aligns with your daughter's goals.
3How do you handle disagreements or conflicts?
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How do you handle disagreements or conflicts?
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Why this works
Shows his communication skills and approach to resolving problems, which is crucial for a healthy relationship.
4What do you do for fun and how do you like to spend your free time?
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What do you do for fun and how do you like to spend your free time?
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Why this works
Helps you understand his interests, hobbies, and whether his lifestyle is compatible with your daughter's.
5What's important to you in a relationship?
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What's important to you in a relationship?
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Why this works
Reveals his values and expectations, helping you understand if he's looking for something serious and meaningful.
6How do you handle stress and difficult situations?
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How do you handle stress and difficult situations?
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Why this works
Shows his emotional maturity and coping mechanisms, which are important for a stable relationship.
7What do you think makes a relationship successful?
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What do you think makes a relationship successful?
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Why this works
Reveals his understanding of healthy relationships and whether he has realistic expectations.
8How do you communicate with your family and friends?
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How do you communicate with your family and friends?
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Why this works
Shows his relationship skills and whether he maintains healthy connections with important people in his life.
9What are your thoughts on marriage and long-term commitment?
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What are your thoughts on marriage and long-term commitment?
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Why this works
Helps you understand his views on commitment and whether he's looking for something serious.
10How do you handle peer pressure and make decisions?
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How do you handle peer pressure and make decisions?
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Why this works
Shows his character and whether he can make independent, thoughtful decisions that align with his values.
11What do you do when you make a mistake?
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What do you do when you make a mistake?
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Why this works
Reveals his accountability, humility, and whether he takes responsibility for his actions.
12How do you support your partner when they're going through a difficult time?
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How do you support your partner when they're going through a difficult time?
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Why this works
Shows his empathy and whether he's capable of being a supportive partner during challenging times.
13What are your thoughts on education and personal growth?
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What are your thoughts on education and personal growth?
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Why this works
Reveals his values around learning and self-improvement, which can impact your daughter's development.
14How do you handle money and financial responsibility?
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How do you handle money and financial responsibility?
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Why this works
Shows his financial maturity and whether he has responsible money management habits.
15What do you think about respect in a relationship?
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What do you think about respect in a relationship?
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Why this works
Reveals his understanding of mutual respect and whether he values treating his partner with dignity.
16How do you handle disagreements with your parents?
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How do you handle disagreements with your parents?
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Why this works
Shows his family dynamics and whether he can handle conflict in a mature way.
17What are your thoughts on trust and honesty in a relationship?
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What are your thoughts on trust and honesty in a relationship?
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Why this works
Reveals his values around trust and whether he understands the importance of honesty in relationships.
18How do you handle social situations and peer pressure?
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How do you handle social situations and peer pressure?
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Why this works
Shows his social skills and whether he can make independent decisions in group settings.
19What do you think about your future together?
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What do you think about your future together?
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Why this works
Helps you understand his level of commitment and whether he's thinking seriously about the relationship.
20How do you handle criticism and feedback?
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How do you handle criticism and feedback?
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Why this works
Shows his emotional maturity and whether he can handle constructive feedback without becoming defensive.
Getting to Know Your Daughter's Boyfriend
Expert tips and techniques for getting the most out of these questions.
Creating a Comfortable Environment
Be Welcoming but Observant
Create a warm, welcoming atmosphere while paying attention to his behavior, responses, and how he treats your daughter.
Ask Open-Ended Questions
Use questions that encourage detailed responses rather than yes/no answers to get a better understanding of his character.
Listen to Both Words and Actions
Pay attention to how he treats your daughter, his body language, and whether his actions match his words.
Essential Areas to Explore
Character and Values
Future Orientation
Relationship Skills
Common Pitfalls to Avoid
Don't Interrogate
Avoid rapid-fire questions that feel like an interrogation. Space out questions and let the conversation flow naturally.
Avoid Being Overly Critical
Don't look for reasons to dislike him. Be fair and objective while still being protective of your daughter.
Don't Ignore Red Flags
If you notice concerning behavior or responses, don't dismiss them. Trust your instincts as a parent.