Questions to Ask Your New Friends
Thoughtful questions to ask new friends that help you get to know them better, build deeper connections, and create meaningful relationships while respecting boundaries and showing genuine interest.
1What's something you're really passionate about that you could talk about for hours?
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What's something you're really passionate about that you could talk about for hours?
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Why this works
This question opens up a conversation about their interests and passions, showing you're genuinely interested in what excites them and what they care about most.
2What's the best piece of advice you've ever received, and who gave it to you?
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What's the best piece of advice you've ever received, and who gave it to you?
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Why this works
This question invites them to share wisdom and meaningful experiences while showing you value their insights and the people who have influenced them.
3If you could have dinner with anyone, living or dead, who would it be and why?
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If you could have dinner with anyone, living or dead, who would it be and why?
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Why this works
This question reveals their values, interests, and what they admire while being universally engaging and opening up deeper conversation.
4What's something you've always wanted to try but haven't had the chance to yet?
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What's something you've always wanted to try but haven't had the chance to yet?
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Why this works
This question shows you're interested in their dreams and aspirations while creating opportunities for future shared experiences and adventures.
5What's your favorite way to spend a lazy Sunday?
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What's your favorite way to spend a lazy Sunday?
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Why this works
This question gives insight into their personality and preferences while being light and easy to answer, helping you understand what they value in downtime.
6What's something that always makes you laugh, no matter what?
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What's something that always makes you laugh, no matter what?
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Why this works
This question explores their sense of humor and what brings them joy, helping you understand their personality and what makes them happy.
7If you could travel anywhere in the world, where would you go and what would you do there?
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If you could travel anywhere in the world, where would you go and what would you do there?
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Why this works
This question reveals their travel interests and dreams while opening up conversations about places, cultures, and experiences they find appealing.
8What's something you're really good at that you're proud of?
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What's something you're really good at that you're proud of?
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Why this works
This question allows them to share their strengths and achievements while showing you value their talents and accomplishments.
9What's your favorite childhood memory, and why does it stand out to you?
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What's your favorite childhood memory, and why does it stand out to you?
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Why this works
This question invites them to share meaningful personal experiences while helping you understand what they value and what has shaped them.
10What's something you've learned recently that really excited you?
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What's something you've learned recently that really excited you?
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Why this works
This question shows you're interested in their growth and learning while demonstrating your appreciation for their curiosity and intellectual interests.
11If you could have any superpower, what would it be and how would you use it?
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If you could have any superpower, what would it be and how would you use it?
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Why this works
This question is fun and creative while revealing their values and what they care about most, opening up imaginative conversation.
12What's something you're looking forward to in the next few months?
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What's something you're looking forward to in the next few months?
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Why this works
This question shows you're interested in their future plans and excitement while creating opportunities for follow-up conversations and shared experiences.
13What's your favorite way to relax and unwind after a stressful day?
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What's your favorite way to relax and unwind after a stressful day?
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Why this works
This question gives insight into their self-care practices and what they value in terms of relaxation and stress relief.
14What's something you've always wanted to learn or get better at?
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What's something you've always wanted to learn or get better at?
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Why this works
This question shows you're interested in their growth and aspirations while creating opportunities for shared learning experiences.
15What's your favorite book, movie, or TV show, and what do you love about it?
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What's your favorite book, movie, or TV show, and what do you love about it?
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Why this works
This question explores their entertainment preferences and what resonates with them, helping you understand their tastes and interests.
16What's something you're grateful for today?
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What's something you're grateful for today?
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Why this works
This question invites them to share positive thoughts and appreciation while showing you value gratitude and positive thinking.
17What's your favorite way to celebrate a special occasion or achievement?
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What's your favorite way to celebrate a special occasion or achievement?
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Why this works
This question reveals their values around celebration and achievement while showing you're interested in understanding what makes them feel special.
18What's something you've always wanted to tell someone but never had the chance to?
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What's something you've always wanted to tell someone but never had the chance to?
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Why this works
This question creates a safe space for them to share something meaningful while showing you're interested in understanding their deeper thoughts and feelings.
19What's your favorite way to spend time with friends or family?
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What's your favorite way to spend time with friends or family?
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Why this works
This question explores their relationship values and preferences while showing you're interested in understanding how they connect with others.
20What's something you're really looking forward to learning about or exploring in the future?
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What's something you're really looking forward to learning about or exploring in the future?
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Why this works
This question shows you're interested in their future interests and growth while creating opportunities for shared exploration and learning.
Best Practices for New Friend Conversations
Expert tips and techniques for getting the most out of these questions.
Best Practices
Be Genuinely Interested
Show genuine interest in their responses and ask follow-up questions that demonstrate you're listening and want to learn more about them.
Share Your Own Experiences
While the focus should be on learning about them, sharing your own experiences can create a deeper connection and more engaging conversation.
Respect Boundaries
Be mindful of their comfort level and don't push for information they're not ready to share. Let the conversation flow naturally and respect their privacy.
Question Sequences
The Passion Explorer Sequence
The Experience Builder Sequence
Common Pitfalls
Don't Ask Too Personal Questions Too Soon
Avoid asking very personal or sensitive questions early in the friendship. Build trust and rapport before asking about deeper personal topics.
Don't Interrupt Their Responses
Give them time to fully answer your questions. Interrupting can make them feel rushed and may prevent you from getting the full value of their responses.
Don't Focus Only on Yourself
While sharing your own experiences can be valuable, make sure the conversation is balanced and focused on learning about them as well.