20 Questions

Questions to Ask Yourself Before Therapy

Navigate the decision to start therapy with thoughtful self-reflection questions that help you understand your needs, goals, and readiness while ensuring you choose the right therapeutic approach.

1

What specific issues or challenges am I hoping to address in therapy?

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Why this works

Clarifies your goals while helping you understand what you want to work on and what outcomes you're seeking.

2

What's my motivation for seeking therapy at this time?

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Why this works

Reveals your readiness while helping you understand what's driving your decision to seek help now.

3

What type of therapeutic approach or style would work best for me?

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Why this works

Shows your preferences while helping you understand what kind of therapy and therapist would be most effective for you.

4

What are my expectations for therapy and what I hope to achieve?

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Why this works

Sets realistic goals while helping you understand what you expect from therapy and what you hope to accomplish.

5

How comfortable am I with discussing personal and sensitive topics?

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Assesses your readiness while revealing your comfort level with vulnerability and sharing personal information.

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What's my approach to handling difficult emotions and conversations?

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Why this works

Shows your emotional readiness while revealing how you typically handle challenging feelings and discussions.

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How do I handle feedback and guidance from others?

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Why this works

Demonstrates your openness while revealing your ability to receive and process feedback and suggestions.

8

What's my approach to making changes in my life and behavior?

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Why this works

Shows your commitment while revealing your willingness and ability to make changes and implement new strategies.

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How do I handle the responsibility of working on my mental health?

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Why this works

Demonstrates your commitment while revealing your understanding of the work involved in therapy and personal growth.

10

What's my approach to working with different types of people and personalities?

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Why this works

Shows your adaptability while revealing your ability to work with various types of therapists and therapeutic styles.

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How do I handle the challenge of being vulnerable and open with others?

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Why this works

Demonstrates your emotional readiness while revealing your comfort level with vulnerability and emotional expression.

12

What's my approach to working with different types of therapeutic techniques?

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Why this works

Shows your flexibility while revealing your openness to various therapeutic approaches and methods.

13

How do I handle the responsibility of maintaining confidentiality and trust?

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Why this works

Demonstrates your understanding while revealing your approach to building and maintaining therapeutic relationships.

14

What's my approach to working with different types of mental health challenges?

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Why this works

Shows your awareness while revealing your understanding of mental health issues and your readiness to address them.

15

How do I handle the challenge of balancing therapy with other life commitments?

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Why this works

Demonstrates your planning skills while revealing how you'll integrate therapy into your life and manage competing demands.

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What's my approach to working with different types of therapeutic relationships?

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Why this works

Shows your interpersonal skills while revealing your ability to build and maintain therapeutic relationships.

17

How do I handle the responsibility of taking care of my mental health?

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Why this works

Demonstrates your self-care awareness while revealing your commitment to maintaining your mental health and well-being.

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What's my approach to working with different types of therapeutic goals and outcomes?

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Why this works

Shows your goal-setting skills while revealing your ability to set and work toward therapeutic objectives.

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What's the most important thing I hope to gain from therapy?

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Why this works

Focuses on your primary goals while revealing what you consider most valuable for your mental health and personal growth.

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What's my vision for my mental health and how do I plan to achieve it?

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Why this works

Shows your long-term thinking while revealing your mental health goals and strategies for achieving them.

Preparing for Therapy Success

Expert tips and techniques for getting the most out of these questions.

Best Practices

Be Honest with Yourself

Answer these questions honestly and openly. This self-reflection is crucial for finding the right therapist and approach for your needs.

Consider Your Goals

Think about what you want to achieve in therapy and what outcomes you're seeking. This helps you find the right therapeutic approach.

Assess Your Readiness

Consider your emotional readiness and commitment to the therapeutic process. Therapy requires vulnerability and active participation.

Question Sequences

The Goal Setter

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What specific issues or challenges am I hoping to address in therapy?
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What are my expectations for therapy and what I hope to achieve?
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What's the most important thing I hope to gain from therapy?

The Readiness Assessor

1
What's my motivation for seeking therapy at this time?
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How comfortable am I with discussing personal and sensitive topics?
3
What's my approach to handling difficult emotions and conversations?

Common Pitfalls

Don't Rush the Process

Take time to reflect on these questions. Rushing into therapy without proper preparation can lead to poor outcomes and wasted time.

Avoid Unrealistic Expectations

Don't expect therapy to be a quick fix. It's a process that requires time, effort, and commitment to see meaningful results.

Don't Ignore Your Comfort Level

Consider your comfort level with vulnerability and emotional expression. This is crucial for finding the right therapeutic approach.

Conversation Templates

The Goal Setter

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Step 1: Start with: "What specific issues or challenges am I hoping to address in therapy?"
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Step 2: Follow with: "What are my expectations for therapy and what I hope to achieve?"
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Step 3: Deepen with: "What's the most important thing I hope to gain from therapy?"

The Readiness Assessor

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Step 1: Begin with: "What's my motivation for seeking therapy at this time?"
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Step 2: Explore with: "How comfortable am I with discussing personal and sensitive topics?"
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Step 3: Connect with: "What's my approach to handling difficult emotions and conversations?"

Further Reading

"The Gift of Therapy" by Irvin D. Yalom
"Maybe You Should Talk to Someone" by Lori Gottlieb
"The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel van der Kolk

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