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5 Questions to Ask Before Dying

Five profound questions to ask yourself before death to reflect on life's meaning, evaluate choices, repair relationships, express love, and find peace with your legacy.

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Did I love well and let the people I care about know how much they meant to me?

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Relationships are what matter most—ensure you've expressed love and gratitude before it's too late.

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Did I live authentically and true to my values, or did I let fear hold me back?

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Regret often comes from unlived life—assess whether you honored your truth.

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What impact did I have on others, and what will I be remembered for?

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Legacy isn't about fame—it's about how you made people feel and the ripples you created.

4

Is there anyone I need to forgive, or who needs to forgive me?

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Unresolved conflict weighs on the soul—seek reconciliation and let go of grudges.

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Did I experience joy, wonder, and presence, or did I spend my life waiting for the right moment?

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Life is now, not later—reflects on whether you truly lived or merely existed.

Reflecting on a Life Well-Lived

Expert tips and techniques for getting the most out of these questions.

Living with the End in Mind

Don't Wait for a Diagnosis to Ask These Questions

Use mortality as a lens for living now—it clarifies priorities and cuts through trivial concerns.

Act on What You Discover

Reflection without action is just rumination—make amends, express love, and live differently.

Share Your Story

Leave behind your wisdom, values, and memories for those who will miss you.

Top Five Regrets of the Dying

What People Regret Most

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I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected
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I wish I hadn't worked so hard at the expense of relationships and joy
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I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings and be vulnerable
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I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends and nurtured relationships
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I wish I had let myself be happier and not taken life so seriously

Acting on Your Reflections

Steps to Take Now

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Step 1: Write letters to the people you love expressing your feelings
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Step 2: Repair broken relationships where possible—apologize or forgive
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Step 3: Create an ethical will or legacy document sharing values and lessons
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Step 4: Spend time on what truly matters—people, experiences, meaning
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Step 5: Let go of grudges, resentments, and things you can't control

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