20 Questions

100 Questions to Ask Your Cousin

Fun and engaging questions to ask your cousin to strengthen your family bond, learn about their life, and create meaningful conversations.

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What's your favorite childhood memory of us together?

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Why this works

This question helps you both reminisce about shared family experiences and strengthens your bond through positive memories.

2

What's something you've always wanted to tell me but never had the chance?

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Why this works

This question creates a safe space for open communication and allows your cousin to share something important they've been holding back.

3

What's your biggest dream or goal right now?

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Why this works

This question reveals your cousin's current aspirations and helps you understand what they're working towards in their life.

4

What's the funniest thing that's happened to you recently?

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Why this works

This question brings lightness and humor to your conversation, helping you both share laughs and positive experiences.

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What's something you're really proud of that you've accomplished?

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Why this works

This question allows your cousin to share their achievements and gives you an opportunity to celebrate their success.

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What's your favorite family tradition and why do you love it?

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Why this works

This question helps you understand what family traditions mean to your cousin and what they value about your shared family culture.

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What's something you wish you could change about your life right now?

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Why this works

This question creates space for vulnerability and allows your cousin to share their challenges and areas for growth.

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What's your favorite way to spend a weekend?

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Why this works

This question reveals your cousin's interests and hobbies, helping you understand what they enjoy doing in their free time.

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What's the best advice you've ever received?

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Why this works

This question allows your cousin to share wisdom that has influenced them and gives you insight into their values and experiences.

10

What's something you're looking forward to in the next year?

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Why this works

This question reveals your cousin's hopes and excitement for the future, helping you understand their priorities and goals.

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What's your favorite family story that you've heard?

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Why this works

This question helps you both explore your family history and share stories that connect you to your shared heritage.

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What's something you've learned about yourself recently?

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Why this works

This question reveals your cousin's self-awareness and growth, showing their capacity for reflection and personal development.

13

What's your favorite way to relax and unwind?

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Why this works

This question helps you understand your cousin's self-care needs and how they prefer to recharge and de-stress.

14

What's something you're grateful for today?

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Why this works

This question promotes gratitude and positive thinking, helping you both focus on the good things in your lives.

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What's your favorite memory of our grandparents or other family members?

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Why this works

This question helps you both connect to your shared family history and remember loved ones who have influenced your lives.

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What's something you've always wanted to try but haven't had the chance?

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Why this works

This question reveals your cousin's interests and aspirations, and might give you ideas for future activities together.

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What's your favorite thing about our family?

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Why this works

This question helps you both appreciate your family's positive qualities and strengthens your sense of family identity.

18

What's something that makes you really happy?

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Why this works

This question reveals what brings joy to your cousin's life and helps you understand what they value most.

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What's your favorite way to celebrate special occasions?

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Why this works

This question helps you understand your cousin's preferences for celebrations and how they like to mark important moments.

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What's something you wish you could tell your younger self?

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Why this works

This question allows your cousin to reflect on their growth and share wisdom they've gained over time.

Best Practices for Cousin Questions

Expert tips and techniques for getting the most out of these questions.

Best Practices

Start with Shared Memories

Begin with questions about shared family experiences and memories to create a foundation of connection and nostalgia.

Focus on Personal Growth

Ask about their current goals, dreams, and what they've learned about themselves to understand their personal journey.

Explore Family Connections

Ask about family traditions, stories, and relationships to strengthen your shared family identity and connection.

Question Sequences

The Memory Explorer

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What's your favorite childhood memory of us together?
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What's your favorite family story that you've heard?
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What's your favorite memory of our grandparents or other family members?
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What's your favorite thing about our family?

The Personal Growth Explorer

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What's your biggest dream or goal right now?
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What's something you're really proud of that you've accomplished?
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What's something you've learned about yourself recently?
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What's something you wish you could tell your younger self?

Common Pitfalls

Don't Ask About Sensitive Family Issues

Avoid asking about family conflicts, personal problems, or other sensitive topics that might create tension or discomfort.

Avoid Asking About Personal Finances

Don't ask about personal financial situations or family income. Focus on personal experiences and relationships instead.

Don't Make Assumptions About Their Life

Ask open-ended questions that allow your cousin to describe their experiences rather than making assumptions about their life or choices.

Question Templates

The Memory Explorer

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Step 1: Start with: "What's your favorite childhood memory of us together?"
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Step 2: Follow with: "What's your favorite family story that you've heard?"
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Step 3: Explore with: "What's your favorite memory of our grandparents or other family members?"
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Step 4: Assess with: "What's your favorite thing about our family?"

The Personal Growth Explorer

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Step 1: Start with: "What's your biggest dream or goal right now?"
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Step 2: Follow with: "What's something you're really proud of that you've accomplished?"
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Step 3: Explore with: "What's something you've learned about yourself recently?"
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Step 4: Assess with: "What's something you wish you could tell your younger self?"

Further Reading

The Art of Conversation by Catherine Blyth
How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie
The Charisma Myth by Olivia Fox Cabane

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