Interesting Questions to Ask a Girl
For anyone who has used up 'what do you do' and 'any siblings' and wants questions a girl has not already answered many times over, in person, on a date or over text. The 100 interesting questions to ask a girl here come in six groups, in the order a conversation tends to use them: stories from her life, what-ifs, opinions she will defend, what she knows that most people do not, things she has changed her mind about and her take on people.
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The questions
Each question, and why to ask it
Her stories
What's something about you that surprises people once they get to know you?
Why ask it
She is reporting what other people have actually said, which is easier than deciding on the spot what is interesting about herself. Expect a contrast: the quiet one who plays drums, the planner whose car is a mess. Ask who was the most surprised to find out.
What's your hidden talent, and how did you find out you had it?
Why ask it
The talent can be small: wiggling her ears, parallel parking in one move, naming a song from two notes. How she discovered it is the story, so do not let her skip that half. If it can be shown on the spot, ask for a demonstration.
What's the most adventurous thing you've ever said yes to?
Why ask it
'Said yes to' brings in the friend who dared her or the trip she nearly cancelled, which beats a list of extreme sports. Her idea of adventure might be a zip line or moving to a new city alone, and both count. Would she say yes again?
What's on your bucket list that nobody would guess from looking at you?
Why ask it
The second half steers her past Paris and skydiving toward the odd one, like driving a tractor or learning to weld. What put it on the list is worth asking. If it could be done within an hour of where you live, remember it.
What's a story you always end up telling when you meet new people?
Why ask it
Everyone has one polished story, and she already knows it goes over well, which makes this an easy ask early on. When she finishes, ask for the part she usually leaves out. That version is the one her friends have heard.
What's the best gift you've ever been given, and who knew you well enough to pick it?
Why ask it
Price rarely has anything to do with it. She ends up describing the giver more than the gift, and you learn what being paid attention to looks like for her. Remember the answer, and do not announce that you are taking notes.
Where's the most beautiful place you've ever stood?
Why ask it
'Stood' asks for one exact spot, a ridge, a rooftop or the end of a pier, and she will usually remember the weather and who was next to her. If she has a photo, ask to see it. A place twenty minutes from her house is as good an answer as one on another continent.
Where's the farthest you've ever been from home, and what took you there?
Why ask it
Distance alone is a fact, and 'what took you there' turns it into a trip with a reason: a wedding, a school exchange, a parent's job. If she has never been far, switch to the place she most wants to reach. Ask what felt most different when she stepped outside.
What did you want to be when you were seven, and how long did that plan last?
Why ask it
Seven-year-old plans are things like marine biologist, pop star or owner of a horse farm, and most of them ended for a funny reason. Find out what ended hers. Sometimes a piece of the plan is still alive in what she does now, and she will enjoy noticing it.
What did your summers look like when you were a kid?
Why ask it
This is the favorite childhood memory question made easier to answer, since summers come back as a whole picture: a cousin's pool, a library card, a bike and no schedule. One particular summer usually pushes forward. Go with that one and ask how old she was.
What rule did you break as a kid that you'd break again?
Why ask it
This gets a small crime told with pride: reading under the covers, sneaking the dog onto the bed, climbing the one tree that was off limits. Whether she was caught is the follow-up. You also hear which rules she thinks are worth ignoring.
How did you earn your first money, and what did you spend it on?
Why ask it
The job is the short half: babysitting, a lemonade stand, refereeing little kids' soccer. What she bought is funnier, since first money tends to go on something gloriously unwise. Find out whether she still has it.
What's the weirdest dream you can still remember?
Why ask it
Dreams are hard to retell, so expect laughing and 'it made sense at the time'. Stay out of interpreting it. A better second question is whether she has one that keeps coming back.
What are you a little afraid of that you know makes no sense?
Why ask it
An irrational fear nearly always has an origin story, whether it is moths, escalators or the drain at the deep end of the pool, and she will tell it laughing. Laugh with her and leave it there. Testing the fear later with a photo or a prank is how you lose the right to hear the next story.
What's the best meal you've ever eaten, and where were you sitting?
Why ask it
Good meals are remembered as scenes, so you get a plastic table by a beach or a grandmother's kitchen along with the food. Who else was at the table matters as much as the dish. Over text, this one works well around dinner time.
What's the nicest thing a stranger has ever done for you?
Why ask it
These stories are small and vivid: someone who ran after her with a dropped wallet, or covered a bus fare when her card failed. People tend to remember exactly where they were standing. Tell yours afterward, since nearly everyone has one.
What's the last thing you did for the very first time?
Why ask it
A fast answer usually means she tries new things often. A long pause is a good answer too, and tends to end in 'I need to fix that'. Either way, find out what is next on her list of firsts and whether it is the kind of thing that needs company.
What have you kept for years that anyone else would have thrown out?
Why ask it
Whatever it is, a ticket stub or a sweatshirt with more holes than fabric, the object is a door to a year of her life. Ask what it is from, and never make her justify keeping it.
What's the best coincidence that's ever happened to you?
Why ask it
People love telling these because nobody quite believes them: the neighbor met in an airport abroad, the new friend found in the background of an old vacation photo. Believe her out loud. It leads easily into whether she thinks such things mean anything.
What's the best concert, game or live event you've ever been in the crowd for?
Why ask it
You are asking about a night more than about the act, so find out who she went with and how close they got. If she has never been to one, ask who she would see first. That gives you something to look up later.
What if
If you could invite any three people from any time to dinner, who's at the table?
Why ask it
Three is the trick, because she has to think about how they would get along. A grandparent she never met often takes one seat, and that is worth a question of its own. Then find out what she would serve and who she would sit beside.
If you got one superpower but everyone knew you had it, which would you choose?
Why ask it
The catch changes the usual answers, because mind reading and invisibility lose their appeal once people know. Let her reason it out loud, which is the fun part. Then ask what job she would end up doing with it.
If you could wake up tomorrow having mastered one skill, what would it be?
Why ask it
Her pick is either useful (a language, coding) or pure joy (the piano, a backflip), and which way she goes says something. What would she do with it on day one? If she has always wanted it, a gentle 'what is stopping you' sometimes gets 'nothing, really'.
If you could plan one perfect day with no budget and no travel time, what happens between breakfast and midnight?
Why ask it
Taking out travel time lets her have breakfast in one country and dinner in another, and some people still choose to stay in their own town. Listen for who is in the day and which hours she keeps to herself. The afternoon is often something the two of you could really do.
If you were stuck on an island for a month with one album, one book and one meal on repeat, what are you bringing?
Why ask it
The desert island question, narrowed so that every pick is something she has to live with thirty times over. The meal is where people struggle, because a favorite and a thing you could eat daily are not the same. Argue for your own three and see whose island sounds more bearable.
If you could live in any city for exactly one year, where would you unpack?
Why ask it
A one-year limit frees people to pick somewhere impractical, since they are not choosing forever. Have her describe an ordinary Tuesday there. If she has already visited, you get a travel story as well.
If you could travel in time just once, would you go back or forward, and how far?
Why ask it
People who go back usually want to see something, and people who go forward want to know something. A short jump, such as twenty years back to meet her parents at her age, is often the most interesting answer. What would she bring home as proof?
If you could trade lives with anyone for one day, whose day would you take?
Why ask it
A single day keeps it playful: an astronaut, her own dog, a singer on tour, her little brother. What she wants to find out during that day is the real answer. Turn it around and ask what the other person would learn from a day as her.
If money were taken care of for life, what would you do with your weekdays?
Why ask it
'Weekdays' is there so she cannot just say travel. After the first month of beaches, what she would still get up for is close to what she loves. Some people would keep their job, and that tells you plenty as well.
If you had to eat one country's food for the rest of your life, which country wins?
Why ask it
A staple for a reason: everyone has an answer and everyone will defend it. Make her name the three dishes that settled it. On a date this doubles as research for where to eat next.
If you wrote a book about your life so far, what would the title be?
Why ask it
Give her a minute, since the good titles take a couple of tries. It will be a joke or surprisingly sincere, and either is a summary of how she sees the last few years. The name of the current chapter makes a good second round.
If a door opened once into any fictional world, which one would you walk through?
Why ask it
Would she go as a main character or as someone with a quiet shop in the background? Those are two very different people. The book or series she picks is usually one she lived in for a while, so let her explain the world to you even if you know it.
If you could bring back one thing that no longer exists, like a store, a show or a snack, what's returning?
Why ask it
Discontinued snacks get more passion than you would expect. It is nostalgia on a small scale, and it opens onto what her life was like when the thing was around. If you remember it too, you have ten minutes of conversation right there.
If you could relive one day of your life without changing anything, which day would you choose?
Why ask it
'Without changing anything' takes regret off the table and leaves the good days. It is often an ordinary one, a beach day with cousins or a last day of school. The hour of that day she would slow down is the detail to go after.
If you were designing your dream house, which one room would it have that most houses don't?
Why ask it
That room, a library with a ladder or a pottery studio or nothing but a trampoline, is a picture of how she would spend her time if nothing stopped her. Who would be allowed in?
If you could have the true answer to one unsolved mystery, which would you want?
Why ask it
Some people go cosmic (is anyone out there), some go historical, and some want to know who took their bike in seventh grade. All three are good. See whether she would tell the world or keep the answer to herself.
If you could see one statistic about your own life, which number would you ask for?
Why ask it
She may need an example to get going, so bring one: miles walked, hours spent waiting for one particular friend, how many times she has passed a stranger who later mattered. The number she asks for shows what she is curious about in her own story.
Which game show or competition show do you honestly think you could win?
Why ask it
'Honestly' matters, because she has to weigh real strengths: trivia, staying calm, baking under pressure, getting along with anyone. The round that would sink her is the funny half. If she picks a team show, find out who she would bring.
Opinions
What's your most unpopular opinion about food?
Why ask it
Low stakes and high conviction, which is the right mix for a first debate. Disagree with her a little, cheerfully, and see how she argues. Someone who can defend ketchup on eggs with a straight face is fun to have dinner with.
What's wildly overrated, and what actually deserves its hype?
Why ask it
Asking for both keeps it from becoming a list of complaints. The overrated half comes fast, and the half she praises usually takes more thought and says more. If she calls something you love overrated, hear her full case before you defend it.
What pet peeve of yours do you know is a little unfair?
Why ask it
Everyone has the standard ones, like loud chewing and slow walkers. Adding 'a little unfair' gets the oddly specific one, with a laugh at herself attached. Quietly check whether you do it.
Do you believe in ghosts, aliens, both or neither?
Why ask it
Most people split the two, and the reasoning for the split is the entertainment. A yes on ghosts nearly always comes with a story, so ask for it. Keep your skepticism friendly, because nobody tells a ghost story to someone rolling their eyes.
Does your zodiac sign fit you, or is the whole thing nonsense?
Why ask it
Believers will give you their sign and three traits to prove it, and skeptics tend to know their sign anyway and can say exactly where it gets them wrong. Both answers end up as a description of her own personality. Do not use it to announce whether your signs are compatible.
Is there a conspiracy theory you find a little too convincing?
Why ask it
Keep it in the harmless range, like a pop star's supposed double or what a fast food chain really puts in its sauce. She gets to play detective, and you see how she handles evidence. If it drifts toward something that targets real people, change the subject.
What movie do you think is perfect from the first scene to the last?
Why ask it
'Perfect' is a higher bar than favorite, and she may have to rule out a few before landing. If you have not seen it, offering to watch it is a better reply than a review of the trailer. If you have, name the scene you would defend.
Which decade had the best music, and what's your evidence?
Why ask it
Asking for evidence turns a preference into a case, and she will start listing songs. Put one on if you can. Her answer often traces back to what played in a parent's car, which is a nice thing to ask about.
Has the movie ever been better than the book?
Why ask it
Readers have strong feelings and at least one example either way. If she does not read much, switch it to whether a remake has ever beaten the original. You come away with a list of what she has read and loved.
What trend do you hope never comes back?
Why ask it
Fashion is the usual target, and the real question is whether she took part. If she did, there are photos. Offering one of your own from the same years is the fair way to ask to see hers.
What do people call a waste of time that you think is time well spent?
Why ask it
This is the guilty pleasure question with the guilt taken out, so she gets to defend reality TV or rearranging her room for the third time. Let her win. What she gets from it that the critics are missing is the answer worth hearing.
What should everyone try at least once?
Why ask it
She will name something she has done, so this is a recommendation with a story behind it: a night train, a movie alone, a job in food service. Find out what it did for her. If you have not tried it, say so and ask how to start.
What do most people treat as normal that you find strange?
Why ask it
The answers are small and say how closely she watches everyday life: clapping when a plane lands, eating lunch at a desk, saying 'we should catch up' with no plan to. Add your own and you will have a running list by the end of the night.
Which unwritten rule do you wish everyone would agree to drop?
Why ask it
Whatever she wants dropped, replying to texts within minutes or bringing a gift to every gathering, is something she is tired of performing. Ask what she would put in its place. If it is the texting one, take the hint.
Would you want to be famous, and if so, what kind of famous?
Why ask it
The second half does the work: known in one small field, recognized in every airport, or a name on a book that nobody can put a face to. Many people want the work without the attention. What she would want to be known for is the next question.
Is a white lie ever the kind thing to do, and where's your line?
Why ask it
Have an example ready: the haircut, the gift, the dinner that went wrong. Most people allow some and then draw a firm line somewhere, and where it falls is the interesting part. You also find out whether she wants the truth about her own haircut.
Do you think everything happens for a reason, or is that something people say to feel better?
Why ask it
Her answer is usually built on one event, something that went wrong and led somewhere good, or something that did not. Ask which. It is bigger than a food debate, so if she answers in a sentence, take the sentence and move on.
What she knows
What could you give a ten-minute talk on with no time to prepare?
Why ask it
The subject is whatever she has been quietly studying for years: a band's whole history, sourdough, why one sports trade was a disaster. Ask for the first two minutes. People are at their most likable when explaining something they love, so let it run.
What's a random fact you love that most people haven't heard?
Why ask it
Have one of your own to trade, since a fact for a fact keeps this from being a quiz. Where she picked hers up tells you what she reads and watches. Over text, this can run for days with one new fact each morning.
What's the best thing you know how to cook, and who taught you?
Why ask it
A dish she can make without a recipe usually has a person attached. If she does not cook, ask what she makes when she has to, which gets a funnier answer. Either way, do not ask her to make it for you.
What movie or show could you quote from start to finish?
Why ask it
It is almost never the one she would name as her favorite. It is the one she watched forty times at eleven, or the one a sibling ran on a loop. Request a line, delivered properly, and be ready to give one back from yours.
If I had one day in the place you grew up, where would you send me?
Why ask it
She becomes the tour guide, and the stops are personal: the diner, the lookout, the field behind the school. Which one she misses most is the follow-up. It works for a town of four hundred as well as for a big city.
What's the most interesting thing you've learned in the past year?
Why ask it
It could come from a class, a job or two hours of videos about shipwrecks. Ask how she ran into it. If you do not follow, say so, because people enjoy being asked to explain a thing again more simply.
What could you teach a complete beginner in one afternoon?
Why ask it
It has to be something she is confident enough in to teach: braiding, a card game, changing a tire, the basics of a camera. Volunteer as the beginner if it sounds fun. That is a second meeting planned without calling it one.
What book, podcast or channel do you recommend to nearly everyone?
Why ask it
A recommendation is a small piece of her taste handed over. Actually try it, then come back with one specific thing you noticed. Following up a week later is worth more than anything you say in the moment.
Which trivia category would you carry a whole team in?
Why ask it
Test her with one question if you can think of a fair one. Then find the category she would hide under the table for. Those two answers together make a decent map of her interests.
What's your favorite word, in any language, and why that one?
Why ask it
Some people pick for the sound and some for the meaning, and a word from a language her family speaks often arrives with a story. If she has never thought about it, give her yours first. A good one to send as a text and leave overnight.
What did a grandparent or older relative teach you that you still use?
Why ask it
This one stays light because it is about a skill and not a loss: how to tell when bread is done, how to haggle, how to whistle with two fingers. If she can show you, ask her to. Let her decide how much to say about the person.
What did you learn the hard way that you'd save a friend from?
Why ask it
Keep the tone practical. The answers are usually things like reading the lease, backing up photos or not cutting her own bangs at midnight. Find out how bad the lesson was, and laugh only once she does.
What's the most useful thing the internet has taught you?
Why ask it
You find out what she goes looking for when she is stuck, whether that was a repair, a recipe or how to word a difficult email. The thing she tried to learn the same way that went badly is usually the better story.
What place do you know better than anyone else you know?
Why ask it
It might be a hiking trail, one museum, a thrift store or a single stretch of coast. Ask what a first-time visitor would miss. If the place is close, asking for a tour is the obvious next step.
What stretch of history could you read about forever?
Why ask it
What first pulled her in is often a movie or a school project, and the era can be anything from ancient Egypt to the space race to one doomed expedition. If history is not her thing, swap in science or a sport and ask again.
Changed mind
What's the most recent thing you changed your mind about, big or small?
Why ask it
Recent ones are small and specific: a food, a coworker, whether mornings are bearable. Ask what did it, an argument, a person or just trying the thing. If nothing comes to mind, offer a small one of your own to set the size, because 'mushrooms' is a perfectly good answer.
What were you completely sure about at fifteen that you've reversed on?
Why ask it
Fifteen is far enough back to laugh at. It might be a band, a career plan or a firm belief about who was cool. Find out whether a person changed it or just time, and admit one of your own.
What did your parents turn out to be right about?
Why ask it
It usually comes with an eye-roll, since admitting it still stings: sunscreen, sleep, a friend they never trusted. Has she told them? If family is a complicated subject for her, any adult from her childhood will do.
What's the best advice you ignored, and when did you realize it was good?
Why ask it
There are two moments in the answer, the one where she heard it and the one where it landed, and the gap between them is the story. Do not pile on with 'I could have told you that'. See whether she passes the same advice on now.
What did you swear you'd never wear that's now in your closet?
Why ask it
Tastes move, and she will have a specific item in mind, probably one a younger version of her mocked. Who or what converted her? It is a light one, and good for the middle of a text conversation.
What used to be your entire personality for a year or two?
Why ask it
Horses, one book series, a band, being on the swim team. She will tell it with affection and some embarrassment. There is nearly always something left of it, a poster, a playlist or a skill, so ask what survived.
What interest did you pick up because someone you liked was into it?
Why ask it
Often the interest outlasted the person, whether it was a sport she learned the rules of, a band or a video game. Ask whether hers did. Leave the person alone unless she brings them in.
What did you assume adults had figured out that you now know they haven't?
Why ask it
The answer is funny and slightly alarming: taxes, what to make for dinner every single night, knowing what they want. She will enjoy the company in it. Trade the part of being a grown-up each of you still expects to arrive someday.
What first impression of a place turned out to be wrong?
Why ask it
Asking about a place is easier than asking about a person, and it gets a similar story: a city she hated on day one, a school, a neighborhood that grew on her. The turning point is what to ask for.
What do you spend money on now that your younger self would have called a waste?
Why ask it
Her answer marks where her priorities shifted, usually toward comfort: good pillows, decent coffee, the nicer seat on a long trip. Flip it and ask what her younger self bought that she now thinks was the real waste.
What used to impress you about people that doesn't anymore?
Why ask it
What replaced it tells you what she respects now, and that is the part to stay on. The old list tends to be being busy, being loud or having a lot of followers. Expect to recognize a few of your own old opinions.
What compliment did you used to want that doesn't matter to you now?
Why ask it
The old one is often something like mature for her age, the smart one or low-maintenance, and she can usually say when it stopped feeling like praise. What she would rather hear now is useful to know, so ask. Listen to this one more than you talk.
What goal did you once have that you're glad you never reached?
Why ask it
She needs some distance from it to answer, so save it for a conversation that is already going well. The team she did not make, the school that said no and the plan to move across the country are the usual kind. What she got in its place is the second half.
What have you stopped apologizing for?
Why ask it
There is usually a moment she can point to when she quit saying sorry for it, whether that is leaving early, liking what she likes or needing a quiet day after a loud one. Say 'good' and mean it, then offer one of yours.
People
Who's the most interesting person you've ever met?
Why ask it
It is rarely the most successful one. Expect a great-aunt, a seatmate on a long flight or a boss at a summer job. Ask what that person said or did that she still remembers, and what made them easy to listen to.
What makes someone interesting to you in the first five minutes?
Why ask it
She is describing what holds her attention, which is worth knowing while you are talking to her. Typical answers are good questions, an odd hobby or being unbothered by silence. Take it as information and not as a script.
Who do you look up to who isn't famous?
Why ask it
A cousin, a coach, a friend's mom who started over at forty. Find out what that person does that she is trying to copy. If she names someone her own age, that is high praise, and worth asking whether the friend knows.
Which tells you more about a person: their playlist, their bookshelf or their camera roll?
Why ask it
Once she chooses, the fair follow-up is what hers would give away. Offer to trade one song or one photo each. Go carefully with the camera roll and let her decide what to show.
Who in your life tells the best stories, and which one is their best?
Why ask it
She will retell the story and describe the teller at once, an uncle who does the voices or a friend who never gets to the point. You learn who she loves listening to. See whether she thinks she has inherited any of the technique.
What's the best friendship in any movie, book or show?
Why ask it
Her choice shows what she thinks friendship is for: loyalty, banter, telling each other the truth. Which of the two is she in her own friendships? Because it is about fiction, it can be asked ten minutes after meeting her.
Which famous person do you think would be a good neighbor?
Why ask it
A neighbor is a different test from a friend or a crush: someone who waves, lends a ladder and keeps the noise down. It gets a more thoughtful answer than asking who she would like to meet. Then get the one she would least want next door.
What's the best thing a friend has ever talked you into?
Why ask it
A haircut, a road trip, trying out for something, a dog. It shows whose judgment she trusts and how much pushing she needs. What she has talked that friend into in return is the other half of the story.
What do your closest friends all have in common?
Why ask it
She may not have thought about it, and working it out is the fun. It could be a sense of humor, having come through something, or being bad at replying. The common thread is a description of her own standards.
Where's the best place you know for people-watching, and what do you look for?
Why ask it
Someone who invents life stories for strangers is fun to sit beside, and you can play it together on the spot at an airport gate, a food court or a park bench. Keep it generous: guess where people are headed, and do not pick them apart.
What do people misjudge about each other most often?
Why ask it
Quiet gets read as unfriendly and confidence as competence, and the one she names is frequently something she has been misjudged for herself. If she says so, ask how long it usually takes people to get her right.
What quality do you admire in other people because you don't have it yourself?
Why ask it
Patience, being on time and saying no without a paragraph of explanation come up a lot. It is a modest way of naming what she would like more of. Skip the reassurance and just tell her yours.
What's the difference between being nice and being kind?
Why ask it
Most people have a feel for this and have never put it into words, so give her time. A common answer is that nice is about being liked and kind sometimes costs something. Who is the kindest person she knows?
Do opposites attract, or do people really want someone like themselves?
Why ask it
It sits near a relationship question while staying an opinion. She will think of couples she knows, so ask which pair makes her point. Do not turn it into a quiz about the two of you.
Do people really change, or do they mostly become more of what they already were?
Why ask it
She will reach for a real case: a friend who turned things around, a relative who never did. Whether she thinks she has changed is the natural next step. This can go on for an hour, so save it for a walk and not a text.
What was the best conversation you've had lately, and what made it good?
Why ask it
Her answer describes what she likes in a talk: someone who asked a second question, a subject that kept changing, no phones on the table. That is a set of instructions, so follow them. Suited to the tail of an evening, when you can both tell how this one has gone.
How to ask an interesting question and keep the answer going
Practical guidance for the conversation itself
What makes these work
Ask for a story or a side
An interesting question cannot be answered with a fact. 'Where are you from' gets the name of a town, and 'where would you send me for a day there' gets a tour. If a question on this page falls flat, the fix is usually to ask for one specific time or to make her choose between two things.
The follow-up is the real question
Each note names one. Her first answer is the short version she would give anyone, and the second question is where the story comes out and where she can tell you were listening. 'What happened next', 'who was with you' and 'why that one' work nearly everywhere.
Answer it yourself
Have your own answer ready and give it after hers, shorter than hers. A what-if she answers alone is a quiz. One you both answer is a game, and disagreeing about the best decade for music is half the fun.
Pick two and stay on them
Choose two or three before you see her and leave the rest. When one gets a good answer, stay with it for ten minutes and forget the list. Reading questions off a phone at the table undoes all of it.
In person, on a date or over text
Someone you have just met
Her stories and What if are the easiest groups, with no opinion to get wrong and nothing private in them. The hidden talent, the best gift and the three dinner guests can all be answered standing in a hallway or waiting in a line.
On a date
Opinions and People suit a table, because a friendly disagreement gives the evening some energy. Start with food or music, where nothing is at stake, and let her win at least one. Changed mind goes better after you have been talking for a while, since those answers involve admitting she was wrong about something.
Over text
The what-ifs, the random fact, the favorite word and the perfect movie can be answered in a line or two and picked up again hours later. The island question is made for it, since she can send her three picks and you can send yours. Send one, reply to what she writes before sending another, and leave whether people change and whether things happen for a reason for when you are face to face, where a long answer is easier to give.
When you already know her well
What she knows and Changed mind are the groups that still surprise people who have been together for years. Ask as though you do not already know the answer, because quite often you do not. The most recent thing she changed her mind about has a new answer every few months.
When a question does not land
She says 'I don't know'
She has probably not been asked most of these before, so a blank is normal. Give your own answer first to show the size of answer you mean, or shrink the question: not the best meal of her life, just the best one this year.
The answer is one line
Take it and try a different group. A short answer to an opinion question may only mean she does not care about the subject. Asking the same thing again in other words turns curiosity into pressure.
You disagree with her
Good. Say so lightly, hear her reasons, give yours, and stop before either of you is trying to win. An opinion question is there to show how she thinks, and she is learning the same about you.
It starts to feel like a quiz
The sign is three questions in a row with nothing offered back by either of you. Stop asking, tell her something about your own week, and let her choose the next subject. When she asks you one of these in return, it is working.
A light question turns serious
A question about what a grandparent taught her or a goal she missed can touch something sad. Listen, do not hurry to cheer her up, and let her be the one to change the subject. Afterward, go back to something easy, like the food debate.