20 Questions

Questions to Ask About Dreams

Thoughtful questions to explore dreams, aspirations, and life goals with others, helping you understand their hopes, fears, and what drives them forward.

1

What's a dream you've had for a long time that you're still working toward?

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Why this works

Reveals long-term aspirations and persistence, helping you understand what truly matters to them and what they're willing to invest time and effort in achieving.

2

If you could wake up tomorrow and have achieved any one goal, what would it be?

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Why this works

Helps identify their most important current priority and reveals what they consider their biggest challenge or most desired outcome right now.

3

What's a dream you had as a child that you still think about today?

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Why this works

Shows the continuity of their values and interests over time, and may reveal what they consider their authentic self or true calling.

4

If you had unlimited resources and time, what would you want to accomplish?

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Why this works

Removes practical constraints to reveal their deepest aspirations and what they would pursue if nothing stood in their way.

5

What's a dream you've given up on, and why did you let it go?

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Why this works

Reveals their decision-making process around priorities and may show how they've matured or what they've learned about themselves through experience.

6

If you could change one thing about the world, what would it be?

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Why this works

Shows their values and what they care about beyond personal gain, revealing their sense of purpose and what they consider important for society.

7

What's something you've always wanted to learn or master?

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Why this works

Reveals their interests in personal growth and development, and may uncover hidden talents or passions they haven't yet explored.

8

If you could live anywhere in the world, where would you choose and why?

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Why this works

Reveals their lifestyle preferences, values, and what kind of environment they find inspiring or fulfilling.

9

What's a dream that scares you but also excites you?

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Why this works

Identifies their biggest challenges and growth opportunities, showing what they're afraid of but also what they're drawn to for personal development.

10

If you could be remembered for one thing, what would you want it to be?

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Why this works

Reveals their legacy goals and what they consider their most important contribution or impact they want to have on the world.

11

What's a dream you have for someone else (family, friends, community)?

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Why this works

Shows their care for others and what they want for the people they love, revealing their values around relationships and community.

12

If you could go back in time and change one decision, what would it be?

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Why this works

Reveals regrets and what they consider important life lessons, showing what they've learned about themselves and their priorities.

13

What's something you've always wanted to create or build?

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Why this works

Reveals their creative aspirations and what kind of impact they want to have through their work or projects.

14

If you could have any job in the world, what would it be?

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Why this works

Shows their ideal career aspirations and what kind of work they find most meaningful or fulfilling.

15

What's a dream that seems impossible but you still hope for?

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Why this works

Reveals their deepest hopes and what they're willing to believe in despite obstacles, showing their optimism and determination.

16

If you could have any superpower to help others, what would you choose?

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Why this works

Shows their values around helping others and what kind of impact they want to have, revealing their sense of purpose and service.

17

What's a dream you have for your future self in 10 years?

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Why this works

Reveals their long-term vision for themselves and what they hope to have accomplished or become over the next decade.

18

If you could solve any problem in the world, what would it be?

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Why this works

Shows what issues they care about most and what kind of positive change they want to see in the world.

19

What's something you've always wanted to experience but haven't yet?

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Why this works

Reveals their bucket list items and what experiences they consider important for a fulfilling life.

20

If you could give your younger self one piece of advice about pursuing dreams, what would it be?

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Why this works

Shows what they've learned about goal-setting and dream-pursuit, revealing their wisdom about what works and what doesn't in achieving aspirations.

How to Have Meaningful Conversations About Dreams

Expert tips and techniques for getting the most out of these questions.

Best Practices

Create a Safe, Non-Judgmental Space

Make it clear that all dreams are valid and worthy of discussion. Avoid dismissing or minimizing their aspirations, no matter how unrealistic they may seem.

Share Your Own Dreams

Model vulnerability by sharing your own dreams and aspirations. This creates mutual trust and encourages deeper sharing.

Ask Follow-up Questions

Show genuine interest by asking follow-up questions about their dreams. This helps them explore their aspirations more deeply and shows you care.

Question Sequences

The Personal Aspiration Series

1
What's a dream you've had for a long time?
2
If you could achieve any one goal tomorrow, what would it be?
3
What's something you've always wanted to learn?
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What's a dream that scares you but excites you?

The Legacy and Impact Series

1
If you could change one thing about the world, what would it be?
2
What would you want to be remembered for?
3
If you could solve any problem, what would it be?
4
What's a dream you have for someone else?

Common Pitfalls

Don't Dismiss or Minimize

Avoid saying things like 'that's unrealistic' or 'that's not practical.' Instead, explore why the dream matters to them and what it represents.

Don't Focus Only on Achievable Dreams

Some of the most meaningful dreams are the ones that seem impossible. These often reveal the person's deepest values and aspirations.

Don't Make It About You

While sharing your own dreams is good, don't turn the conversation into a competition or make it all about your own aspirations.

Conversation Templates

The Dream Exploration Session

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Step 1: Start with a broad question about their dreams
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Step 2: Ask follow-up questions to understand why it matters
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Step 3: Explore what's holding them back or what they need
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Step 4: Share your own related dreams or experiences
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Step 5: Discuss what the first step might be

The Legacy and Purpose Discussion

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Step 1: Ask about their impact goals
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Step 2: Explore what they want to be remembered for
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Step 3: Discuss what problems they want to solve
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Step 4: Share your own purpose and legacy goals
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Step 5: Brainstorm ways to work toward these together

Further Reading

"The Dream Giver" by Bruce Wilkinson
"Big Magic" by Elizabeth Gilbert
"The Alchemist" by Paulo Coelho
Goal-setting and personal development resources

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