Questions to Ask Cousins
Meaningful questions to help you connect with your cousins, learn about your family history, and strengthen your relationships with extended family.
1What's your favorite memory from our childhood together?
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What's your favorite memory from our childhood together?
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Why this works
Learning about their favorite memories helps you understand what they value most about your shared history and relationship.
2What do you know about our family history that I might not know?
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What do you know about our family history that I might not know?
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Why this works
Understanding their family knowledge helps you learn about your shared heritage and what stories they've heard.
3What are your biggest dreams and aspirations right now?
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What are your biggest dreams and aspirations right now?
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Why this works
Learning about their dreams helps you understand what they're working toward and how you can support their goals.
4What's been the most challenging thing you've faced recently?
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What's been the most challenging thing you've faced recently?
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Why this works
Understanding their challenges helps you see what they're navigating and how you can provide support.
5What's something you're really proud of accomplishing?
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What's something you're really proud of accomplishing?
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Why this works
Learning about their proudest moments helps you see what they value most and what they consider their greatest achievements.
6What's your favorite thing about our family?
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What's your favorite thing about our family?
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Why this works
Understanding their family perspective helps you see what they value most about your shared heritage and relationships.
7What's something you wish you could change about our family dynamics?
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What's something you wish you could change about our family dynamics?
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Why this works
Learning about their perspective on family helps you see what they'd like to improve and how you can work together.
8What's the best advice you've ever received and who gave it to you?
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What's the best advice you've ever received and who gave it to you?
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Why this works
Learning about their advice helps you understand what wisdom they value most and who has influenced them.
9What's something you're really excited about in your life right now?
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What's something you're really excited about in your life right now?
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Why this works
Understanding their excitement helps you see what's important to them and what they're passionate about.
10What's your favorite way to spend time together?
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What's your favorite way to spend time together?
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Why this works
Learning about their preferences helps you understand what activities they enjoy and how you can create meaningful experiences together.
11What's something you've learned about yourself recently?
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What's something you've learned about yourself recently?
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Why this works
Understanding their self-discovery helps you see how they're growing and what insights they've gained.
12What's your biggest fear and how do you handle it?
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What's your biggest fear and how do you handle it?
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Why this works
Learning about their fears helps you understand what concerns them and how you can provide emotional support.
13What's something you're grateful for in your life right now?
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What's something you're grateful for in your life right now?
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Why this works
Understanding their gratitude helps you see what they value most and what brings them happiness.
14What's your favorite thing about being part of our family?
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What's your favorite thing about being part of our family?
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Why this works
Learning about their family experience helps you understand what they value most about your shared heritage.
15What's something you wish you could do together that we haven't done yet?
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What's something you wish you could do together that we haven't done yet?
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Why this works
Understanding their desires helps you see what experiences they want to share and how you can create new memories together.
16What's your favorite thing about our parents and what have you learned from them?
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What's your favorite thing about our parents and what have you learned from them?
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Why this works
Learning about their perspective on your parents helps you understand their values and what they've learned from your family.
17What's something you're really good at that you wish more people knew about?
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What's something you're really good at that you wish more people knew about?
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Why this works
Understanding their hidden talents helps you see what they're proud of and how you can support their interests.
18What's your favorite thing about your personality and what makes you unique?
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What's your favorite thing about your personality and what makes you unique?
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Why this works
Learning about their self-perception helps you understand how they see themselves and what they value about their character.
19What's something you hope for our relationship in the future?
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What's something you hope for our relationship in the future?
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Why this works
Understanding their hopes helps you see what they want for your relationship and how you can grow together.
20What's the most important thing you want me to know about you?
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What's the most important thing you want me to know about you?
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Why this works
This question gives them the opportunity to share what's most important to them and what they want you to understand.
Strengthening Cousin Relationships
Expert tips and techniques for getting the most out of these questions.
Having Meaningful Conversations
Create a Safe Space
Choose a comfortable, private setting where you can both be honest and vulnerable without judgment.
Listen Without Judgment
Focus on understanding their perspective rather than immediately offering advice or trying to fix their problems.
Share Your Own Experiences
When appropriate, share your own experiences to create mutual understanding and connection.