Questions to Ask Your Cousin's Boyfriend
Friendly questions that help you get to know your cousin's partner, build rapport, and ensure they're a good fit for your family while keeping the conversation light and welcoming.
1How did you and [cousin's name] meet?
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How did you and [cousin's name] meet?
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Why this works
Opens up the conversation with their relationship story, which is usually a safe and interesting topic that shows you care about their connection.
2What do you do for work, and do you enjoy it?
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What do you do for work, and do you enjoy it?
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Why this works
Reveals their career interests and work-life balance while being a standard getting-to-know-you question that's easy to answer.
3What are your hobbies or interests outside of work?
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What are your hobbies or interests outside of work?
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Why this works
Shows you're interested in them as a person and helps you find common ground or interesting topics to discuss.
4Where did you grow up, and what was it like there?
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Where did you grow up, and what was it like there?
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Why this works
Reveals their background and gives you insight into their upbringing and values while being a natural conversation starter.
5What's your family like?
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What's your family like?
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Why this works
Shows you're interested in their family dynamics and helps you understand their background and values.
6How do you like to spend your weekends?
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How do you like to spend your weekends?
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Why this works
Reveals their lifestyle and interests while being a light, easy question that shows you're interested in their daily life.
7What's the best vacation you've ever taken?
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What's the best vacation you've ever taken?
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Why this works
Opens up conversation about travel and experiences while being a fun, positive topic that reveals their interests and values.
8Do you have any pets, or are you a pet person?
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Do you have any pets, or are you a pet person?
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Why this works
Reveals their lifestyle preferences and can be a fun, light topic that shows you're interested in their daily life.
9What kind of music, movies, or books do you enjoy?
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What kind of music, movies, or books do you enjoy?
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Why this works
Helps you find common interests and cultural preferences while being an easy way to connect over shared tastes.
10What's something you're really passionate about?
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What's something you're really passionate about?
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Why this works
Reveals what drives them and shows you're interested in understanding what makes them tick as a person.
11How do you like to celebrate holidays or special occasions?
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How do you like to celebrate holidays or special occasions?
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Why this works
Shows you're thinking about family traditions and helps you understand their approach to important moments.
12What's the most interesting place you've ever been?
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What's the most interesting place you've ever been?
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Why this works
Opens up conversation about travel and experiences while being a positive, engaging topic that reveals their interests.
13Do you have any siblings, and what are they like?
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Do you have any siblings, and what are they like?
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Why this works
Reveals their family dynamics and helps you understand their relationships with family members.
14What's something you're really good at or proud of?
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What's something you're really good at or proud of?
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Why this works
Shows you're interested in their strengths and achievements while being a positive way to learn about their capabilities.
15How do you like to relax after a long day?
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How do you like to relax after a long day?
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Why this works
Reveals their self-care habits and lifestyle preferences while being a light, personal question.
16What's the best meal you've ever had?
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What's the best meal you've ever had?
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Why this works
Opens up conversation about food and experiences while being a fun, light topic that can reveal their tastes and interests.
17Do you have any favorite sports or activities you like to watch or participate in?
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Do you have any favorite sports or activities you like to watch or participate in?
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Why this works
Reveals their interests and can help you find common ground while being an easy topic to discuss.
18What's something you've always wanted to try or learn?
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What's something you've always wanted to try or learn?
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Why this works
Shows you're interested in their goals and dreams while being a positive, forward-looking question.
19How do you like to spend time with friends?
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How do you like to spend time with friends?
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Why this works
Reveals their social preferences and helps you understand how they like to connect with others.
20What's the best advice you've ever received?
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What's the best advice you've ever received?
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Why this works
Shows you're interested in their values and wisdom while being a thoughtful question that can reveal their character.
Best Practices for Getting to Know Your Cousin's Partner
Expert tips and techniques for getting the most out of these questions.
Best Practices
Be Warm and Welcoming
Make them feel comfortable and included in family gatherings. Your cousin chose them, so show respect for their choice while getting to know them.
Find Common Ground
Look for shared interests, experiences, or values that can help you connect and build a positive relationship with them.
Respect Boundaries
Don't ask overly personal questions or pry into their relationship. Focus on getting to know them as a person, not as your cousin's partner.
Question Sequences
The Getting-to-Know-You Sequence
The Family Connection Sequence
Common Pitfalls
Don't Interrogate Them
Avoid firing off question after question. Make it a natural conversation with give and take, not an interview.
Avoid Personal or Intimate Questions
Don't ask about their relationship with your cousin, their finances, or other personal matters. Keep it light and friendly.
Don't Compare Them to Exes
Avoid mentioning your cousin's previous partners or making comparisons. Focus on getting to know them as they are now.