Christian Questions to Ask Before Marriage
Important Christian questions to ask before marriage to ensure spiritual compatibility, shared values, and a strong foundation for your marriage.
1What does marriage mean to you from a biblical perspective?
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What does marriage mean to you from a biblical perspective?
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Why this works
Understanding your partner's biblical view of marriage helps ensure you share the same spiritual foundation and expectations.
2How do you envision God's role in our marriage and family?
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How do you envision God's role in our marriage and family?
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Why this works
Learning about their view of God's role helps you understand how they plan to integrate faith into your daily life together.
3What are your views on prayer and how do you want to pray together?
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What are your views on prayer and how do you want to pray together?
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Why this works
Understanding their prayer practices helps you plan how you'll maintain spiritual intimacy and seek God's guidance together.
4How do you want to raise our children in the Christian faith?
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How do you want to raise our children in the Christian faith?
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Why this works
Learning about their parenting approach helps you ensure you're aligned on how to pass on your faith to future children.
5What are your views on church involvement and ministry?
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What are your views on church involvement and ministry?
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Why this works
Understanding their church commitment helps you plan how you'll serve together and maintain your spiritual community.
6How do you handle conflict and what role does forgiveness play in your relationships?
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How do you handle conflict and what role does forgiveness play in your relationships?
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Why this works
Learning about their conflict resolution approach helps you understand how they'll apply Christian principles to your marriage.
7What are your views on financial stewardship and giving?
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What are your views on financial stewardship and giving?
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Why this works
Understanding their financial values helps you ensure you're aligned on money management and charitable giving.
8How do you want to celebrate Christian holidays and traditions?
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How do you want to celebrate Christian holidays and traditions?
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Why this works
Learning about their holiday traditions helps you plan how you'll celebrate your faith together as a family.
9What are your views on gender roles and biblical submission?
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What are your views on gender roles and biblical submission?
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Why this works
Understanding their views on biblical roles helps you ensure you're aligned on how you'll structure your marriage.
10How do you want to handle differences in spiritual maturity or beliefs?
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How do you want to handle differences in spiritual maturity or beliefs?
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Why this works
Learning about their approach to spiritual differences helps you plan how you'll grow together in your faith.
11What are your views on premarital counseling and spiritual preparation?
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What are your views on premarital counseling and spiritual preparation?
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Why this works
Understanding their commitment to preparation helps you ensure you're both invested in building a strong spiritual foundation.
12How do you want to handle temptations and maintain purity in our relationship?
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How do you want to handle temptations and maintain purity in our relationship?
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Why this works
Learning about their approach to purity helps you understand how you'll maintain boundaries and honor God in your relationship.
13What are your views on mission work and serving others?
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What are your views on mission work and serving others?
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Why this works
Understanding their commitment to service helps you plan how you'll use your marriage to serve God and others.
14How do you want to handle spiritual leadership in our marriage?
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How do you want to handle spiritual leadership in our marriage?
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Why this works
Learning about their views on spiritual leadership helps you understand how you'll share responsibility for your spiritual growth.
15What are your views on divorce and what circumstances would you consider it?
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What are your views on divorce and what circumstances would you consider it?
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Why this works
Understanding their views on divorce helps you ensure you're both committed to working through challenges and maintaining your covenant.
16How do you want to handle spiritual disciplines like Bible study and fasting?
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How do you want to handle spiritual disciplines like Bible study and fasting?
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Why this works
Learning about their spiritual practices helps you plan how you'll maintain your individual and shared spiritual growth.
17What are your views on Christian community and fellowship?
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What are your views on Christian community and fellowship?
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Why this works
Understanding their commitment to community helps you plan how you'll build relationships with other Christian couples and families.
18How do you want to handle spiritual warfare and protecting our marriage?
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How do you want to handle spiritual warfare and protecting our marriage?
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Why this works
Learning about their approach to spiritual warfare helps you understand how you'll protect your marriage from spiritual attacks.
19What are your views on Christian education and how do you want to educate our children?
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What are your views on Christian education and how do you want to educate our children?
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Why this works
Understanding their educational values helps you plan how you'll provide Christian education for your children.
20How do you want to handle spiritual growth and what role does accountability play?
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How do you want to handle spiritual growth and what role does accountability play?
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Why this works
Learning about their approach to growth helps you understand how you'll support each other's spiritual development and maintain accountability.
Building a Christian Marriage Foundation
Expert tips and techniques for getting the most out of these questions.
Approaching These Conversations
Pray Together
Begin and end these conversations with prayer, asking God for wisdom and guidance in your relationship.
Be Honest and Open
Share your true beliefs and values, even if they differ, to ensure you're building on a foundation of honesty.
Seek God's Will
Use these conversations to discern God's will for your relationship and marriage.
Types of Christian Marriage Questions
Faith and Beliefs
Family and Parenting
Marriage and Relationship
Continuing Your Spiritual Journey
Regular Spiritual Check-ins
Make time for regular spiritual conversations and prayer together to maintain your spiritual connection.
Seek God's Guidance
Continue to seek God's guidance in your relationship and be open to His direction for your marriage.
Build Your Foundation
Use these conversations to build a strong spiritual foundation that will support your marriage through all seasons.