20 Questions

Deep Questions to Ask a Christian Guy

Meaningful questions to explore faith, values, and spiritual journey with a Christian man.

1

What does your relationship with God mean to you and how has it shaped who you are?

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Why this works

Reveals the depth of his faith and how it influences his identity, values, and daily life decisions.

2

How do you see God working in your life right now and what are you learning?

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Why this works

Shows his current spiritual journey and reveals his awareness of God's presence and guidance in his life.

3

What is your understanding of love and how does it relate to your faith?

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Why this works

Reveals his theology of love and shows how his faith influences his approach to relationships and emotional connection.

4

How do you handle doubts and questions about your faith?

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Why this works

Shows his intellectual honesty and reveals whether he can engage with difficult questions about his beliefs.

5

What role does prayer play in your daily life and how do you pray?

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Why this works

Reveals his spiritual practices and shows how he maintains his relationship with God on a practical level.

6

How do you see your future spouse fitting into your spiritual life and ministry?

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Why this works

Shows his vision for marriage and reveals his expectations for spiritual partnership and shared ministry.

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What are your thoughts on dating and relationships from a biblical perspective?

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Why this works

Reveals his approach to romantic relationships and shows how his faith influences his dating philosophy.

8

How do you handle temptation and what strategies do you use to stay pure?

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Why this works

Shows his commitment to biblical standards and reveals his approach to maintaining moral integrity.

9

What does forgiveness mean to you and how do you practice it in your relationships?

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Why this works

Reveals his understanding of grace and shows how he handles conflict and reconciliation in relationships.

10

How do you balance your faith with your career and other life priorities?

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Why this works

Shows his ability to integrate faith with practical life and reveals his priorities and decision-making process.

11

What are your thoughts on gender roles in marriage and family life?

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Why this works

Reveals his theology of marriage and shows his expectations for roles and responsibilities in a relationship.

12

How do you handle disagreements with other Christians or church members?

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Why this works

Shows his approach to conflict within the Christian community and reveals his maturity in handling differences.

13

What is your understanding of God's will and how do you seek it in your life?

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Why this works

Reveals his approach to decision-making and shows how he seeks divine guidance in important life choices.

14

How do you handle suffering and difficult times from a faith perspective?

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Why this works

Shows his theology of suffering and reveals his resilience and trust in God during challenging seasons.

15

What are your thoughts on evangelism and sharing your faith with others?

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Why this works

Reveals his commitment to sharing his faith and shows his approach to witnessing and discipleship.

16

How do you see yourself growing spiritually and what are your spiritual goals?

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Why this works

Shows his commitment to spiritual growth and reveals his vision for his ongoing relationship with God.

17

What does it mean to you to be a man of God and how do you live that out?

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Why this works

Reveals his understanding of biblical masculinity and shows how he strives to embody Christian character.

18

How do you handle money and material possessions from a biblical perspective?

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Why this works

Shows his theology of stewardship and reveals his approach to finances and material wealth.

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What are your thoughts on raising children in the faith and what values would you want to pass on?

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Why this works

Reveals his vision for family and shows his commitment to passing on faith to the next generation.

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How do you see God's love for you and how does that affect how you love others?

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Why this works

Shows his understanding of God's love and reveals how it influences his capacity to love and serve others.

Best Practices for Spiritual Conversations

Expert tips and techniques for getting the most out of these questions.

Best Practices

Show Genuine Interest

Ask follow-up questions about his faith journey and show respect for his spiritual experiences and beliefs.

Be Open and Honest

Share your own spiritual journey and questions, creating a space for mutual spiritual exploration and growth.

Respect Differences

Honor his beliefs even if they differ from yours, and focus on understanding rather than converting or debating.

Question Sequences

The Faith Journey Sequence

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What does your relationship with God mean to you?
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How do you see God working in your life?
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What are your spiritual goals?
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How do you handle doubts and questions?

The Relationship and Marriage Sequence

1
What is your understanding of love and faith?
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How do you see your future spouse fitting into your spiritual life?
3
What are your thoughts on dating from a biblical perspective?
4
What are your thoughts on raising children in the faith?

Common Pitfalls

Don't Judge or Criticize

Avoid making judgments about his faith or spiritual practices, even if they differ from your own beliefs.

Avoid Theological Debates

Focus on understanding his personal faith journey rather than engaging in theological arguments or debates.

Don't Rush the Process

Spiritual conversations take time and trust. Allow the relationship to develop naturally and authentically.

Conversation Templates

The Spiritual Discovery

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Step 1: Start with his current relationship with God
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Step 2: Explore his spiritual journey and growth
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Step 3: Discuss his approach to faith and life
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Step 4: Share your own spiritual experiences

The Future Vision

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Step 1: Discuss his vision for marriage and family
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Step 2: Explore his spiritual goals and growth
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Step 3: Talk about shared values and beliefs
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Step 4: Plan for spiritual growth together

Further Reading

"The Purpose Driven Life" by Rick Warren
"Mere Christianity" by C.S. Lewis
"The Screwtape Letters" by C.S. Lewis
"Knowing God" by J.I. Packer

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