20 Questions

Deep Questions to Ask Your Pastor

Thought-provoking questions to ask your pastor about faith, theology, doubt, suffering, purpose, and spiritual growth to deepen your understanding and strengthen your relationship with God.

1

How do you personally experience God's presence in your daily life?

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Why this works

Invites authentic sharing about spiritual practice beyond teaching, making faith more relatable.

2

What do you do when you struggle with doubt or feel distant from God?

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Why this works

Normalizes doubt and provides practical strategies for navigating spiritual dry seasons.

3

How do you reconcile a loving God with the reality of suffering and evil?

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Why this works

Addresses one of faith's hardest questions with theological depth and pastoral compassion.

4

What does it mean to truly surrender to God's will when I have free will?

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Why this works

Explores the tension between divine sovereignty and human agency.

5

How can I discern God's calling for my life versus my own desires?

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Why this works

Provides guidance on spiritual discernment and aligning purpose with faith.

6

What role should the church play in addressing social justice and political issues?

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Why this works

Clarifies how faith intersects with contemporary social concerns.

7

How do I respond when my prayers seem unanswered?

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Why this works

Offers perspective on prayer, God's timing, and trusting beyond visible results.

8

What does the Bible say about [specific personal struggle], and how should I apply it?

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Why this works

Personalizes Scripture to your context with pastoral wisdom.

9

How can I grow spiritually when I feel stuck or stagnant in my faith?

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Why this works

Identifies practices, disciplines, or perspectives to reignite spiritual momentum.

10

What does it mean to love God with all my heart, soul, mind, and strength?

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Why this works

Unpacks the greatest commandment with practical, holistic implications.

11

How do I navigate relationships with people whose beliefs differ from mine?

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Why this works

Balances conviction with compassion in a pluralistic world.

12

What is the purpose of suffering, and how can it draw me closer to God?

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Why this works

Reframes pain as potential for growth and deeper dependence on God.

13

How should I understand and interpret difficult or confusing passages in Scripture?

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Why this works

Teaches hermeneutical principles and builds confidence in engaging the Bible.

14

What does spiritual maturity look like, and how do I know if I'm growing?

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Why this works

Provides markers and milestones for assessing spiritual development.

15

How do I balance grace and accountability in my walk with God and others?

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Why this works

Explores the tension between unconditional love and holy living.

16

What spiritual disciplines have been most transformative in your own life?

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Why this works

Offers personal testimony and practical tools for deepening faith.

17

How can I cultivate a heart of worship beyond Sunday services?

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Why this works

Expands worship from ritual to lifestyle and daily devotion.

18

What does the Bible teach about identity, and how does that shape how I see myself?

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Why this works

Anchors self-worth and purpose in God's perspective rather than worldly standards.

19

How should I think about eternity and let it shape how I live today?

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Why this works

Connects eternal perspective to present priorities and decisions.

20

What question should I be asking that I haven't thought of yet?

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Why this works

Invites the pastor to identify blind spots or important topics you may have overlooked.

Having Meaningful Conversations with Your Pastor

Expert tips and techniques for getting the most out of these questions.

Best Practices

Come with Openness, Not Just Answers

Approach with curiosity and humility, ready to be challenged and comforted in equal measure.

Share Context for Personal Questions

Help your pastor understand the situation behind your question so they can offer tailored, relevant guidance.

Follow Up with Action

Apply what you learn through prayer, study, or practical steps—faith grows through obedience, not just knowledge.

Conversation Starters by Theme

Faith & Doubt

1
How do you personally handle seasons of doubt?
2
What strengthens your faith when it feels weak?
3
How can doubt actually deepen belief?

Purpose & Calling

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How do I discern God's calling for my life?
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What role does my work play in God's kingdom?
3
How can I serve God in everyday life, not just church?

Common Pitfalls

Treating Pastors as All-Knowing

Pastors are guides, not oracles—they're growing too and may not have all the answers.

Avoiding Hard Questions Out of Fear

God can handle your hardest questions—vulnerability deepens authentic faith.

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