20 Questions

Questions to Ask an Addict in Recovery

Compassionate questions that help you understand their recovery journey while showing support and respect for their progress, without triggering or causing harm to their recovery process.

1

How are you doing today and what has been going well for you?

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Why this works

Opens conversation on a positive note and shows genuine care for their well-being while focusing on their current progress and successes.

2

What are some of the positive changes you've noticed in your life since starting recovery?

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Why this works

Shows interest in their progress and reveals the positive changes and improvements they've experienced during their recovery journey.

3

What are your favorite ways to take care of yourself and stay healthy?

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Why this works

Shows interest in their self-care and reveals what health and wellness practices they find most helpful and enjoyable.

4

What are your favorite ways to relax and unwind when you're feeling stressed?

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Why this works

Shows interest in their coping strategies and reveals what relaxation and stress management techniques they find most effective.

5

What are your favorite ways to connect with others and build relationships?

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Why this works

Shows interest in their social connections and reveals what kind of relationships and social activities they find most meaningful and supportive.

6

What are your favorite ways to stay motivated and inspired?

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Why this works

Shows interest in their motivation and reveals what kind of inspiration and motivation they find most effective and valuable.

7

What are your favorite ways to handle challenges and difficult situations?

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Why this works

Shows interest in their resilience and reveals what coping strategies and problem-solving approaches they find most effective.

8

What are your favorite ways to celebrate your successes and achievements?

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Why this works

Shows interest in their accomplishments and reveals what kind of celebrations and recognition they find most meaningful and rewarding.

9

What are your favorite ways to learn and grow as a person?

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Why this works

Shows interest in their personal development and reveals what kind of learning and growth activities they find most engaging and valuable.

10

What are your favorite ways to give back to others and help those around you?

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Why this works

Shows interest in their values and reveals what kind of helping and giving back they find most meaningful and fulfilling.

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What are your favorite ways to stay connected with your culture and heritage?

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Why this works

Shows interest in their identity and reveals what kind of cultural connections and heritage they value and enjoy.

12

What are your favorite ways to stay informed and what kind of information do you find most valuable?

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Why this works

Shows interest in their information consumption and reveals what kind of news and information they find most valuable and engaging.

13

What are your favorite ways to stay organized and manage your time?

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Why this works

Shows interest in their productivity and reveals what kind of organization and time management strategies they find most effective.

14

What are your favorite ways to stay positive and optimistic?

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Why this works

Shows interest in their mindset and reveals what kind of positivity and optimism strategies they find most effective and valuable.

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What are your favorite ways to stay curious and keep learning?

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Why this works

Shows interest in their growth mindset and reveals what kind of curiosity and learning strategies they find most effective and valuable.

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What are your favorite ways to stay grateful and appreciate life?

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Why this works

Shows interest in their values and reveals what kind of gratitude and appreciation practices they find most meaningful and valuable.

17

What are your favorite ways to stay connected with nature and the outdoors?

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Why this works

Shows interest in their environmental connection and reveals what kind of nature and outdoor activities they find most peaceful and rejuvenating.

18

What are your favorite ways to stay creative and express yourself?

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Why this works

Shows interest in their self-expression and reveals what creative outlets and forms of expression they find most fulfilling and enjoyable.

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What are your favorite ways to stay connected with your spirituality or faith?

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Why this works

Shows interest in their spiritual life and reveals what kind of spiritual or faith practices they find most meaningful and supportive.

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What are your favorite ways to stay connected with your community and make a difference?

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Why this works

Shows interest in their community involvement and reveals what kind of community connections and impact they find most meaningful and fulfilling.

Best Practices for Recovery Conversations

Expert tips and techniques for getting the most out of these questions.

Best Practices

Show Genuine Care and Support

Demonstrate authentic care for their well-being and recovery. Ask about their progress and successes, and show enthusiasm for their positive changes.

Focus on Positive and Empowering Topics

Ask about positive changes, successes, and what's going well. This helps reinforce their progress and shows you value their recovery journey.

Be Patient and Respectful

Give them time to share their thoughts and experiences. Be respectful of their recovery process and don't pressure them to share information they're not comfortable with.

Question Sequences

The Progress and Success Sequence

1
How are you doing today and what has been going well for you?
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What are some of the positive changes you've noticed in your life since starting recovery?
3
What are your favorite ways to take care of yourself and stay healthy?
4
What are your favorite ways to relax and unwind when you're feeling stressed?

The Values and Interests Sequence

1
What are your favorite ways to give back to others and help those around you?
2
What are your favorite ways to stay connected with your culture and heritage?
3
What are your favorite ways to stay grateful and appreciate life?
4
What are your favorite ways to stay connected with your community and make a difference?

Common Pitfalls

Don't Ask About Their Past Addiction

Avoid questions about their past addiction, substance use, or recovery details. Focus on their current progress and positive changes.

Don't Make Assumptions About Their Recovery

Don't assume you know about their recovery process or make judgments about their progress. Let them share what they're comfortable with.

Don't Ignore Their Individual Journey

Acknowledge their unique recovery journey and progress. Show appreciation for their individual growth and what they've accomplished.

Conversation Templates

The Progress and Success Approach

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Step 1: Start with: "I want to know how you're doing..."
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Step 2: Ask: "How are you doing today and what has been going well for you?"
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Step 3: Explore: "What are some of the positive changes you've noticed in your life since starting recovery?"
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Step 4: Connect: "What are your favorite ways to take care of yourself and stay healthy?"

The Values and Interests Approach

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Step 1: Begin with: "I'm interested in understanding your values and interests..."
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Step 2: Ask: "What are your favorite ways to give back to others and help those around you?"
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Step 3: Explore: "What are your favorite ways to stay connected with your culture and heritage?"
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Step 4: Connect: "What are your favorite ways to stay grateful and appreciate life?"

Further Reading

"The Art of Conversation" by Catherine Blyth
"How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie
"The Friendship Factor" by Alan Loy McGinnis
"The Art of Friendship" by William Rawlins

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