Questions to Ask Christian Dating
Meaningful questions to ask when dating as a Christian, covering faith, values, future goals, and building a relationship centered on God.
1How important is your faith in your daily life?
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How important is your faith in your daily life?
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Why this works
Understanding their spiritual commitment helps assess compatibility and shared values in a Christian relationship.
2What does your relationship with God look like on a regular basis?
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What does your relationship with God look like on a regular basis?
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Why this works
Learning about their spiritual practices reveals how they prioritize faith and what spiritual disciplines they value.
3How do you see God's role in our relationship?
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How do you see God's role in our relationship?
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Why this works
Understanding their perspective on God's involvement helps ensure you're both seeking God's will for your relationship.
4What are your views on marriage and family from a biblical perspective?
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What are your views on marriage and family from a biblical perspective?
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Why this works
Aligning on marriage and family values is crucial for long-term compatibility in a Christian relationship.
5How do you handle conflict and disagreements in relationships?
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How do you handle conflict and disagreements in relationships?
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Why this works
Learning about their conflict resolution style helps understand how they'll handle challenges in your relationship.
6What role does prayer play in your decision-making?
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What role does prayer play in your decision-making?
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Why this works
Understanding their prayer life reveals how they seek God's guidance and make important decisions.
7How do you want to serve God together as a couple?
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How do you want to serve God together as a couple?
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Why this works
Discussing shared ministry goals helps ensure you're both committed to serving God together.
8What are your thoughts on physical boundaries in dating?
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What are your thoughts on physical boundaries in dating?
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Why this works
Aligning on physical boundaries is important for maintaining purity and honoring God in your relationship.
9How do you handle temptation and maintain purity?
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How do you handle temptation and maintain purity?
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Why this works
Understanding their approach to purity helps ensure you're both committed to honoring God in your relationship.
10What does biblical love mean to you?
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What does biblical love mean to you?
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Why this works
Understanding their definition of love helps ensure you're both committed to loving each other as God intended.
11How do you want to raise children in the faith?
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How do you want to raise children in the faith?
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Why this works
Discussing parenting approaches helps ensure you're both committed to raising children who love and serve God.
12What are your views on gender roles in marriage?
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What are your views on gender roles in marriage?
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Why this works
Aligning on gender roles helps ensure you're both committed to the same vision for your marriage.
13How do you handle stress and difficult times?
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How do you handle stress and difficult times?
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Why this works
Understanding their coping mechanisms helps ensure you can support each other through life's challenges.
14What are your spiritual goals and how do you plan to achieve them?
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What are your spiritual goals and how do you plan to achieve them?
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Why this works
Learning about their spiritual aspirations helps ensure you're both committed to growing in faith together.
15How do you want to handle finances from a biblical perspective?
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How do you want to handle finances from a biblical perspective?
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Why this works
Discussing financial values helps ensure you're both committed to managing money in a way that honors God.
16What are your views on church involvement and community?
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What are your views on church involvement and community?
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Why this works
Understanding their commitment to church helps ensure you're both committed to being part of a faith community.
17How do you want to handle disagreements about faith or theology?
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How do you want to handle disagreements about faith or theology?
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Why this works
Learning about their approach to theological differences helps ensure you can navigate these challenges together.
18What are your thoughts on mission work and serving others?
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What are your thoughts on mission work and serving others?
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Why this works
Discussing service and mission helps ensure you're both committed to serving God and others together.
19How do you want to handle holidays and special occasions?
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How do you want to handle holidays and special occasions?
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Why this works
Understanding their approach to celebrations helps ensure you're both committed to honoring God in your traditions.
20What are your hopes and dreams for our future together?
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What are your hopes and dreams for our future together?
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Why this works
Discussing future goals helps ensure you're both committed to building a life together that honors God.
Best Practices for Christian Dating
Expert tips and techniques for getting the most out of these questions.
Best Practices
Keep God at the Center
Always seek God's will for your relationship. Pray together and individually about your relationship.
Be Honest About Your Faith
Don't hide your spiritual struggles or questions. Authenticity is crucial in a Christian relationship.
Set Clear Boundaries
Establish physical and emotional boundaries that honor God and protect your relationship.
Seek Wise Counsel
Involve trusted Christian mentors, pastors, or counselors in your relationship decisions.
Question Sequences
The Faith Foundation Sequence
The Relationship Values Sequence
The Future Planning Sequence
Common Pitfalls
Don't Rush Into Physical Intimacy
Physical intimacy should wait until marriage. Don't let physical attraction override spiritual discernment.
Don't Ignore Red Flags
If someone's actions don't align with their words about faith, pay attention to these warning signs.
Don't Compromise Your Values
Don't let the relationship cause you to compromise your faith or values. Stay true to your beliefs.
Don't Skip the Hard Questions
Ask the difficult questions about faith, values, and future goals. It's better to know now than later.