Flirty Questions to Ask Your Crush
For anyone who wants to flirt with a crush without saying 'I like you' outright, at school, on a shared shift or by text. The 86 questions are grouped by how much they give away, as Playful, Compliments, Their type, Hints, Bolder and Asking them out, so start at the top and move down a group only when the last question was returned. It stays clean throughout, and the notes say how easily each question can be laughed off, what flirting back sounds like and what to do when the answer is only friendly.
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The questions
Each question, and why to ask it
Playful
Are you this much fun with everybody, or did I catch you on a good day?
Why ask it
About as deniable as flirting gets, because on paper it is a remark about their mood. 'Only with you' or 'you bring it out' is them flirting back. 'I'm like this with everyone' is a plain answer, so laugh and carry on as friends for today.
If I borrowed your hoodie, would I ever have to give it back?
Why ask it
Everyone at school knows what it means when one person turns up in another person's hoodie, so even asking as a joke is a flirt. 'You'd have to earn it' is a yes in disguise. A flat no is a no about a hoodie, and you can leave it at that.
Be honest: do I make this class better or worse?
Why ask it
Hope for 'worse', delivered with a grin, and act wounded when you get it. It is safe to ask across a desk with people listening, since any two friends could say it. A shrug and 'it's the same' means try a different day.
If you were stuck on a desert island, would I make your list of three things to bring?
Why ask it
An old game with you slipped into it. Making the list 'for entertainment' or 'to carry things' is teasing, which is good news. If you lose your place to a phone charger, protest once and ask what the other two things are.
If we swapped phones for one minute, which of us would panic first?
Why ask it
Nobody has to hand anything over, since the fun is in who flinches. 'You would, and I want to know why' is them playing along. Leave the actual swap alone unless they offer, because a phone is private.
If I tried a pickup line on you, would you want the bad one or the really bad one?
Why ask it
Either choice is a yes to hearing one, so have it ready, the worse the better: 'Do you believe in love at first sight, or should I walk past again?' A groan with a laugh inside it is a win. An eye roll and nothing more means retire the line and ask about their weekend.
Truth or dare, and are you brave enough to pick dare?
Why ask it
The game is the cover, so keep the first rounds silly: sing the school song, swap seats, show the last photo you took. A crush who picks truth and then asks you one back is enjoying it. Never dare anyone into something they would not do without the game.
What would you score my jokes today, out of ten?
Why ask it
Being marked a four by someone who is laughing means they are teasing you and paying attention at once, so demand to see the judging criteria. A polite seven with nothing after it is somebody being nice, which is different.
Could you last a whole school day stuck with me, or would you need a break by lunch?
Why ask it
It pictures the two of you spending a day together and calls it a joke. 'I'd need snacks' or 'you'd be the one begging for a break' means they like the picture. Swap 'school day' for a shift or a road trip if that fits better.
Which of us would get caught first if we passed notes in class?
Why ask it
It makes the two of you partners in a small crime, which is half of what flirting is. They will say you, so argue your case. If a note really does arrive on your desk later, you have your answer.
Rock, paper, scissors for who buys the snacks: are you in?
Why ask it
A thirty-second game with a stake gives you a reason to walk to the vending machine together. Winning and still offering to share is a quiet flirt, and so is their demand for a rematch. Pay up cheerfully if you lose.
Do you have a hidden talent, and what do I have to do to see it?
Why ask it
The flirting is all in 'what do I have to do', and it can still pass as curiosity. 'You'd have to be very nice to me' is an invitation to keep going. Whatever the talent turns out to be, be impressed out loud.
If I started calling you by a nickname, which one could you live with?
Why ask it
Letting them choose matters, because the wrong nickname sticks for a year and they are the one who has to answer to it. If they pick one, use it sparingly and only when nobody else is listening. 'What do I get to call you?' is them flirting back, and 'none' is a fine answer too.
Did you miss me yesterday, or was it nice and quiet?
Why ask it
For the day after you were out sick or away at a game. The joke option gives them cover, so 'it was peaceful' with a grin counts as a yes. 'Were you gone?' said in earnest is a sign to stay with the playful questions a while longer.
Would you rather sit through a whole movie you hate with me, or watch a great one alone?
Why ask it
Only one of the two options has you in it, and that is the test. Picking the bad movie means your company outranks the film, and they will know that is what they just said. The great one alone is honest, so ask which film is worth it.
Compliments
Is there anything you're bad at? I'm getting suspicious.
Why ask it
The compliment is the suspicion. They will name something to prove they are human, usually mornings, spelling or anything involving a ball, and you get to say that hardly counts. Use it after they have done something well, so it has a reason to exist.
Has anyone told you that your smile makes it very hard to stay annoyed at you?
Why ask it
It needs them to have just teased you or beaten you at something, so the annoyance is real enough to be funny. A wider smile on purpose is the flirty answer, and it needs no words. Say it once ever, because a smile that has been pointed out twice turns self-conscious.
What's the nicest thing anyone has said to you this week? I'd like to beat it.
Why ask it
Now you owe them one, so have it ready: something they did or made, said in one sentence. 'Good luck beating that' is a dare and a flirt. If nobody has said anything nice all week, yours wins by default, which is even better.
How do you look that awake at eight in the morning?
Why ask it
A compliment on how they look that never mentions a feature, so it is easy to hear in a hallway. 'I'm not, I'm faking it' is the usual reply, and telling them it is convincing is plenty. Say it once.
Do you ever get tired of being right?
Why ask it
Best right after they have corrected you or called something before it happened. You are admiring how sharp they are while pretending to be fed up with it. 'Never' with a smirk is flirting back.
Who do I thank for your taste in music?
Why ask it
Works after a song they showed you turned out to be good. The answer is usually an older sibling, a parent's car or one particular friend. Asking for another recommendation is the follow-up, and it gives you a reason to talk tomorrow.
Did you pick that outfit to make the rest of us look bad?
Why ask it
It only works on a day they have plainly made an effort: picture day, a dance, a presentation. The mock complaint lets them say 'obviously' and take the credit. Mention the outfit, not the person in it, and say it once.
Has anyone told you that you tell a story better than anyone here?
Why ask it
For just after they have had a whole table listening. They can take the praise without squirming, because it is about something they did five minutes ago. Ask for another story, since that is the proof you meant it.
Do you know you're the reason our group got a good grade?
Why ask it
Credit for work is hard to wave away, and it is true often enough to be worth saying. Say it to them, not to the whole group. 'We make a good team' coming back is the flirty answer, and the natural next line is asking to be partners again.
Is it annoying being the person everyone wants on their team?
Why ask it
Fits the one who gets picked first, for sports, quiz teams or group work. Pretending to pity them is the joke and the compliment at once. Many will say it is not true, and then you get to say whose team you would want them on.
How are you this easy to talk to?
Why ask it
It could be said to a friend, which is what makes it safe to say to a crush. 'I'm not, usually' is worth noticing, because it means the ease is about the two of you. Do not follow it with a second compliment, because one is believable and three is a routine.
Can I tell you my favorite thing you do, if you promise not to stop doing it?
Why ask it
Have the thing ready, and make it a habit of theirs: humming while they work, the way they explain a joke nobody got. Asking permission first makes them curious. If they go red, you can go straight back to joking.
How many people have a crush on you right now, do you think? Round to the nearest ten.
Why ask it
The exaggeration is the cover: you are saying they are liked without saying by whom. 'Zero' gets a disbelieving look from you and nothing more. 'Why, are you one of them?' is them asking outright, so decide beforehand what you would say.
What would you call the color of your eyes? I've been trying to decide.
Why ask it
The second sentence admits you have been looking, so this is one of the least deniable compliments you can pay. Ask it one to one, glance, and then look away again. A real answer with a smile is a good sign, and a quick change of subject is a request to move on.
What's it like being the best part of my Monday?
Why ask it
Cheesy, and it works because you both know it is. No other compliment here gives away as much, so save it for someone who has been teasing you back. A groan and a smile together is the right reaction, and a flat 'okay' means go back to Playful.
Their type
What's your type, in three words?
Why ask it
Three words keeps it a game and stops it turning into an interview. Listen for whether the words are about character or looks, and do not start performing them. If they say 'funny' while looking at you, that was on purpose.
What makes someone stand out to you in a crowded hallway?
Why ask it
A general question, so it gives nothing away about you. The answers are often small: a laugh, a walk, someone being nice to a kid nobody talks to. Don't ask whether you stand out, which is a far bolder question for a later week.
Funny or smart: which one gets to you faster?
Why ask it
Either-or questions get answered quickly, and the choice says what they notice first. 'Both, obviously' is common. Flirting back sounds like 'which one do you think you are?', and the right reply to that is to let them decide.
Describe your dream date in one sentence. I'm only taking notes.
Why ask it
The joke about notes admits why you are asking and still leaves you room to laugh it off. One sentence forces them to choose what matters most: the place, the food or the company. Remember it word for word, because it is your plan for the day you ask them out.
Is love at first sight real, or does it take you a while?
Why ask it
People answer this one about themselves without noticing. 'It takes me a while' is useful to know, because it means a slow start is normal for them and not a no. Give your own answer too, or it turns into a quiz.
What gives you the ick straight away?
Why ask it
Chewing loudly, being rude to a server, bragging. It is funny to trade these, and you are also getting a list of what to avoid. Take it as a joke if one of yours comes up, and quietly retire the habit.
What's a green flag that makes you like someone more?
Why ask it
The kinder twin of asking about icks, and the two go well back to back. People say things like remembering details, being nice to younger siblings or owning up to a mistake. If you already do one of them, let them notice it for themselves.
Who was your first crush, way back in elementary school?
Why ask it
A crush from age eight is safe to laugh about, which makes it an easy way to get the word crush into the conversation. Trade yours. What became of that kid is a good story, and who they like now is not something to ask yet.
Celebrity crush: who is it, and what do they have that the rest of us don't?
Why ask it
Asking what the celebrity has invites them to list what they like, and 'the rest of us' quietly counts you among the candidates. Do not compare yourself out loud. 'You're not far off' is about as flirty as an answer to this gets.
Would you rather make the first move, or have someone make it for you?
Why ask it
Instructions, asked as an opinion. If they would rather be asked, the next step is yours whenever you are ready. If they like going first, give them openings and some time.
What's the best way for someone to get your attention?
Why ask it
Most people say something simple: make me laugh, talk to me like a normal person, remember what I said. It reads as curiosity, so it is safe early on. 'You already have it' is the flirtiest thing they could say back.
Have you ever had a crush on a friend, and did you ever tell them?
Why ask it
Useful if the two of you are friends already, since it shows how they feel about friendship turning into something more. A story that ended fine is encouraging. If it went badly, they may be careful, and you should be patient.
Which romantic gesture would you love, and which would make you want to hide?
Why ask it
The hiding half is the useful one: plenty of people would hate a public promposal or a song in the cafeteria. Now you know whether to keep things quiet or go big. Flirting back sounds like 'depends who's doing it'.
Texting all day or one good conversation: which do you want from someone you like?
Why ask it
A practical question about pace. If they pick one good conversation, short replies during the day are not a brush-off. Give them the one they chose and see whether they give it back.
Hints
Guess who I was hoping to run into today?
Why ask it
It can only really mean one thing, though you can still finish it with 'my lab partner' if their face says no. 'Me?' with a grin is the flirty answer. Say yes and then talk about something ordinary, so it does not hang in the air.
Did you notice I laugh at all your jokes, even the bad ones?
Why ask it
You are pointing at your own tell. They will argue that none of the jokes are bad, which is playing along. If they say they hadn't noticed, that is fine: they will from now on.
Want to guess why I take the long way to class?
Why ask it
Only works if you really do, and they may already have wondered. Let them guess. If they get it right, do not deny it, and if they guess 'exercise', agree and try again another week.
What would you say if I told you I liked someone you know really well?
Why ask it
A classic, because they will ask who, and you get to decide how many clues to give. 'Do I know them better than anyone?' means they have caught on and are enjoying it. If they start listing other people, they have not guessed, and you can stop at 'I'll tell you sometime'.
Are you good at keeping secrets? I'm deciding whether to tell you one.
Why ask it
It builds a little suspense and still commits you to nothing. A crush who leans in and says 'tell me' is interested in the secret, and probably in you. You can always produce a smaller secret if you lose your nerve.
Have you noticed we never run out of things to say?
Why ask it
It points out that the two of you click and leaves them to agree. 'I noticed' is good, and 'that's because you never stop talking' is better, since teasing means they are comfortable. Say it at the end of a conversation, never to rescue a slow one.
What's the one word you'd use for me, if 'nice' was banned?
Why ask it
Banning 'nice' takes away the polite answer and makes them actually think about you. 'Trouble', 'loud' and 'distracting' are all teasing, and teasing is good. A word like 'kind' or 'reliable' is how people describe a friend, so take the compliment and wait before hinting again.
What song would you say is the most like me?
Why ask it
They have to think about you for a minute to answer, and that is the hint. A joke song is teasing, and a real one deserves a listen all the way through. Tell them theirs, and pick it before you ask.
Do you think someone could like you for months without you noticing?
Why ask it
Asked as a general question about how observant they are. Most people say yes, probably. If they then ask whether you have someone in mind, they are giving you an opening, and how far you take it is up to you.
Is it weird that this is the part of the day I look forward to?
Why ask it
Say it during the part you mean: the bus ride, lunch, the shift you share. 'Not weird' is kind and 'me too' is flirting. It is a real admission, so keep it for someone who seems glad to see you.
If I had a dream with you in it, would you want to hear it?
Why ask it
Only say it if you did, and only if the dream is harmless and funny, like the two of you running a bakery or being chased by geese. They will nearly always say yes, and the detail that they were in your head overnight does the hinting. Keep the telling short.
Why do I end up telling you things I don't tell anyone else?
Why ask it
More sincere than flirty, and best for the end of a long talk. It tells them they are different from everyone else to you without using the word like. 'Same' is the answer that matters.
Do your friends tease you about me? Mine won't leave it alone.
Why ask it
Admitting that your friends won't leave it alone tells them you have been talked about, and that gives away a lot. 'A little' is very good news. If they look puzzled, shrug, say your friends are ridiculous, and change the subject.
If I saved you a seat every day, would you start to wonder why?
Why ask it
A saved seat is ordinary once and a pattern by Thursday, and this asks whether they would read the pattern. The best reply is 'I already did', because it means they have been keeping count too. If they say they would assume you were being nice, save the seat anyway and let it be nice.
If your name were written somewhere in my notebook, would you want to know which page?
Why ask it
A very school way of confessing, and the 'if' keeps one foot out of the door. 'Show me' is the flirty reply, so make sure it is really there before you say this. If they just laugh, laugh too, and the notebook stays closed.
Bolder
What was your first impression of me, and has it gotten better or worse?
Why ask it
'Better' with a detail attached is encouraging, and 'I thought you were scary' is a story worth hearing in full. When they ask for yours, include one thing you got wrong about them. A blank 'I don't remember' is no insult, since plenty of people don't.
Do I ever pop into your head when I'm not around?
Why ask it
It asks them to admit to thinking about you, and by asking you have admitted the same. 'Sometimes', said to the floor, is a yes, and 'only when I need the homework' is teasing. A plain 'not really' is honest, so nod and talk about something else.
Are you single, or am I about to embarrass myself?
Why ask it
You need this answer before you ask anyone out, and the joke about embarrassing yourself takes the edge off a blunt question. If they are seeing someone, drop the flirting from that sentence on and stay exactly as friendly as you were. 'Why do you ask?' is an invitation to tell them.
Do you like anyone right now, and does their name start with the same letter as mine?
Why ask it
The first half is what everyone asks, and the second half is you raising your hand. 'It might' is as good as a yes. A different letter, said gently, is a clear answer too, and you should take it without asking who.
Do you think I'm cute, or am I going to regret asking?
Why ask it
Not deniable at all, so wait until several hints have come back. A 'maybe' they cannot say with a straight face means yes. A careful 'you're really nice' is a kind no: thank them, mean it, and be their friend the same as before.
How close am I to your type: nowhere near, close, or dangerously close?
Why ask it
Giving them a menu means nobody has to make a speech. 'Dangerously close' said with a laugh still counts, and 'close' with a look away counts for more. If they pick 'nowhere near' without laughing, believe it, say 'ouch, fair' and move on.
Do people ever ask if we're together, and what do you tell them?
Why ask it
If people have asked, they will know exactly what you mean. 'I say not yet' is as good as an answer to this can be. 'I say we're just friends' is information too, so nod and do not argue with it.
When did you last get butterflies, and was I anywhere nearby?
Why ask it
The butterflies are a fair question for anyone, and 'was I nearby' is where you stick your neck out, so keep your voice light. 'You might have been' means yes. If they tell you about someone else, be a good sport, because you asked.
On a scale of one to ten, how obvious have I been?
Why ask it
For when you suspect they have known for weeks. A high number said with a laugh means they noticed and stayed, which tells you most of what you need. 'Obvious about what?' is either real confusion or a request to say it properly.
What's one thing you like about me? I've got a list about you, so it's only fair.
Why ask it
Fishing, with payment offered. Wait for their answer before you give yours, and then name two real things from your list instead of all ten. If they cannot come up with anything and look uncomfortable, let them off with a joke.
Is it okay if I say you look really good today?
Why ask it
A straight compliment with permission asked first. Say it quietly, once, and mean the whole picture, not a part of them. 'You may' is flirting back, and a mumbled thanks is shyness more often than a no.
Are you a hugger, and do I qualify yet?
Why ask it
It asks before anything happens, which is the right order. Some people are not huggers at all, and that is about them, not you. If they open their arms, a short hug is the whole event.
If I held out my hand right now, would you take it?
Why ask it
The question does the asking, so nothing happens by surprise: hold your hand out only after a yes. 'Depends where we're going' is a flirt and a yes at once. A laugh and hands kept in pockets is a no, and the walk carries on exactly as it was.
Should a first kiss be a surprise, or should someone ask first?
Why ask it
It asks for an opinion and offers nothing, which is as far as flirting needs to go on this subject. Save it for a private conversation that is already clearly flirty, and skip it if they seem uneasy with the topic. Whatever they say, asking first is never the wrong choice when the day comes.
Who's going to say it first, you or me?
Why ask it
It only works if there is an 'it', so use it when the flirting has clearly been going both ways. 'You are' is them agreeing there is something to say. If they ask 'say what?', you can answer honestly or say 'never mind', and both are fine.
What would you do if I told you I liked you?
Why ask it
A confession with 'if' in front, which is the last bit of cover you get. 'I'd say it's about time' and 'I'd say same' are the answers to hope for. If they go quiet or say they would not know what to do, say 'good to know', smile, and give them room.
Asking them out
What are you doing after school on Friday?
Why ask it
The plain opener to every invitation. Have the plan ready before you ask, because 'nothing, why?' needs an answer in the next breath. Someone who is busy but interested tends to name another day without being asked.
Which way are you walking? I'll pretend it's on my way.
Why ask it
Admitting the pretense is what makes it charming. A walk to the bus stop or the corner ends by itself, so nobody has to find a way to wrap it up. If they are meeting someone or would rather go alone, say 'see you tomorrow' and head off in your real direction.
Can I get your number, or do I have to keep bumping into you by accident?
Why ask it
For a crush you only see in one place, and the 'accident' owns up to how many of those meetings you arranged. Swap in whichever app people at your school actually use. If they would rather not, that is the answer, so don't ask around for it.
Want to study together, with the understanding that not much studying will happen?
Why ask it
A study session has a reason and an end time, which makes it simple to agree to and simple to clear with parents. The joke tells them it is not really about the test. Bring the notes anyway.
What's your favorite place to eat around here, and when are we going?
Why ask it
'When are we going' is cheeky enough to pass as a joke if it has to. 'Saturday?' means you have a date, and you should name a time before the conversation ends. If they only answer the first half, ask about the food and try the invitation another day.
Would you want to hang out sometime without the whole group?
Why ask it
The step from friends in a crowd to just two people. It is clear without using the word date, which suits someone who would be startled by it. If they would rather bring a friend the first time, say yes and be glad, because they are still coming.
There's a movie out that I want to see, and you're who I'd want to see it with. Are you free Saturday?
Why ask it
'You're who I'd want to see it with' is the whole confession, tucked inside a plan. Swap the movie for anything they have said they want to do. One 'I can't' with another day offered is a yes, and two with nothing offered is a no.
Are you going to the dance, and do you have someone to go with?
Why ask it
Ask well before the week of the dance, somewhere quiet, with no phones out. If they are going with friends, hoping to see them there is a good answer and can be true. If they say no one has asked, ask.
If I asked you out right now, what would you say?
Why ask it
One last 'if' before the real thing. 'Try it and see' or 'why don't you?' means ask, in the next sentence, with a day attached. 'I don't know' is honest, and the kind reply is 'no rush, think about it'.
Will you go out with me?
Why ask it
The real one, with no joke to hide behind. Pick a spot where nobody is listening, ask in one sentence, and let the silence be theirs to fill. If the answer is no, 'okay, thanks for being honest' is all you need, and say hi tomorrow the way you always do.
That was fun. Should we do it again on purpose?
Why ask it
For the end of a hangout that happened by accident, or the first one you planned. 'On purpose' is what makes the next one a date, so if they say yes, settle on a day right then. A 'maybe' is allowed: say the offer stands and do not bring it up again that week.
How to flirt with a crush without giving everything away
Practical guidance for the conversation itself
How much each group gives away
Playful and Compliments can pass as joking
Almost anything in the first two groups could be said by one friend to another, which is the point of starting there. If it lands flat, nothing has been revealed and nothing needs explaining. The exceptions are the last three in Compliments, which are closer to hints.
Their type is general on purpose
Every question in Their type is about them and about people in general, never about you. That lets you learn what they like, how fast they fall and whether they want to be asked, without showing your hand. Answer each one yourself when they ask back, honestly and briefly.
Hints and Bolder cannot be taken back
From Hints on, a quick person will work out why you are asking. Most of those questions keep an 'if' or a joke attached so you can step away, but assume they will remember. Ask them only when you would be all right with your crush knowing.
Move down only when the last one came back
The order is a ladder. If a playful question got a playful answer, try a compliment another day, and if a hint got a hint back, Bolder is fair. If something fell flat, stay where you are or go back up a group.
Telling a flirty answer from a friendly one
A flirty answer adds something
The replies quoted in the notes have one thing in common: the other person joins the game. They raise the price ('you'd have to earn it'), hand the question back ('which one do you think you are?') or ask why you want to know. A friendly answer just answers, and then the subject changes.
Compare it with how they treat everyone
A crush who jokes like this with the whole lunch table is being themselves, and it says nothing about you. Look for the difference: a kind of teasing they keep for you, a glance around for you when they walk in, something you said on Monday coming back on Thursday. If there is no difference, enjoy the jokes and stay in the first two groups.
Quiet can be nerves
Some people freeze when someone they like flirts with them, and a mumbled answer can come with red ears and a much better reply the next morning. A normally chatty person who goes short with you and then keeps turning up nearby has not said no. 'Would you rather make the first move, or have someone make it for you?' in Their type is the question that sorts it out.
Count conversations, not answers
Anyone can be tired, distracted or having a bad day. Decide nothing from a single flat reply or a single warm one. Three or four conversations will show which way things lean, and the lean is what tells you whether to move down a group.
Where to ask, and what to keep off a screen
Spread the ladder over weeks
One question from this page, dropped into an ordinary talk about homework or the game, is enough for a day, and no question gets asked twice. Six groups in one afternoon is an interrogation. If you catch yourself lining up the next one while they are still answering, stop and listen to the answer you got.
Not in front of an audience
Playful questions survive a lunch table. Nothing from Hints onward does, because a crush with friends watching has to perform an answer, and the safest performance is to laugh it off. Wait for a walk, a quiet corner or a private message.
Keep friends out of the middle
Do not send a friend to find out whether your crush likes you, and do not let yours announce it for you. A go-between turns a private question into school news, and your crush ends up answering the messenger with everyone waiting to hear. The Hints group exists so that you can find out yourself, quietly.
What changes over text
A message gives them time to think, which helps with Their type and with the bolder questions, and it lets a shy person answer bravely. What it loses is your grin, so 'do I make this class better or worse?' can arrive sounding like a real question. If a line depends on your face, keep it for the hallway.
Messages to a crush get passed around
Assume the best friend will see it, because a message from someone who might like you is exactly the kind that gets screenshotted. Send nothing you would mind reading in a group chat, never ask for photos, and do not let a friend type for you. If they answer late or not at all, leave it: a second message asking why reads worse than the silence did.
When it is not returned
Take the exit the question gives you
Nearly every question here has a way out: the joke half, the 'if', the general wording. When the answer is flat, use it. Laugh, say 'fair enough' and carry on with the ordinary conversation as if nothing was riding on it.
Step back, do not push forward
The tempting mistake is to answer a flat reply with a bolder question, to make things clearer. It makes things worse. Go back to being easy company, and try something from an earlier group in a week or two if the mood changes.
A clear no
If they say no, or that they like someone else, the whole reply is 'okay, I'm glad I asked'. Skip the questions about why, skip the claim that you were kidding, and skip the second attempt next month. They know now, and if anything changes they can come and find you.
Seeing them at school tomorrow
You will probably be sitting two rows from them in the morning, so decide tonight what you will do: say hi, the same as always. Keep the story away from people who would spread it, and do not make your crush comfort you about it. A crush that is not returned hurts for a while and then fades, and having been decent about it is something you get to keep.