20 Questions

Questions to Ask a Loved One Who Has Passed

Heartfelt questions for mediumship readings, spiritual connections, or personal reflection to honor and communicate with deceased loved ones.

1

Are you at peace?

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Why this works

Core concern for most people—seeking reassurance their loved one is okay.

2

Is there anything you want me to know?

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Why this works

Opens space for any message they need to convey without limiting scope.

3

Do you have any regrets about how we left things?

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Why this works

Addresses unfinished business or conflicts that weren't resolved before death.

4

What do you want me to remember most about you?

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Why this works

Helps identify what truly mattered to them about their life and legacy.

5

Are you with other family members who passed before you?

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Why this works

Comforting to imagine deceased relatives reunited in afterlife.

6

Can you see me and what's happening in my life?

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Why this works

Addresses desire for continued connection and their awareness of your life.

7

What was your experience of dying like?

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Why this works

Curiosity about the transition and desire to understand their experience.

8

Do you forgive me for [specific situation]?

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Why this works

Seeking closure on guilt or actions you regret.

9

What happens after we die?

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Why this works

Universal question about afterlife and what consciousness experiences.

10

How can I best honor your memory?

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Why this works

Guidance on living in way that celebrates them and their values.

11

Are you proud of me?

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Why this works

Deep desire for parental approval and validation continues after death.

12

What signs have you been sending me?

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Why this works

Many believe deceased send signs; confirmation of connection.

13

Is there something you never got to tell me?

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Why this works

Addresses things left unsaid due to sudden death or circumstances.

14

Do you understand now why I [made certain decisions]?

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Why this works

Seeks understanding about choices they may have questioned while alive.

15

What should I do about [specific situation in my life]?

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Why this works

Continuing to seek their guidance and wisdom for current challenges.

16

Did you know how much I loved you?

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Why this works

Addresses worry that love wasn't adequately expressed before death.

17

What do you miss most about being alive?

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Why this works

Maintains connection to their human experience and what they valued.

18

Will you be there when it's my time?

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Why this works

Comfort about own eventual death and reunion possibility.

19

Is there anyone you want me to take care of or check on?

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Why this works

Continuing their caring for others, honoring their concerns.

20

What would you tell me if you could speak to me right now?

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Why this works

Open invitation for whatever message matters most to them.

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