20 Questions

Questions to Ask Before Marriage LDS

Important questions to ask before marriage in the LDS (Latter-day Saints) faith to ensure spiritual compatibility, shared values, and a strong foundation for eternal marriage.

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What is your testimony of the gospel and how has it shaped your life?

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Why this works

Establishes spiritual foundation and helps you understand their relationship with God and commitment to LDS principles.

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How do you envision our family's spiritual practices and traditions?

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Reveals their vision for family spirituality and helps you understand how they want to raise children in the faith.

3

What are your thoughts on temple marriage and eternal families?

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Clarifies their understanding of eternal marriage and helps you ensure you're both committed to temple covenants.

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How do you approach personal prayer and scripture study?

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Shows their personal spiritual practices and helps you understand how they maintain their relationship with God.

5

What role do you see the priesthood playing in our marriage and family?

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Reveals their understanding of priesthood responsibilities and helps you understand how they'll lead spiritually.

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How do you handle challenges to your faith and testimony?

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Shows their spiritual resilience and helps you understand how they maintain their faith during difficult times.

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What are your thoughts on tithing and financial stewardship?

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Clarifies their approach to finances and helps you understand their commitment to LDS financial principles.

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How do you envision our involvement in the Church and community?

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Reveals their commitment to service and helps you understand how they want to contribute to the Church community.

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What are your thoughts on family planning and having children?

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Clarifies their views on family size and helps you understand their approach to parenthood and child-rearing.

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How do you handle disagreements and conflict resolution?

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Shows their communication skills and helps you understand how they'll handle challenges in your relationship.

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What are your thoughts on education and career goals?

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Reveals their aspirations and helps you understand how they balance spiritual and temporal responsibilities.

12

How do you approach service and helping others?

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Shows their commitment to service and helps you understand how they want to serve God and others.

13

What are your thoughts on media consumption and entertainment choices?

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Clarifies their standards and helps you understand how they maintain LDS values in their media choices.

14

How do you handle stress and difficult situations?

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Shows their coping mechanisms and helps you understand how they'll handle challenges in your marriage.

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What are your thoughts on extended family relationships and boundaries?

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Reveals their family dynamics and helps you understand how they'll navigate relationships with extended family.

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How do you approach personal growth and self-improvement?

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Why this works

Shows their commitment to growth and helps you understand how they'll continue to develop spiritually and personally.

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What are your thoughts on forgiveness and repentance?

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Why this works

Reveals their understanding of gospel principles and helps you understand how they'll handle mistakes and conflicts.

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How do you envision our roles and responsibilities in our marriage?

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Clarifies expectations and helps you understand how you'll work together as equal partners in your marriage.

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What are your thoughts on maintaining individual identity within marriage?

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Shows their understanding of partnership and helps you understand how you'll maintain your individual growth while building unity.

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What questions do you have about my spiritual journey and testimony?

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Shows your interest in their spiritual life and helps you gauge their engagement and interest in your spiritual development.

Best Practices for LDS Marriage Preparation

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Spiritual Compatibility

Assess Spiritual Foundation

Evaluate their testimony, spiritual practices, and commitment to LDS principles to ensure spiritual compatibility.

Understand Family Vision

Discuss how you'll raise children, maintain family spirituality, and create a Christ-centered home.

Evaluate Service Commitment

Understand their approach to service, Church involvement, and how they want to contribute to the community.

Conversation Examples

The Spiritual Deep-Dive

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Start with: 'What is your testimony of the gospel and how has it shaped your life?'
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Follow with: 'How do you envision our family's spiritual practices and traditions?'
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Assess: 'What are your thoughts on temple marriage and eternal families?'

Common Pitfalls to Avoid

Don't Assume Spiritual Compatibility

Avoid assuming you're spiritually compatible without having deep conversations about faith, testimony, and spiritual practices.

Don't Ignore Family Dynamics

Be aware of how extended family relationships and dynamics might affect your marriage and spiritual journey.

Don't Rush Spiritual Discussions

Take time to have meaningful conversations about spiritual matters and don't rush through important spiritual topics.

Preparation Framework

The LDS Marriage Preparation Process

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Step 1: Assess spiritual compatibility and testimony
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Step 2: Discuss family vision and spiritual practices
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Step 3: Understand roles and responsibilities in marriage
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Step 4: Evaluate service commitment and Church involvement
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Step 5: Discuss family planning and child-rearing
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Step 6: Ensure alignment on eternal marriage principles

Further Reading

LDS marriage preparation and eternal marriage
Building spiritual compatibility in relationships
Understanding priesthood and family roles
Creating Christ-centered marriages and families

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