Marriage questions for engaged and married couples

Money, children, faith, in-laws and where to live are worth talking through before a wedding and again years after it. These sets are for couples courting, engaged or long married, including Christian, Muslim and Latter-day Saint couples. Some are for an anniversary or the weeks after an affair.

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What does faith mean to you now, and what would you want in our home?
Practice matters more than label. Two people who tick the same box still disagree about Sunday mornings, what children are taught, and how much extended family gets a say. Ask what he wants in the house, not what he believes.
From: Questions to Ask My Future Husband
What worries you about getting married that has nothing to do with me?
Taking yourself out of the question makes it safer to answer. The fears tend to be about the institution: turning into her parents, becoming somebody's wife before she is anything else, how hard it would be to leave. Do not argue her out of any of them; ask what would make each one less likely.
From: Questions to Ask Your Future Wife
What was the moment at our wedding when you were trying hardest not to laugh?
Plenty of ceremonies have a wobble: a mispronounced name, a ring that would not go on, a relative's phone going off. Save it for an anniversary dinner, and you may find you were both fighting the same laugh.
From: Questions to Ask Your Husband Funny
What do you picture us doing on an ordinary Tuesday once we're retired?
The ordinary day shows more than the dream trip. If his Tuesday has a boat in it and yours has grandchildren two states away, it is better to find that out with years to spare.
From: Questions to Ask Your Husband
If we signed up for something we would both be terrible at, what should it be?
Pottery, salsa, a two-person kayak: being equally bad puts you on the same side for an afternoon. Rule out anything one of you is quietly good at, since that turns the joke into a lesson. If you both laugh at the idea, that is the one to book.
From: Funny Questions to Ask Your Spouse
What do you want your own life to look like in ten years, apart from us?
A marriage has to hold two sets of plans, and one that was never mentioned is hard to make room for later. If the answer involves study, a business or a move, ask what it would cost in time and money and when it would start.
From: Questions to Ask Your Future Spouse

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