Questions to Ask the Fiance for a Bridal Shower Game
Questions to put to the fiance in advance so the bride can guess his answers at the shower. Collect them a week or two before by text, voice note or video, then read them out and see how well the two of them actually know each other.
20 questions, each with the reason to ask it · includes a conversation guide
The questions
Open any question to see why it works.
- 1
Where were you both when you first met, and who spoke first?
The perfect opener because the room mostly knows the answer already and enjoys hearing him tell it. The laugh comes when the two versions differ on who approached whom, which they do more often than either of them expects.
- 2
What was she wearing on your first date?
A gentle trap that says more about him than about her memory. Points either way: a confident, wrong description is funnier than a shrug, so ask for a guess rather than accepting that he cannot remember.
- 3
What was the first thing you noticed about her?
The bride is nearly always braced for a compliment about her looks and is delighted when it turns out to be her laugh, her handwriting, or the fact that she was arguing with someone. Ask for one specific thing, not a list.
- 4
What is her coffee or drink order, word for word?
A pure accuracy test with a clear right answer, which makes it a good early scorer. Insist on the whole order including size and milk, because half credit for getting the drink and missing the rest keeps the game moving.
- 5
What does she always order when she cannot decide what to eat?
Everyone has a default dish, and partners usually know it before the person does. This one tends to produce a shout of recognition from her friends before the bride has even answered.
- 6
What show does she put on when she has had a bad day?
The comfort rewatch is a real fact about a person and almost never the show they would name as their favourite. If he answers with something prestigious, he has guessed rather than observed.
- 7
Which chore does she do without complaining, and which one will she avoid for a week?
Two answers in one, which makes it a natural bonus round. Hosts should know this is the point where the married guests start talking loudly among themselves, so leave room for it.
- 8
How long does she actually take to get ready?
Ask him for a number in minutes, in writing, and read it out deadpan. The comedy is entirely in the size of the gap between his figure and hers, so do not let him hedge with a range.
- 9
What is she like before her first coffee of the day?
Invites an impression rather than a fact, which changes the pace after a run of guessing questions. If you collected answers on video, this is one of the two or three worth playing rather than reading.
- 10
What song does she sing in the car when she thinks nobody can hear?
Works because the answer is also a cue: have it queued up so it starts playing the second he says it. That turns one question into the loudest thirty seconds of the afternoon.
- 11
What is the strangest thing in her bag right now?
The only question on the list you can verify on the spot, which is exactly why it belongs late in the first half. Warn the bride beforehand if she would hate having her bag emptied in front of an audience.
- 12
What is the worst gift you have ever given her?
Safer than asking about the best one, since he is grading himself and the bride gets to disagree. Bad answers here are the ones where he insists the gift was good, which is funnier than admitting it.
- 13
What does she raid the kitchen for at eleven at night?
Specific enough that a guess is obvious and a real answer lands. If he names something wholesome, the room will not believe him, and the bride correcting him is the whole point.
- 14
Who apologises first after an argument?
The first question with any weight in it, which is why it sits here rather than at the start. Couples nearly always agree on the answer, and the agreement is oddly touching in front of a room.
- 15
What is she better at than you?
Ask him for one thing and hold him to it. Vague gallantry gets a groan; a genuine answer, particularly a slightly grudging one, gets applause, so tell him in advance that specifics score better.
- 16
What does she do that you have completely given up trying to change?
The affectionate version of asking what annoys him, and it stays affectionate as long as he answers about a habit rather than a fault. Screen this one before reading it out if you have any doubt about his judgment.
- 17
Who did you tell first that you were going to propose, and what did they say?
Usually reveals a conspirator in the room who has kept quiet for months, and everyone turns to look at them. Ask the follow-up about how long he sat on the secret.
- 18
What was going through your head in the ten seconds before you asked?
Shifts the tone deliberately, so place it after the laughs rather than among them. Even men who give one-word answers to everything else tend to give a real one here.
- 19
What do you think she will say she loves most about you?
A double guess: he predicts her answer, and she has been asked the same thing separately. Collect her version in advance so you can read both, because the near-misses are better than the matches.
- 20
In fifty years, what do you hope she still does exactly the way she does it now?
The closer. It sends the room out on warmth rather than on a punchline, and it is the answer people quote back at the wedding. Save it, and let the bride answer last.
Running the fiance quiz
Practical guidance for the conversation itself.
How the game works
How the game works
- 1Send the questions to the fiance one to two weeks ahead and ask him to reply by video, or record him answering on a call. Video is worth the extra effort: hearing him is funnier than hearing you read him.
- 2Tell him not to discuss any of it with the bride, and to answer fast rather than well. Considered answers are less funny than instinctive ones.
- 3At the shower, sit the bride at the front with paddles, a whiteboard, or just her voice, and ask her the same questions.
- 4Play or read his answer after she commits to hers. Never the other way round.
- 5Score one point per match and let the room adjudicate anything close, which is half the entertainment.
- 6Agree a forfeit in advance for a miss: a sip of something, a sweet, or wearing an item of the shower decor. Keep it light and keep it optional.
Choosing your questions
Choosing your questions
- Ten to twelve questions is the right length. Twenty runs past the point where the room is still paying attention, so pick your favourites and keep the rest in reserve.
- Build the order deliberately: easy and factual first so she banks points, then habits and impressions, then one or two with feeling in them at the end.
- Cut anything that only works if you already know the couple's private jokes. Half the room usually does not.
- Screen every question against the guest list. If a grandmother, a boss, or his mother is attending, read your list once imagining each of them hearing it.
- Skip questions about exes, weight, money, or anyone's family disputes. They are funny for four seconds and awkward for the rest of the afternoon.
- Add two or three questions unique to this couple: the holiday that went wrong, the pet, the flat they lived in first. Those are the ones people remember.
Hosting notes
Hosting notes
- Test the video and sound before guests arrive. A quiz that stalls while someone hunts for a cable loses the room immediately.
- Have his answers written down as well as recorded, so you can carry on if the technology fails.
- Keep the whole game under twenty minutes. It is the high point of the afternoon, not the afternoon.
- Ask one person to film the bride rather than the screen. Her reactions are what the couple will want afterwards.
- If she gets an early run of answers wrong, switch to the easier questions you held back. The game is only fun while she is winning some.
- Send the fiance's full recording to the couple afterwards. Most of it will not have been played, and it makes a better keepsake than the scorecard.