20 Questions

Questions to Ask Engaged Couples

Thoughtful questions to celebrate their engagement, learn about their love story, and create meaningful conversations with couples preparing for marriage.

1

How did you two meet and what was your first impression of each other?

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Why this works

Learning about their love story creates connection and joy. This question helps you understand their relationship history and creates heartwarming conversation.

2

What's your favorite thing about your partner?

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Why this works

Celebrating their love creates positive energy. This question helps you understand what they value about each other and creates uplifting conversation.

3

How did the proposal happen and what was your reaction?

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Why this works

Sharing the proposal story creates connection and excitement. This question helps you understand their engagement experience and creates joyful conversation.

4

What are you most excited about for your wedding day?

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Why this works

Sharing excitement creates positive energy. This question helps you understand what they're looking forward to and creates optimistic conversation.

5

What's the best advice you've received about marriage?

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Why this works

Marriage advice is valuable and meaningful. This question helps you understand what wisdom they've received and creates thoughtful conversation.

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What are your hopes and dreams for your future together?

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Why this works

Sharing future dreams creates connection. This question helps you understand their aspirations and creates optimistic conversation about their future.

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What's something you've learned about each other during your relationship?

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Why this works

Sharing relationship insights creates connection. This question helps you understand their growth together and creates meaningful conversation.

8

What are your favorite ways to spend time together?

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Understanding their preferences helps you connect with them. This question helps you understand what they value in their relationship and creates positive conversation.

9

What's the most romantic thing you've done for each other?

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Why this works

Sharing romantic moments creates connection and joy. This question helps you understand their love language and creates heartwarming conversation.

10

What are you most looking forward to about being married?

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Why this works

Sharing excitement about marriage creates positive energy. This question helps you understand their expectations and creates optimistic conversation.

11

What's something you're grateful for in your relationship?

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Why this works

Cultivating gratitude creates positive energy. This question helps you understand what they value about their relationship and creates uplifting conversation.

12

What are your thoughts on balancing individual and couple time?

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Why this works

Understanding their approach to balance helps you connect with them. This question helps you understand their relationship dynamics and creates thoughtful conversation.

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What's the funniest thing that's happened to you as a couple?

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Why this works

Sharing funny moments creates connection and laughter. This question helps you understand their sense of humor and creates lighthearted conversation.

14

What are your thoughts on handling disagreements and conflict?

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Why this works

Understanding their approach to conflict helps you connect with them. This question helps you understand their communication style and creates meaningful conversation.

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What's something you admire about your partner's family?

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Why this works

Understanding their family relationships helps you connect with them. This question helps you understand their family dynamics and creates positive conversation.

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What are your thoughts on creating traditions as a couple?

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Why this works

Understanding their approach to traditions helps you connect with them. This question helps you understand their values and creates meaningful conversation.

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What's something you're excited to learn about each other?

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Why this works

Sharing curiosity creates connection. This question helps you understand their ongoing discovery of each other and creates optimistic conversation.

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What are your thoughts on supporting each other's goals and dreams?

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Why this works

Understanding their approach to support helps you connect with them. This question helps you understand their partnership dynamics and creates thoughtful conversation.

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What's something you love about your partner's personality?

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Why this works

Celebrating personality traits creates positive energy. This question helps you understand what they value about each other and creates uplifting conversation.

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What advice would you give to other couples considering engagement?

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Why this works

Engaged couples offer valuable guidance. Their advice provides practical wisdom for relationships and helps you understand their perspective on love and commitment.

Engaged Couple Conversation Guide

Expert tips and techniques for getting the most out of these questions.

Engaged Couple Conversation Best Practices

Be Celebratory and Positive

Approach the conversation with celebration and positivity. Engaged couples are in a joyful time and appreciate enthusiastic support for their relationship.

Ask About Their Love Story

Show genuine interest in their love story and relationship. Ask thoughtful questions that demonstrate you care about their journey together.

Be Respectful of Their Relationship

Respect their relationship and boundaries. Don't ask intrusive questions or make assumptions about their relationship dynamics.

Question Sequences

The Love Story Series

1
How did you two meet and what was your first impression of each other?
2
What's your favorite thing about your partner?
3
How did the proposal happen and what was your reaction?
4
What's the most romantic thing you've done for each other?

The Future Planning Series

1
What are you most excited about for your wedding day?
2
What are your hopes and dreams for your future together?
3
What are you most looking forward to about being married?
4
What are your thoughts on creating traditions as a couple?

Common Pitfalls

Don't Ask About Sensitive Topics

Avoid asking about past relationships, financial details, or other sensitive topics. Focus on positive aspects of their relationship and future together.

Avoid Negative Questions

Don't ask about problems or negative aspects of their relationship. Focus on positive questions that celebrate their love and commitment.

Don't Ignore Their Responses

Pay attention to their answers and ask follow-up questions. This shows you're listening and care about their relationship.

Conversation Templates

The Love Story Celebration

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Step 1: Start with: "How did you two meet and what was your first impression of each other?"
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Step 2: Follow with: "What's your favorite thing about your partner?"
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Step 3: Explore with: "How did the proposal happen and what was your reaction?"
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Step 4: Celebrate with: "What's the most romantic thing you've done for each other?"

The Future Planning

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Step 1: Begin with: "What are you most excited about for your wedding day?"
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Step 2: Investigate with: "What are your hopes and dreams for your future together?"
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Step 3: Explore with: "What are you most looking forward to about being married?"
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Step 4: Plan with: "What advice would you give to other couples considering engagement?"

Further Reading

"The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work" by John Gottman
"Before You Say I Do" by H. Norman Wright
"The Marriage Preparation Workbook" by Les and Leslie Parrott

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