Questions to Ask Your Spirit Guides
48 questions for sitting with your spirit guides and angels, or for bringing to a reader: a daily check-in, questions about who they are and how they signal, harder ones about what you are avoiding, and a group to ask during a spirit guide reading. Includes notes on telling an impression apart from your own commentary, and when to set the practice down.
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The questions
Each question, and why to ask it
Daily check-in
What do I most need to know today?
Why ask it
The standard daily opener, and the narrow window is what makes it work. Asking about today keeps the answer small enough to act on, while asking about your whole life tends to return something you have already read somewhere.
What should I be paying attention to this week?
Why ask it
A week is short enough to check. Write the answer down and look at it on Sunday, because comparing what came to what happened is how you learn to tell an impression from wishful thinking.
Guides and angels
What name would you like me to use for you?
Why ask it
The answer may be a name, an image, or simply a quality rather than a word. Whatever arrives, using it consistently makes the practice feel less like talking into an empty room.
How long have you been with me?
Why ask it
Expect something tied to an age or an event rather than a date. If nothing comes, leave it and ask again another day instead of filling the gap in yourself.
What was happening in my life when you first came to me?
Why ask it
This usually points to a difficult stretch, which is worth sitting with. The useful part is noticing which era you were sent back to, whatever you make of the answer.
Are you a guide, an angel, or someone I once knew?
Why ask it
People use these three words differently, and traditions disagree about where one ends and the next begins. Take whichever word arrives and write it down uncorrected, then use the same one at your next sitting.
Is there an angel with me as well as my guides, and how will I tell you apart?
Why ask it
One for anyone who grew up with a guardian angel and came to spirit guides later, since the two pictures can sit awkwardly together. A difference you can feel, company from one and protection from the other, will serve you better than a definition.
Which of you should I turn to for what?
Why ask it
Helps once your questions feel scattered between guides, angels and anyone else you address. A plain division, comfort here and instruction there, settles who you are speaking to before you sit down.
What sign will you give me so I know it's you?
Why ask it
Ask for something specific and slightly unusual, and settle it in advance. A common bird or a repeated number proves nothing, because you will start finding it whether or not you were looking.
What have you been showing me that I keep missing?
Why ask it
Assumes you have been ignoring something, which is usually true. The answer tends to be mundane and slightly irritating: a symptom, an unanswered message, someone you keep cancelling on.
What was last night's dream about?
Why ask it
Ask before you look up any symbols. Your first association is more useful than a dictionary meaning, and it ties the dream to whatever you were actually dealing with that week.
How do you usually try to get my attention?
Why ask it
Most people, asked this, can name their own pattern within a minute: a phrase that repeats, a physical sensation, a dream, the same stranger's remark twice in a week. Naming it makes the next month legible.
What have I been calling coincidence?
Why ask it
This asks you to reread recent events rather than request new ones. The useful outcome is a short list you can check against later, which keeps the practice honest instead of endlessly agreeable.
Looking inward
What am I ready to let go of?
Why ask it
Broad enough to answer and narrow enough to act on, which is more than can be said for asking what is blocking you. If a person's name comes up, the instruction is usually about a habit rather than the person.
Where am I giving my energy away?
Why ask it
Tends to produce a list rather than one answer: an obligation, an unpaid job, a friendship that only runs one direction. Notice which item makes you flinch, because that is the one you already knew.
What am I carrying that isn't mine?
Why ask it
A question about inherited weight: a parent's anxiety, a family's expectations, somebody else's shame. The answer often arrives as a scene from childhood rather than as a sentence.
What am I pretending not to know about the decision I'm avoiding?
Why ask it
The one question here that most reliably produces something uncomfortable, because you already hold the answer. Phrasing it this way removes the option of pretending otherwise.
What am I afraid of that I haven't admitted to myself?
Why ask it
The fear under a decision is usually more specific than the decision: being visible, being poor, being left, being ordinary. A general answer means you stopped one step short.
Which relationship needs my attention right now?
Why ask it
Expect a name you were not thinking about. It is often an easy relationship rather than a difficult one, which is the point, since the neglected ones are usually the low-maintenance ones.
What do I need to forgive, in myself or in someone else?
Why ask it
Take the first half first. An answer that goes straight to somebody else's behavior is usually a way around your own part, and the sitting loses its use at that point.
What gift of mine am I wasting?
Why ask it
Sharper than asking what your gifts are, because it presumes an answer you will not enjoy. What surfaces is normally something you are good at and have written off as impractical.
What does my work in this life look like from where you stand?
Why ask it
A calmer version of asking about your purpose, and it returns something smaller and more usable. Grand answers about saving the world are usually your own ambition talking back to you.
Where am I resisting something that is already changing?
Why ask it
Resistance is easier to feel than to name, and naming it tends to produce something concrete: a conversation postponed, a habit defended, a decision left open. If nothing comes, consider what you would not want a friend to ask about.
What lesson keeps returning until I learn it?
Why ask it
Patterns repeat because something in them is being served, often comfort or the avoidance of a risk. Look for the same situation with different people in it, which is the clue that the constant factor is you.
Which of the things I am worried about will not matter in a year?
Why ask it
Sorting the temporary from the durable is one of the few reliable ways to reduce urgency without pretending everything is fine. Whatever survives the test deserves the rest of the session.
What is my body telling me that I've been ignoring?
Why ask it
Guidance that never reaches the body stays theoretical. Naming something physical keeps the session tied to something you can check tomorrow rather than only reflect on: a clenched jaw, tight shoulders, broken sleep, no appetite.
What would peace look like in this particular situation?
Why ask it
Peace in the abstract is easy to want and impossible to act on. Insisting on the specific case forces a description clear enough that you would recognise it if it arrived.
What support is already here that I haven't accepted?
Why ask it
Most people can list what they lack faster than what they have been offered and declined. Answers here are often mundane: a standing invitation, a friend who asked twice, help refused out of pride.
Where am I making this harder than it is?
Why ask it
Answers here tend to be practical to the point of being disappointing: make the call, drop the second job, tell them no. Disappointing is a good sign, because wish fulfilment rarely sounds this plain.
Who in my life am I misjudging?
Why ask it
Expect a name you did not want. The follow-up worth asking is whether you are misjudging them upward or downward, since the two mistakes cost you in completely different ways.
Where am I acting out of fear and calling it prudence?
Why ask it
Fear dressed as caution is the most durable kind of avoidance because it sounds responsible. Test the answer by asking what evidence would change your mind, and whether you have looked for any.
What am I not asking because I'm afraid of the answer?
Why ask it
The absence itself is information. Whatever surfaces here is usually the real subject of the session, and it often points at something you have already half-decided.
What am I not ready to hear yet?
Why ask it
Ask it and then do not chase the answer. Knowing that something is being held rather than withheld often settles the anxiety that made you sit down in the first place.
Whose voice am I mistaking for my own?
Why ask it
Inherited judgements can sound exactly like conscience. Putting a name to the voice makes it possible to disagree with it rather than simply obey: a parent, an old teacher, a former partner.
What would I do if I trusted that I was supported?
Why ask it
This is a hypothetical you can act on. It separates what you want from what caution has been vetoing, and the answer is frequently smaller and more ordinary than expected.
What is this hard season asking of me?
Why ask it
Ask this without assuming the difficulty was arranged for your benefit. The useful version of the answer is about what you are being asked to put down, not about what you are being punished for.
To close
What would you have me do differently tomorrow morning?
Why ask it
Ends the sitting with an instruction rather than a theme. If what comes cannot be done before lunch, ask again for something you can actually carry out.
What should I stop asking you for?
Why ask it
Turns the practice back on itself. The honest answer is often certainty, permission, or a guarantee about an outcome, and no practice supplies any of the three.
What can I do for someone else this week?
Why ask it
Closes by pointing outward after a long stretch of looking inward. Keep the answer to one act you can finish this week, or it becomes another intention you never carried out.
What is the question I should have asked instead of this one?
Why ask it
A closing question that reliably produces the session's real material. If your list has been circling the same subject all afternoon, this is where the thing underneath it tends to finally surface.
In a reading
May I record this reading, or take notes as we go?
Why ask it
Put this to the reader before anything else. A reading can only be checked against a record, and what you remember a month on leans toward the parts you liked.
Which of my guides is coming through right now?
Why ask it
A fair opener during a spirit guide reading, because it asks the reader to commit to a description before you have said much about yourself. Note what you are given, an age, a manner, a way of speaking, and whether it holds steady for the rest of the hour.
How many guides are with me, and what does each one help with?
Why ask it
Some readers describe a small group in place of a single figure. The number matters less than the roles, so ask for one concrete area per guide and mark any that match what you had already sensed on your own.
What do my guides want me to know that I haven't thought to ask?
Why ask it
Hands over the agenda for a minute, which is the one thing a reader can offer that a solo sitting cannot. Judge it afterwards by whether it named anything you had not already told the room.
What exactly did you see or hear, before you interpreted it?
Why ask it
Addressed to the reader, not the guides. An image of a locked gate is one thing and being told you feel stuck at work is another, and you are entitled to the image so you can make your own sense of it.
When I ask on my own at home, what gets in the way of hearing them?
Why ask it
Uses the reading to improve the sittings you do alone. A good answer is practical, such as asking five things at once or only sitting down when you are upset, and you can test it the same week.
Is there anything coming through that you would rather not pass on?
Why ask it
Readers filter, sometimes from kindness and sometimes from caution. This gives them permission to say the awkward thing, and you can still decide how much weight it deserves once you have slept on it.
How can I keep in contact with them myself after today?
Why ask it
Shows how the reader sees their own role. One who teaches you a simple method is working to be needed less, while one who says the connection only runs through them is describing a subscription.
Sitting with these questions
Practical guidance for the conversation itself
Setting up a sitting
- Same time, same place, ten minutes. Consistency does more for this practice than candles, crystals or any particular setting.
- Keep a pen and paper rather than a phone. Writing by hand slows you down enough to notice what arrives before you start editing it.
- Ask out loud if you are alone. Speaking a question commits you to its exact wording, which is harder to do silently.
- One question per sitting. Stacking four means the first answer colors the rest.
Asking so you get something usable
- Open questions only. Yes-or-no questions return whatever you were already leaning toward.
- Ask about now rather than later. Requests for predictions produce vague material that cannot be checked and cannot be acted on.
- If an answer is abstract, ask once more for the next concrete step. Themes are easy to receive and easy to ignore.
- Do not ask the same question repeatedly in one week. Repetition after a clear answer is bargaining rather than listening.
Telling an impression from your own commentary
- Date every question and answer, and read them back a month later. The ones that were right about something you did not yet know are the ones worth weight.
- Watch the tone. Anything contemptuous, or anything that keeps telling you that you are chosen, is usually your own voice on a bad day or a vain one.
- Be suspicious of answers that arrive in the exact vocabulary of whatever you read last night.
- Ambiguity that later resolves into what you wanted is not confirmation. Write the prediction down before you go looking for the sign.
During a spirit guide reading
- Choose two or three questions before you arrive and put the one that matters most first. The time goes faster than you expect.
- Give the reader your question and leave out the backstory. The less you supply, the more weight anything specific that comes back can carry.
- Ask what the reader received before you ask what it means, and write the two down separately.
- Price, length and what a reader will or will not cover differ from one to the next, so ask how they work before you book. A reader who wants more money to clear a block or lift a curse is a reason to leave.
When to set the practice down
- Any guidance telling you to hand over money, cut off your family, leave a job overnight or stop a prescribed treatment. Take it to a person you trust before you act.
- If the guidance has become commanding rather than suggesting, or you cannot stop the contact when you want to, that is worth raising with a doctor. It is a plain conversation to have and it commits you to nothing.
- If sittings leave you frightened or unable to sleep, stop for a few weeks. A practice that is doing you good does not cost you rest.
- Grief makes this practice more intense and more persuasive. If you have been recently bereaved, keep the sittings short and keep other people close.