Who Knows Me Better Questions
For the who knows me better game, also played as how well do you know me: one person takes the middle, friends, family or a partner answer questions about them, and the person in the middle reveals the truth. Every question is written in the first person so you can read it out as it stands, sorted into favorites, habits, history, would I, hard ones and a set for couples. Each has a note on how to score it or what the wrong answers tend to show.
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Favorites
“What is my go-to order at a coffee shop?”
Why ask it
Full marks for the drink, with a bonus point for the size and any fussy extras. Anyone who has stood in line with you should get it, so a miss shows who has only ever seen you at home.
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The questions
Each question, and why to ask it
Favorites
What is my go-to order at a coffee shop?
Why ask it
Full marks for the drink, with a bonus point for the size and any fussy extras. Anyone who has stood in line with you should get it, so a miss shows who has only ever seen you at home.
What is my favorite color, and do I own anything in it?
Why ask it
Score the color and the second half separately. Guessers tend to name the color you wear most, which is often not the one you would paint a room.
Which meal would I ask for on my birthday?
Why ask it
Accept a dish or a restaurant, since some people think in places. Relatives usually answer with the childhood favorite and friends with the current one, and each can be right about a different decade.
What is my favorite season, and what do I say about it every year?
Why ask it
The season alone is close to a coin flip, so make the quote the real test. Whoever can deliver your first-cold-morning speech, or your first-warm-evening one, nearly word for word gets the point.
Which movie have I watched more times than any other?
Why ask it
Exact title only. The tempting guess is the film you recommend to other people, and the right answer is often the one you put on when nobody else gets a vote.
Which snack do I go for first at a party?
Why ask it
Sweet or salty gets half a point and the exact bowl gets the full one. Anyone who has hosted you can answer, which makes it a fair early question for a mixed room.
What is my favorite holiday, and which part of it matters most to me?
Why ask it
Nearly everyone gets the holiday. The second half separates them: the food, the morning, one particular tradition. Family has the edge, so follow it with a question friends are better placed to win.
Which song do I always turn up when it comes on?
Why ask it
Let players sing a line instead of naming it, and give the point for either. If three people shout the same title at once, call it a draw and move on.
What ice cream flavor do I order when nobody is judging?
Why ask it
The phrasing matters, because plenty of people have a public flavor and a real one. Before the reveal, offer everyone one chance to change their answer, and watch who takes it.
Which TV show could I quote from memory?
Why ask it
A point for the show and a bonus for a line delivered in your voice. Roommates and siblings usually win, having heard the quotes against their will.
What do I want on a pizza, and what would I pick off?
Why ask it
Two answers, two points. Whoever orders for the group should get both, and if they miss the second you have found out why your slice keeps arriving wrong.
Which store could I wander around for an hour without buying anything?
Why ask it
Hardware, books, stationery, plants: the answer shows what you daydream about. Ask the winner how long they have been left waiting outside it.
What is my favorite smell?
Why ask it
Rarely said out loud, so the point goes to people who listen closely. Take the general family, such as baking or rain or cut grass, for a half point.
What is my favorite animal?
Why ask it
A good one when kids are playing, since they can answer as confidently as the adults. Younger players often name their own favorite, which is worth a laugh and no points.
What do I like to wear when I have nowhere to be?
Why ask it
Players have to describe one specific item, down to the color or the hole in the sleeve. Vague answers like 'something comfy' score nothing.
Which board game or card game do I always vote for?
Why ask it
Ask the follow-up straight away: do you vote for it because you love it or because you win? The group will have a firmer opinion on that than you do.
Where is my favorite place to sit at home?
Why ask it
Only people who have visited can answer, so it quietly shows who has been over and who is overdue an invitation. Award the point for the exact seat and not just the room.
What is my ideal breakfast on a slow morning?
Why ask it
Not the weekday version eaten standing up. Ask for the whole plate and the drink beside it, and give half to a guess that gets the food and misses the drink.
What is my favorite place I have ever visited?
Why ask it
Count it only if they name the place you would name, not the trip with the best photos. After the reveal, say in one sentence why it won, because the reason is usually news to somebody.
Which book, show or band have I pushed on the most people?
Why ask it
Hands up if you were one of those people. The honest scoring question is who actually took the recommendation, and that deserves a bonus point.
Habits
Am I a morning person or a night owl, and when do I really get up on a day off?
Why ask it
The first half is easy, so score the time, closest wins. People who text you early know the answer better than people who only see you at dinner.
What is the first thing I do when I walk in the door at home?
Why ask it
Shoes off, fridge open, straight to the dog. The people you live with should sweep it, and if they disagree with each other, let them argue it out before you rule.
What do I lose most often?
Why ask it
Give the bonus for naming where it usually turns up. A wrong answer mostly means that person has never been asked to help look, so recruit them next time.
Which app do I open first when I pick up my phone?
Why ask it
Check your screen time for the reveal if you are not sure yourself. Being wrong about your own answer counts as a point for whoever guessed right.
What do I do when I am nervous?
Why ask it
A tell you may not know you have: the bouncing leg, the hair, the sudden tidying. Listen more than you score, since the group can see something you cannot.
If I say I will be there at seven, what time do I arrive?
Why ask it
Closest to the truth wins, and the truth is whatever your friends say it is. If every guess lands on the same side of seven, you have your answer.
What do I hum or sing when I think nobody is listening?
Why ask it
Reveal it as a performance and see who winces in recognition. If you honestly do not know your own answer, whoever shares your kitchen is the judge for this round.
Which emoji do I use the most?
Why ask it
Have everyone draw it or hold it up on their own phone at the same moment. Then open your keyboard's recent list, which settles it without debate.
How many alarms do I set to get up?
Why ask it
A number question, so play it closest without going over. The follow-up is how many of them you sleep through, and whoever has shared a room with you gets to answer that.
What do I pack for every trip, even a one-night one?
Why ask it
Skip the obvious items like a toothbrush. The point goes to whoever names the odd one: the pillow from home, the specific snack, the backup of a backup.
How do I answer the phone?
Why ask it
Ask for impressions. The greeting changes depending on who is calling, so let each player do the version they get, and enjoy how different they are.
What do I say so often that you could do an impression of it?
Why ask it
Count how many different phrases come back. One shared answer means you have a catchphrase, and five different answers means you have five.
Which chore do I not mind, and which would I trade anything to avoid?
Why ask it
Score each half. The chore you dodge is the easy guess. The one you quietly like is the half that even the people you live with get wrong.
What is my usual excuse for leaving a party early?
Why ask it
Funniest when you are known for a quiet exit. Award the point for the exact wording, and consider retiring the excuse now that everyone has heard it.
What face do I make in almost every photo?
Why ask it
Answers are acted, not spoken, and all at the same moment. Scroll back through a few group pictures to settle it, and do not expect the pictures to take your side.
What is my comfort food after a rough day?
Why ask it
The dish counts, and so does where it comes from: one takeout place, a parent's recipe, the back of the freezer. Whoever has turned up with it unasked gets the point even if the details are a little off.
How do I react when I lose a game?
Why ask it
Brothers, sisters and cousins have years of evidence, so it is a strong pick when family is playing. Keep your face neutral during the answers, or you will make their case for them.
What can I not leave the house without?
Why ask it
Phone, keys and wallet are banned as answers. What is left is the lip balm, the water bottle, the headphones, and that is where the points are.
What never fails to make me laugh?
Why ask it
It might be a person, a clip or one old story told the same way every time. Let the winner prove it by trying it on you, and score it only if you crack.
How fast do I reply to a text, and who gets the quickest answer?
Why ask it
Expect accusations. Let each player claim to be the fastest and make them back it up by scrolling through their messages, then give the point to the best evidence.
History
Where was I born, and where did I mostly grow up?
Why ask it
Two places for a lot of people, and newer friends often know only one. Take the city for the point and the hospital or neighborhood for a bonus that relatives will collect.
What was my first job?
Why ask it
The first paid one, however small: babysitting and mowing lawns count. After the reveal, tell the group what it paid, because nobody ever guesses that part.
What did I want to be when I was seven?
Why ask it
Parents and older relatives hold the answer, and it is often a surprise to friends who know only the adult. Ask whoever wins how close they think you ended up.
What nickname did my family call me growing up?
Why ask it
Read this one out only if you are happy to hear the nickname again all evening. The point is for the name, and the bonus goes to whoever knows which relative started it.
What pet did I have, or beg for, as a kid?
Why ask it
Either the animal you had or the one you campaigned for is a correct answer. Leave the pet's name out of any version of the game that gets posted online.
Which school subject was my best, and which did I dread?
Why ask it
Old classmates and siblings will get both halves. Everyone else tends to guess from what you do now, and that guess is wrong often enough to be interesting.
What was in my lunchbox most days at school?
Why ask it
Whoever packed it wins, and may still be a little tired of making it. Friends from school score if they remember what you traded away.
What sport, instrument or club did I quit as a kid?
Why ask it
There is nearly always one, and often a parent who still mentions what the equipment cost. Bonus point for knowing how long you lasted.
What is the worst haircut I have ever had?
Why ask it
Answers must include the era. If someone can produce a photo, they win outright, and it is up to you whether it gets passed around the table.
What was the first concert or live show I went to?
Why ask it
Give a hint if nobody is close: the year, or who took you. The first show you admit to and the first one you attended can be different, so decide which you are scoring.
Have I ever broken a bone, and how did it happen?
Why ask it
Yes or no gets nothing. The point is for the story, and it goes to the person whose version is closest to yours, even if yours has been polished over the years.
What was the first big thing I saved up my own money to buy?
Why ask it
It shows what mattered to you at ten or fifteen. People who met you as an adult are guessing blind, so give them a clue about the decade.
What is the farthest I have ever been from home?
Why ask it
Settle disputes with a map. A wrong answer is often a trip you took before you knew the person, which is a good excuse to tell them about it.
Who was my best friend when I was little?
Why ask it
A first name is enough. If that friend happens to be in the room, they sit out and act as judge.
What was I completely obsessed with at age twelve?
Why ask it
Siblings answer with real feeling, having heard the same album or the same facts through a bedroom wall for a year. Ask what finally replaced it.
Who was my first celebrity crush?
Why ask it
A brother or sister remembers the posters and will answer before you finish asking. Friends who arrived later can only guess from your taste now, so give them the decade as a hint.
Which costume of mine still gets talked about?
Why ask it
Could be a school play, a party or a holiday. Give the point to whoever remembers what went wrong with it, since something usually did.
How many different homes have I lived in?
Why ask it
Guesses first, then list the homes in order out loud. You will probably have to count on your fingers, so the group gets to watch you find the true answer along with them.
What did I get in trouble for as a kid that still comes up at family dinners?
Why ask it
Family will rush to answer, and each relative may pick a different incident. Let them tell it, correct only the facts, and score whoever picked the one you had in mind.
What did I call my favorite stuffed animal or blanket?
Why ask it
Close to impossible for anyone outside the family. If a friend gets it, find out how they know, because you clearly told them something personal once and forgot.
Where were we the first time we met, as I remember it?
Why ask it
Each player answers for their own first meeting, so everyone has a fair shot. Your memory and theirs will not always match, and you score against yours only because it is your turn in the middle.
Would I
Would I spend a free Friday night out with people or home on the couch?
Why ask it
A coin flip on paper, so nearly everyone should score. Two people who are sure of opposite answers have probably met different versions of you, and it is worth working out which one is current.
For a week away, would I choose a beach, the mountains or a city?
Why ask it
Three options keep it from being a lucky guess. Ask the winner to name what you would do there on day one, for a bonus.
Would I take the last slice or offer it around first?
Why ask it
The table votes, then you answer honestly. If the room is unanimous and you disagree, the room is right and everyone gets the point.
Would I ever jump out of a plane with a parachute?
Why ask it
Give three answer choices: yes, never, or only if someone else booked it. The third option is where a lot of the correct answers turn out to be.
Would I read the instructions or just start building?
Why ask it
Have people also guess how it ends: finished, finished with parts left over, or abandoned. That second guess is the one worth a point.
If a restaurant brought me the wrong order, would I send it back or eat it quietly?
Why ask it
Dinner companions have seen this happen. If the guesses split, the people who said 'send it back' and the people who said 'eat it' have probably each watched you do exactly that, in different company.
Would I rather give a speech to a hundred people or sing karaoke for ten?
Why ask it
Neither is not an answer. People tend to assume a talkative person wants the microphone, and here that assumption gets tested.
If I found a hundred dollars in an old coat, what would I do with it?
Why ask it
Saving it, spending it the same day and treating someone else are three different guesses, so make each player commit to one before you say which is true.
Which superpower would I pick if I could have just one?
Why ask it
Kids answer faster than the adults here and are often closer. Make the guessers add what you would use it for first, because skipping traffic and hearing what the dog thinks are very different people.
Would I deliver big news with a call or a text?
Why ask it
Check it against real events: how did each person in the room hear your last piece of big news? The evidence is on their phones.
Would I choose a dog, a cat, both or neither?
Why ask it
Simple enough for the youngest player, and a fair tiebreaker for that reason. Award the point only for the exact option, since 'both' and 'dog' are very different households.
Could I go a week without my phone, and what would I miss first?
Why ask it
The yes or no is opinion and scores nothing. What you would miss first is the real question: maps, music, one group chat, the camera.
Would I ride the biggest roller coaster in the park or hold everyone's bags?
Why ask it
Good with families, because kids get to rule on a grown-up's courage. Anyone who has been to a park with you may testify.
Would I cry at a movie, and what kind sets me off?
Why ask it
Some players will say never, and they should prepare to be wrong. The specific trigger earns the point: animals, reunions, a goodbye at a train station.
On vacation, would I plan every day or wake up and decide?
Why ask it
Travel partners know, and they have feelings about it. Let them answer last, after the guesses from people who have only seen the photos.
What would I do about a spider in the bathtub?
Why ask it
Offer three options: rescue it with a cup, call for help, or shut the door and use another bathroom. Acting out the answer is allowed and encouraged.
Would I take the window seat or the aisle?
Why ask it
Quick, binary and oddly revealing, since most people know their own answer and have never told anyone. Use it to speed up a game that has slowed down.
Would I return the shopping cart in the pouring rain?
Why ask it
A small test of character played for laughs. If the guesses split, describe what you did the last time it rained, and let that stand as the answer.
If I won a free class, would I pick cooking, dancing, painting or a language?
Why ask it
Four choices, one point. The wrong answers show what people think you wish you could do, and one of them may be a good gift idea.
Hard ones
Without looking at me, what color are my eyes?
Why ask it
Close your eyes or turn around before anyone answers. People who have known you for years can still miss it, and nobody enjoys finding that out.
What is my middle name, and how do I spell it?
Why ask it
Written answers only, since spelling is the trap. Half a point for the name said correctly and the other half for getting every letter.
What is my shoe size?
Why ask it
Closest wins, and half sizes count. Whoever has borrowed your shoes or bought you a pair has an unfair advantage and should be allowed to enjoy it.
How tall am I, to the inch?
Why ask it
Use closest without going over. The reveal is whatever your last measurement said, not the number you round up to in conversation.
What time of day was I born?
Why ask it
Really a question for parents, and a kind one to include when a mother or father is playing against your friends. Morning, afternoon or night is close enough for the point.
How many first cousins do I have?
Why ask it
Exact number or nothing, and relatives may not count on their fingers out loud. Friends usually guess low, having met only the cousins who come to things.
What is my zodiac sign?
Why ask it
Anyone who knows your birthday can work it out, so give them ten seconds and no phones. Whether you believe in it is a separate argument for after the game.
What picture is on my lock screen right now?
Why ask it
Phone face down before the question is read. It changes often enough that last month's answer is wrong, so the point tends to go to whoever saw you most recently.
When is my birthday, and what day of the week does it fall on this year?
Why ask it
The date is the minimum, and anyone who misses it should be teased gently and briefly. The weekday is the real question, since it shows who has already started thinking about plans.
What is the one food I refuse to eat, however it is cooked?
Why ask it
Dislike, not allergy. People who cook for you should get it, and anyone who has been serving you that food for years is about to learn something.
What am I most irrationally afraid of?
Why ask it
Keep it to the harmless kind: moths, escalators, balloons popping. Nobody should use the answer afterward, and it is worth saying so before the reveal.
What is my biggest pet peeve?
Why ask it
Expect each player to name the one they personally set off. If the answers are all different and all true, you may have more peeves than you thought.
What can I do that most people here have never seen me do?
Why ask it
A hidden skill: juggling, a cartwheel, reading music, wiggling your ears. A demonstration is the reveal, and one right guess in the whole room is a normal result.
Which three words would I pick to describe myself?
Why ask it
Write your three down before anyone guesses, or you will be talked into theirs. One point per matching word, then read out the words several players chose and you did not, since that is how you come across.
What sits at the top of my bucket list?
Why ask it
Guesses often describe what the guesser would want for you. Score against what you have really said you want, and note which wrong answer you liked better than your own.
What am I proudest of having done?
Why ask it
Guessers reach for the diploma or the job title, and the true answer is often something smaller that took longer. Tell the story after the reveal, since a wrong guess here is still a compliment.
What job would I do if pay did not matter?
Why ask it
People who have heard you complain on a Sunday night tend to know. If the correct answer surprises the person who knows you best, tell them more about it later.
What am I looking forward to most this month?
Why ask it
Current knowledge, not history, so a new friend can beat an old one. That makes it a useful leveler when one player is running away with the score.
If I had one minute to grab a single object from home, with everyone already safe, what would it be?
Why ask it
The answer is usually sentimental and not valuable. Whoever gets it right has been told the story behind the object, so ask them to tell it.
Who would I call first with very good news?
Why ask it
Skip it if two people in the room would each expect to be the answer, because nobody needs a ranking read out at a party. It is fair game when a partner and a best friend already joke about it.
Which number do I pick whenever I have to pick one?
Why ask it
Jersey number, raffle ticket, favorite seat. Pure memory with no way to reason toward it, so it works as a tiebreaker: closest to the number wins.
For couples
Where did we go on our first date, and what did I order?
Why ask it
The place is the easy half. Remembering the order earns the bonus point, and remembering it wrong with total confidence is the more common result.
What was I wearing the first time you saw me?
Why ask it
Any detail counts: a color, a jacket, the shoes. If you cannot remember what your partner was wearing either, call it even.
What was my first impression of you, as I tell it now?
Why ask it
Your partner is guessing your version of the story, not giving theirs. Trade places afterward, since the two accounts rarely line up and the difference is the fun part.
Which side of the bed is mine, and what happens if you take it?
Why ask it
The side is a free point. The second half should be answered with an impression of you finding out.
What do I call you when I want a favor?
Why ask it
A pet name, a full name, a particular tone of voice. Your partner will know at once, and will probably add what the favor usually is.
How can you tell I am about to fall asleep?
Why ask it
There is a sign, and you are the one person who has never seen it. Take their word for the answer and give them the point.
What would my ideal date night be, start to finish?
Why ask it
Score three parts: where, what you eat, and what time you want to be home. Two out of three is a pass, and a miss on all three is a planning opportunity.
Which gift from you do I use the most?
Why ask it
It is often the small practical one and not the big occasion present. Say so if it is, because gift-givers remember what was expensive and forget what was right.
What would I say is our song?
Why ask it
A split answer is not a miss here: it means there are two songs. Put both on and forget the scoring for a minute.
Which date do I count as our anniversary?
Why ask it
Day and month for the point. Couples with more than one candidate, such as the first date, the day it became official or the wedding, should agree which one is meant before anyone answers.
Which chore do I believe I do better than you?
Why ask it
Loading the dishwasher is a common battleground. Your partner scores for naming the chore and is allowed one sentence of rebuttal, no more.
Which of us would I say is the better driver?
Why ask it
Each of you writes a name and holds it up together. Two cards with the same name is a point. Two cards that both say 'me' is the usual result and settles nothing.
What do I choose when it is my turn to pick the takeout?
Why ask it
As close to a free point as a couple gets. A wrong answer suggests you do not get your turn very often, and that is worth raising.
Which of your friends or relatives do I get along with best?
Why ask it
Kind to the person named and less kind to the relatives who are not, so save it for home if the whole family is listening. Have your partner say why they think so.
What trip do I keep bringing up that we have not taken yet?
Why ask it
If your partner answers immediately, you have mentioned it enough. Use the moment to pick a month, since the game has already put the subject on the table.
Which show would I be upset to find you had watched ahead without me?
Why ask it
If you share a streaming account, there is probably one. A confession sometimes arrives with the answer, and it should cost a point.
Where were we when I first said I love you?
Why ask it
Place and rough date for full marks. If you remember the moment differently, compare versions gently, because neither of you was taking notes.
What small thing do you do that I always notice and thank you for?
Why ask it
A point they should be glad to win. If your partner cannot think of anything, the fair conclusion is that you have not been saying it out loud.
What would I name as the best day we have had so far?
Why ask it
Not the biggest day, the best one, and the two are often different. A good last question for a couple, because the answer tends to start a longer conversation than a game has room for.
How to play who knows me better
Practical guidance for the conversation itself
The basics
One person in the middle
The person in the middle reads a question about themselves, and everyone else writes an answer before anybody speaks. Answers go up at the same moment, then the person in the middle gives the true one. Writing first is the whole trick: once somebody has said a confident answer out loud, the rest of the room copies it.
The two-player showdown
The showdown version puts two people head to head to settle who knows a third person better: a best friend against a partner, a sibling against a parent, an old friend against a new one. Give each a small whiteboard or a pad of paper and have them hold their answers up together. Ten to fifteen questions is enough to find a winner.
Write your own answers first
Before the game, the person in the middle should go through the questions alone and note their answers. It stops a persuasive guess from changing the truth mid-game, and it takes care of the surprising number of questions where you do not know your own answer until you stop and think.
Keeping score
One point for a correct answer, a bonus point where a question has a second half, and closest wins on anything with a number. The person in the middle is the judge, and rulings on 'close enough' are final. Agree on that before the first question, because the arguments start early.
Choosing questions for the room
Friends
Friends know the current version of you best, so lean on Habits, Would I and Hard ones. History questions work as the difficult ones for friends who met you as an adult. If the group is mixed, with some people who have known you for ten years and some for ten months, alternate old and new questions so the same two people do not answer everything.
Family and siblings
Relatives clean up on History: the first job, the family nickname, what was in the lunchbox, what you got in trouble for. Brothers and sisters are best on anything competitive or embarrassing, such as how you lose a game, the worst haircut or the first celebrity crush. Add a few current questions, like the lock screen or what you are looking forward to this month, so that parents also find out something about the adult they raised.
Kids
Put the child in the middle and let the adults guess. Kids enjoy being the expert on themselves, and they take the judging seriously. Stay with Favorites and Would I, keep it to about ten questions, and let younger players draw their answers. At a birthday party, have the birthday child answer in advance and the guests guess in teams.
Couples
The For couples questions are written for two people, so take turns being the one who asks. They also suit a shower, an engagement party or an anniversary dinner, where one partner answers beforehand and the other guesses in front of the guests. With an audience, pick the questions that flatter both of you and leave the rest for home.
A funny round or a hard round
For laughs, pull the questions that get answered with an impression: how you answer the phone, the face you make in photos, your excuse for leaving a party early, the spider in the bathtub. For a hard round, start with eye color and the middle name, which catch people who have known you for years, then move to the number questions: height, shoe size, first cousins. Mix a few easy Favorites in between so that nobody sits on zero.
Keeping it friendly
When someone scores badly
A low score is not a ruling on the friendship. People know the version of you they spend time with: a coworker knows your lunch order and not your middle name, and a grandparent the reverse. Say so out loud when the gap opens up, and make the next question one that the person at the bottom is well placed to win.
When one player runs away with it
Switch to questions about this month instead of the last twenty years, since those give newer friends a chance. You can also make the final three questions worth double, which keeps everyone playing to the end without pretending the leader did not earn the lead.
Keep the answer sheet off the internet
Several classic questions in this game, such as the town you were born in, a childhood best friend, a first concert or a pet's name, are also what some accounts ask when you reset a password. They are fine said out loud among people who know you. If you film the game or post it as a public quiz, leave those out. This list skips the street you grew up on and a mother's maiden name for the same reason.
Let a wrong answer turn into a story
The best moments come after a miss, when the person in the middle explains what the real answer is and why. Leave time for that. Fifteen to twenty questions per person is plenty, and then somebody else takes the middle.