Fun Questions to Ask on Wedding RSVP
Twenty questions to print on your RSVP cards, ordered from quick tick boxes to the sentimental ones. Written for couples building a playlist, stocking a bar, working out seating, or collecting something to read aloud at the reception.
The questions
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What song will get you on the dance floor, no questions asked?
Why ask it
Asking for one song rather than a genre gets you titles a DJ can actually queue. Expect duplicates across the cards, and treat those repeats as your first hour, when the floor still needs filling.
What's your drink of choice at the bar?
Why ask it
Bar stocking is guesswork until you ask. The useful answers are the outliers: one guest who only drinks a particular spirit is a single bottle, not a whole extra category.
Cake or pie?
Why ask it
Costs a guest one tick and settles a dessert argument with a count instead of an opinion. It also warns you early if a large share of the room is not that interested in cake.
Coffee or tea?
Why ask it
Only worth the space if there is a morning after brunch or a late night urn. If there is, this is the difference between one pot of tea and a queue of twenty people waiting for it.
Beach vacation or mountain retreat?
Why ask it
A box this easy keeps people moving through the card, which matters when the real job is getting the RSVP posted back at all. Tallied up, it can become a welcome sign or a table naming theme.
Team bride or team groom, or are you claiming both?
Why ask it
This tells you which side of your life each guest arrived from, which helps seating more than a plain guest list does. The people who claim both are the ones to seat at the mixed tables.
What's your go-to karaoke song?
Why ask it
A different answer from the dance floor question: karaoke picks are what someone will happily sing badly, not what fills a room. Useful if there is an after party or a late slot to fill.
What's your signature dance move?
Why ask it
Silly on the card and quietly effective on the night. A guest who has written down a move has already decided they are dancing, and you now know who to pull up first.
What's your favorite love song?
Why ask it
This produces slow songs for dinner and a first dance shortlist rather than floor fillers. If the older guests keep naming the same one, play it early while they are still there.
What emoji best sums up your reaction to our invitation?
Why ask it
One character, almost no effort, and the results work as a sign-in board or photo wall. Skip it if your guest list skews older, because it tends to come back blank.
What's your hidden talent?
Why ask it
Answers here give your toast writers material and occasionally turn up a guest who can play piano during the drinks hour. People are braver in writing than they would ever be in person.
What's your favorite way to celebrate?
Why ask it
This is the question that tells you whether your crowd wants a late bar, a fire pit, or to be home by ten. Read the answers before you lock in an end time.
Would you rather a seated dinner or a cocktail-style reception?
Why ask it
Include this only if the format is genuinely still open, because asking implies you might act on it. If the venue is already booked, cut the question rather than collect opinions you cannot use.
What are you most looking forward to about the day?
Why ask it
You learn what people are actually coming for: the ceremony, the food, seeing one particular person. If the answers cluster around getting to talk to you, build a gap into the schedule for it.
What's the best wedding you've been to, and what made it work?
Why ask it
The second half is the part to read. Guests almost never name the flowers; they name being fed on time, a short ceremony, or knowing where to sit.
What's your favorite rom-com or love story?
Why ask it
Good material for a trivia round or table cards, and it costs a guest nothing to answer. Do not read much into it beyond what they were watching at nineteen.
What's your favorite memory of the two of us?
Why ask it
Asking for a memory rather than a compliment gets you a scene instead of an adjective. These are the answers a slideshow or a thank you speech ends up being built from.
If you had to describe our relationship in one word, what would it be?
Why ask it
One word fits the space a card allows, which is why these displays work at all. Several guests will write the same word, and that repetition is the point of the display.
What's one piece of marriage advice you'd give us?
Why ask it
You will get a mix of jokes and real advice, and both are usable, the jokes on the night and the rest later. The advice worth keeping is oddly specific, about money, in laws or separate blankets.
What's your wish for us as we start out?
Why ask it
A gentler close than advice, because it asks nothing of a guest who has no marriage of their own to draw on. Read these weeks after the wedding rather than during it; they hold up better than the photos.
Putting these on an RSVP card
Practical guidance for the conversation itself
Choosing what fits on the card
- Two to four questions is the ceiling for a standard reply card. Guests who see a full page of prompts put the card down and post it late or not at all.
- Pick one tick box, one playful line and at most one sentimental prompt. Two sentimental questions on one card gets you a blank on both.
- Leave a physically short answer line for the fun questions. A one inch line tells people you want a few words, not a paragraph, and nobody has to guess.
- Mark them optional in small type. Some guests find open prompts stressful, and the RSVP itself is the part you actually need.
- If you are collecting replies online, this is where the sentimental questions belong instead. A text box has no space limit and people type more than they write.
What to do with the answers
- 1Transcribe song requests into one list as the cards arrive, not the week before. Send it to whoever is running music with the duplicates flagged.
- 2Sort drink answers into categories rather than brands before you talk to the caterer. Six people naming different gins is one bottle of gin.
- 3Give memories and advice to whoever is writing a toast. They are far better material than anything a template will suggest.
- 4Set aside anything too personal to display. A memory written for you privately does not belong on a poster in the hallway.
What to leave off
- Anything requiring a long answer. Reply cards get filled in standing at a kitchen counter.
- Inside jokes that only your close friends will understand. Every guest reads the same card, and a confused answer is worse than none.
- Questions that touch money, why someone is single, or when they plan to have children. On a card, these read far worse than they would out loud.
- Prompts that assume a partner, children or a shared history with you. A colleague and a cousin are filling in the same box.
- Anything you have already decided. Asking guests about the format, the food or the venue after booking creates opinions you will only have to disappoint.