Questions to Ask Groom for Bachelorette Game
Questions for the guessing game at a bachelorette party: record the groom's answers in advance, then see how many the bride matches, with scoring notes for the host.
The questions
Open any question for the note
Who paid on our first date, and was that the plan?
Why ask it
An easy first round that both of them remember and often remember differently. Starting with a scoreable fact settles the room before the questions get personal.
What did she order on our first date?
Why ask it
Tests whether he was paying attention at the beginning rather than what he feels now. If he gets it, the room reacts; if he invents something, she will say so immediately.
Which of us is the better driver, and which of us thinks they are?
Why ask it
Two answers in one question, which doubles the chance of a mismatch. Long-term couples have a settled position on this and it is never the same position.
Who is more likely to be late, and by how many minutes?
Why ask it
The number is what makes it work as a game, because vague answers cannot be scored. It is also the safest of the mildly critical questions.
What is my most annoying habit, in her words?
Why ask it
Asking him to quote her, rather than confess, keeps it affectionate and makes it much harder to dodge. Guests can tell instantly whether he has actually heard the complaint before.
Which chore do I get out of, and how do I manage it?
Why ask it
The how is where the honesty is: waiting until she does it, or being visibly bad at it. Domestic and funny without touching anything sensitive.
What was the last thing we disagreed about, and who gave in?
Why ask it
Keeps to the last small argument rather than the worst one, which is the difference between a game and an ambush. Couples usually disagree about who conceded, and that is the point.
What song will get her onto a dance floor?
Why ask it
Easy to score, and if he is right the host can play it, which makes this the best question to put late in the game. Wrong answers are forgiven instantly.
Which of us is worse when we are ill?
Why ask it
A reliable laugh because almost every couple has a clear answer and one of them disputes it. Mild, universal, and it needs no backstory for guests to enjoy.
What did I tell my friends after our first date?
Why ask it
He is reporting his own past words, so it stays flattering while still being new information to her. Often the first time she hears what he actually said at the time.
What was going through my head during the proposal that I have never told her?
Why ask it
The one sincere question in the middle of the set, and worth placing halfway through as a change of pace. Expect logistics and nerves rather than poetry, which is why it works.
Who does she call first with news?
Why ask it
Fun in a room full of the likely candidates, since half the guests will lobby for themselves. His answer also reveals whether he knows he is not first, which is usually the joke.
What is the worst present I have ever given her?
Why ask it
Self-deprecating rather than a test of her taste, which keeps the target on him. Grooms who cannot name one have either been lucky or have not been listening.
What can she do that most people in this room do not know about?
Why ask it
Lets him show off on her behalf and gives the party something to demand a demonstration of. Point out beforehand that anything she would be embarrassed by does not count.
What do I do that she has definitely complained about to the people in this room?
Why ask it
The friends already know the answer, so his guess is scored by the loudest reaction rather than by her. Places him one step behind the room, which is the best position for him all night.
What is the argument we are going to keep having for the next thirty years?
Why ask it
Frames a recurring disagreement as a fixture rather than a problem, which is why couples answer it cheerfully. Thermostats, directions and how early to leave for an airport are the usual winners.
What is our most repeated conversation?
Why ask it
Sounds trivial and is often the most recognizable thing said all evening, because every couple has one. Good late in the game when guests are ready for something familiar.
What does she do that ends a fight instantly?
Why ask it
A question about repair rather than conflict, and his answer shows whether he has noticed how they recover. Quiet, warm, and best placed near the end.
What did I notice about her before she knew I was paying attention?
Why ask it
Gets a small, specific observation from early on, which she has usually never heard. Better than asking about first impressions, because it assumes he was watching.
What do I think she will say she loves most about me?
Why ask it
A double guess: his answer against her answer, which makes it the natural final round. Whoever is wrong, the last thing the room hears is the two of them describing each other.
Running the guessing game
Practical guidance for the conversation itself
Setting it up
Record him a week ahead
Ask the groom for a single video, phone propped up, one question at a time, first answer only. A week of lead time means you can go back for anything unusable, and it keeps him from workshopping his answers with her.
Pick ten, not twenty
A room stays with a guessing game for about fifteen minutes. Choose ten questions that suit the guests you actually have and keep the rest as spares in case a round falls flat.
Score in the open
One point per match, decided by the room rather than by the bride, and someone visibly keeping the tally. Games without a score drift into general chat after four questions.
Have a prize and a forfeit
Small and silly on both sides. Remember that the bride is the person paying any forfeit, so anything genuinely embarrassing lands on her rather than on the groom who got the answer wrong.
An order that keeps the room
Ten rounds
- 1Open with two facts that are easy to score: who paid, what she ordered.
- 2Move into the mild complaints: lateness, chores, the annoying habit.
- 3Put the proposal question in the middle as a change of pace.
- 4Bring the room back in with the ones the friends can answer too.
- 5Finish with what she loves most about him, then play the song he named.
What to cut before the party
- Anything about her body, her weight or how she looked when they met. It reads badly out loud and worse on video.
- Exes, on either side. No version of that answer improves the evening.
- Money: earnings, debts, who paid for the wedding.
- Anything about children, planned or not. It is a question that lands on people who have been asked it too often.
- Any question the bride has not agreed to in principle. Surprise is fine; being ambushed with a private detail is not.
- Anything you would not want a video of, since someone will be filming.
Variants if the groom is unavailable
Live on speakerphone
Works, but expect shorter answers and cross-talk. Agree a signal so he knows when to stop, and put the phone somewhere everyone can hear rather than passing it around.
Answers in writing
Send him the ten questions and read his replies aloud. Less funny than his voice, but it is easy to screen in advance and easy to keep for the couple afterwards.
Ask her side too
Record the bride separately on the same questions and play both. It turns a guessing game into two accounts of the same relationship, which usually gets the biggest reaction of the night.